My Unfriendly Quirks (For those trying to get to know me)
8 years ago
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TL;DR
Just be patient with me. It takes a lot for me to open up to anyone and actually show I have some form of emotions.
Alright, so I feel I should make something like this explaining how I am about friends, or rather people in general, since I do sometimes get people that approach me and actually want to get to know me but I'm sure I end up pushing them away because of my apparent personality. While the core of my personality is extremely kind and caring, as I would hope it would be for anyone, it takes A LOT for anyone to get to that part of me and, on the surface, I will ALWAYS appear distant and overall grumpy. However, this DOES NOT mean I don't want to talk to you or get to know you. It's just how I am with anyone I don't already consider a close friend. And even then I do that to them all the time. But they like it when I act like a grump who doesn't want attention so. With that said, if you don't like someone who doesn't bluntly say how much they care or always shower you with affection, you probably shouldn't try to be my friend in the first place because that's not my style. I will always care for my friends, but I'm not going to say it 24/7 as I see most would like for me to do.
The other problem with me is that I've never marked myself as a good conversationalist. I will always try to respond if I can, if a feel there's a response to actually be made that isn't just one word, but apart from that, in the fandom, I've always been a Weredragon of action. RP has been the thing I've lived for for a long while, before I eventually lost interest. So I always let my actions do the talking as I was a bit on the antisocial side of the spectrum. But that also mean, since I don't really RP anymore, it's near impossible for anyone to get close to me like how it was in the past. I'm trying to get back into the RP scene but my overall laziness and lack of motivation prevents me from doing so. But if you really want to keep me talking, you just gotta push for it and find something that peeks my interest for a conversation. (If you just try asking what I like, you'll likely get short-worded responses.)
My final quirk, that I don't really even think is an actual quirk but definitely something worth mentioning, and it's actually a two-parter note, when I am actually starting to befriend you, I don't expect for me to always be the one to have to approach you for a conversation or whatever. If it gets to this point, I will legit stop going to you first and wait for you to message me first. It's my weird way of seeing how much the other person actually cares, even though I know it's not the best way to go about things since everyone is different when it comes to interacting with others, as I've discovered over the years. But all the same, I don't want to feel as I'm the one doing all the work in a friendship scenario, if we're already close enough to be considered friends. The second part of this, if you approach me first and we don't know each other, don't expect for me to push a conversation forward because I won't. If you came to me, I assume you took some interest in me. So show me why you did and why I should want to be you friend and talk to you. Most of the time I get people that talk to me for maybe a few minutes, then they disappear when they see I'm not the most talkative person. Very few push past that. I take that as a sign that I wasn't worth your time in your eyes.
But yeah, these are the major quirks I have that prevent me from making friends. Just thought I'd make mention of them for the future people that try and get to know me, not that I expect it to help you on your quest of befriending this weird dragon-wolf-werewolf beast. But at least you'll know what to expect so. Do I expect to even get more friends by this point? Mm....not really, honestly. Do I think I'm worth befriending? Well, depends on what it is you seek from a friend. To some I'm the best friend you could ever find. Some even say I'm far too good of a friend. But others say I have problems and they can't be around me so.... As I said, just depends on what you're wanting.
It should be noted I'm the type that doesn't like to surround himself with a mass of people, nor do I like having friends that already have a mountain of friends they try and talk to. That just makes me feel like another number, despite what you may say on it. I've always been more closely attached to people that have very few friends, if any at all as I had a knack for finding people that can't ever keep friends like me, and then we bond and stay close. But people that have to divide their time between so many people, we don't get along well.
So what am I looking for now, exactly, some of you may ask? Well, I'm still open to RP, but it'll be EXTREMELY hard to get me back into it. But I'm mostly just wanting to find a friend I can do things with other than only RP. Again, I love RP, but I don't want that to be the only thing we have to do together. I've learned that friendships like that don't last long, or at all if I'm not in an RP mood. I would like to have someone that enjoys doing the same things like gaming and watching shows or videos. So we'd have other things to do and talk about.
