A thought I had last night talking to a friend to help them calm down and relax.

Too often we say "I wish I could go back and fix X" or " I wish I hadn't met/done/X". We want to go back and fix mistakes we made, put right all the wrong we've done.

But stop and think. Think about the things you've done since that thing happened. What you learned. Who you met. All those things happened because of one thing. If it hadn't happened, would you still have the same outcome? If you really did go back in time and stop yourself from doing/going/seeing X, what would happen to everything that happened as a result? Poof. Gone. Maybe the outcome would be different, sure, but would it really be the one you wanted?

Everything in life happens for a reason. People change, drift apart, point fingers. Accidents happen. Disasters happen.Nothing ever happens because some higher power said "Eh, I just wanna mess around with this guy for a bit".

It isn't about the problems and challenges you face.

It's about how you overcome them, learn from them, and get stronger from them.

Don't go back and try to fix mistakes, and don't try to prevent more from happening. There's really no such thing as a "mistake" if you look at it as just another thing that helps you become you.

Just some thoughts from Floof Mom.