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8 years ago
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✿❤✿ I find it very difficult to make friends irl (and online)...
Like how I started a new job, met a coworker who seemed pretty nice and then another new girl came in and now the two of them act like best friends, openly talking in front of me about how they’re gonna go to the other’s house and such..and I haven’t even been acknowledged much.
It’s hard for me to start conversations and keep them going, very difficult for me to try and be outgoing and extroverted...
This leaves me depressed and even more afraid to interact with people because I always have that stupid little feeling that I’m annoying someone or they think I’m too weird or stupid or they hate me and I hate this...
How the hell do I make friends?
Like how I started a new job, met a coworker who seemed pretty nice and then another new girl came in and now the two of them act like best friends, openly talking in front of me about how they’re gonna go to the other’s house and such..and I haven’t even been acknowledged much.
It’s hard for me to start conversations and keep them going, very difficult for me to try and be outgoing and extroverted...
This leaves me depressed and even more afraid to interact with people because I always have that stupid little feeling that I’m annoying someone or they think I’m too weird or stupid or they hate me and I hate this...
How the hell do I make friends?
The same thing happens to me, too. :( Someone else seems to always swoop in. I don't get how other girls can't seem to be friendly with more than one other female at a time, even in the same space. I prefer one-on-one interactions, too, but it's not that difficult to include someone (who's literally standing nearby). It's really off-putting.
irl, if I don’t talk to someone right away I’m 'quiet', 'aloof', 'stuck up', etc. (terms said to me [or said about me])
irl, when I open my mouth I’m 'weird', 'creepy', 'annoying', etc.
Online if I’m quiet, the conversation I try to have with people drops quickly because it’s usually a compliment (me trying to open up a bit and not bother anyone, just being nice) and then it kind of dies, even if they say thank you, because i will say 'you're welcome' and then i'll try to ask a question about the subject or something but it's just hard for me to stick to it not because of interest but because i can't find words i want to say, or when i say them, it comes out weird or crazy or who knows what...
so when i'm quiet: "aloof stuck up girl"
talkative: "whoa too weird, and you talk too much"
i can't find a middle ground. .... i'm sorry for this wall of text.
I think, though, that if someone is telling you that you're "weird" or whatever, then that's more the interpretation they have of you, rather than how you actually are. There's definitely nothing wrong with being quiet, either, because we can't all be talking at the same time. People come to their own conclusions, and you might not be their cup of tea, but that's their loss. :)