Just be patient with me. It takes a lot for me to open up to anyone and actually show I have some form of emotions.
Alright, so I feel I should make something like this explaining how I am about friends, or rather people in general, since I do sometimes get people that approach me and actually want to get to know me but I'm sure I end up pushing them away because of my apparent personality. While the core of my personality is extremely kind and caring, as I would hope it would be for anyone, it takes A LOT for anyone to get to that part of me and, on the surface, I will ALWAYS appear distant and overall grumpy. However, this DOES NOT mean I don't want to talk to you or get to know you. It's just how I am with anyone I don't already consider a close friend. And even then I do that to them all the time. But they like it when I act like a grump who doesn't want attention so. With that said, if you don't like someone who doesn't bluntly say how much they care or always shower you with affection, you probably shouldn't try to be my friend in the first place because that's not my style. I will always care for my friends, but I'm not going to say it 24/7 as I see most would like for me to do.
The other problem with me is that I've never marked myself as a good conversationalist. I will always try to respond if I can, if a feel there's a response to actually be made that isn't just one word, but apart from that, in the fandom, I've always been a Weredragon of action. RP has been the thing I've lived for for a long while, before I eventually lost interest. So I always let my actions do the talking as I was a bit on the antisocial side of the spectrum. But that also mean, since I don't really RP anymore, it's near impossible for anyone to get close to me like how it was in the past. I'm trying to get back into the RP scene but my overall laziness and lack of motivation prevents me from doing so. But if you really want to keep me talking, you just gotta push for it and find something that peeks my interest for a conversation. (If you just try asking what I like, you'll likely get short-worded responses.)
My final quirk, that I don't really even think is an actual quirk but definitely something worth mentioning, and it's actually a two-parter note, when I am actually starting to befriend you, I don't expect for me to always be the one to have to approach you for a conversation or whatever. If it gets to this point, I will legit stop going to you first and wait for you to message me first. It's my weird way of seeing how much the other person actually cares, even though I know it's not the best way to go about things since everyone is different when it comes to interacting with others, as I've discovered over the years. But all the same, I don't want to feel as I'm the one doing all the work in a friendship scenario, if we're already close enough to be considered friends. The second part of this, if you approach me first and we don't know each other, don't expect for me to push a conversation forward because I won't. If you came to me, I assume you took some interest in me. So show me why you did and why I should want to be you friend and talk to you. Most of the time I get people that talk to me for maybe a few minutes, then they disappear when they see I'm not the most talkative person. Very few push past that. I take that as a sign that I wasn't worth your time in your eyes.
But yeah, these are the major quirks I have that prevent me from making friends. Just thought I'd make mention of them for the future people that try and get to know me, not that I expect it to help you on your quest of befriending this weird dragon-wolf-werewolf beast. But at least you'll know what to expect so. Do I expect to even get more friends by this point? Mm....not really, honestly. Do I think I'm worth befriending? Well, depends on what it is you seek from a friend. To some I'm the best friend you could ever find. Some even say I'm far too good of a friend. But others say I have problems and they can't be around me so.... As I said, just depends on what you're wanting.
It should be noted I'm the type that doesn't like to surround himself with a mass of people, nor do I like having friends that already have a mountain of friends they try and talk to. That just makes me feel like another number, despite what you may say on it. I've always been more closely attached to people that have very few friends, if any at all as I had a knack for finding people that can't ever keep friends like me, and then we bond and stay close. But people that have to divide their time between so many people, we don't get along well.
So what am I looking for now, exactly, some of you may ask? Well, I'm still open to RP, but it'll be EXTREMELY hard to get me back into it. But I'm mostly just wanting to find a friend I can do things with other than only RP. Again, I love RP, but I don't want that to be the only thing we have to do together. I've learned that friendships like that don't last long, or at all if I'm not in an RP mood. I would like to have someone that enjoys doing the same things like gaming and watching shows or videos. So we'd have other things to do and talk about.