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Closing Time (Leave of Absence)
8 years ago
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So...yeah. I think I'm done for a while. Gonna finish up the last of the commissions, even for the toxic assholes who enjoy calling me a theif, a liar, and all the other stupid bullshit that horny impatient furs say when they're forced to delay gratification.
After that, I'm out. I could tell you who to thank for that, but that's not who I am. All I will say is that the bad eggs in this fandom, the cold, self centered jerkasses who care only for themselves and will throw you under the bus for being honest or caring...well, they've won this round, and I am going to bow out with grace. I used to be an incredibly happy, fun loving guy without a mean bone in his body (well, except for THAT bone, but you know what I meant!) but lately Ive been finding that I'm harsh, quick to anger, and deeply depressed by the work I'm doing. It's a bad sign when even Lobosan is being more diplomatic than me. And it's also my wake up call.
Sooner or later, when you deal with toxic people, they push that toxicity onto you, even convincing you its your fault. I dont believe in fault here though. I believe in moving forward. In self improvement. In finding passion and purpose in the work I do and the words I say. I don't want to be bitchy, bitter, and angry, even if my art is getting better. And I don't want to keep investing my passion in people who use it as an excuse to abuse my trust and loyalty.
To that end I am going to wrap up my queue and then take a leave of absence from the fandom. I may take the odd commission here or there on my terms or post some personal work, but I will not be running streams, games, prizes, etc during this time. I know many people have been thankful for those opportunities to hang out and socialize, but sadly a few bad folks have ruined it for the rest.
To those of you who have been loyal, generous, thoughtful, and kind (and despite the words above, that applies to MOST of you on my page), I give all my love, appreciation, and heartfelt thanks. You guys have taught me so much, and I have been honored to share these last two years journeying with you on my quest to become an artist worthy of the title. Don't go changing, and don't lose touch <3
After that, I'm out. I could tell you who to thank for that, but that's not who I am. All I will say is that the bad eggs in this fandom, the cold, self centered jerkasses who care only for themselves and will throw you under the bus for being honest or caring...well, they've won this round, and I am going to bow out with grace. I used to be an incredibly happy, fun loving guy without a mean bone in his body (well, except for THAT bone, but you know what I meant!) but lately Ive been finding that I'm harsh, quick to anger, and deeply depressed by the work I'm doing. It's a bad sign when even Lobosan is being more diplomatic than me. And it's also my wake up call.
Sooner or later, when you deal with toxic people, they push that toxicity onto you, even convincing you its your fault. I dont believe in fault here though. I believe in moving forward. In self improvement. In finding passion and purpose in the work I do and the words I say. I don't want to be bitchy, bitter, and angry, even if my art is getting better. And I don't want to keep investing my passion in people who use it as an excuse to abuse my trust and loyalty.
To that end I am going to wrap up my queue and then take a leave of absence from the fandom. I may take the odd commission here or there on my terms or post some personal work, but I will not be running streams, games, prizes, etc during this time. I know many people have been thankful for those opportunities to hang out and socialize, but sadly a few bad folks have ruined it for the rest.
To those of you who have been loyal, generous, thoughtful, and kind (and despite the words above, that applies to MOST of you on my page), I give all my love, appreciation, and heartfelt thanks. You guys have taught me so much, and I have been honored to share these last two years journeying with you on my quest to become an artist worthy of the title. Don't go changing, and don't lose touch <3
I wish you luck in finding something more productive, more satisfying, and most importantly: more fun to do! And if you ever do decide to give us another shot, I'll keep an eye out for you.
Peace, brother!
Do what you must. Be happy, or at least try. I hope everything goes well for you in the future, and I wish you best of luck with everything. Thank you for the wonderful art you've posted over the years, and thank you for being yourself. Take care.
Least you know your limits and taking a break from the burden this fandom does to you is probably the wisest choice. Wish ya luck till we hear from you again.
Always loved your work and hate to see you go. But it's true that some bad apples can ruin the entire feel of drawing.
*floofle* 8C
I wish you and your mate all the best and take yourself all the time you need off from here, relax your mind and detox your thoughts and soul until you are ready to come back here. I am absolutely sure that your friends and dedicated watchers will wait until your return.
Stay safe and wishing you all the best for your future.
I hope you can shake all this off though. You don't deserve all that toxcity.
People should be aware that the wait is itself part of the pleasure... Also that shows that they really can't show empathy with artists because it's not like you are 24/24 working on them...
What can i say... i'm going to really miss you around here, also i'm very sad that i never managed to follow your streams due to timezone difference.
Stay well, you two ;)
Take a time off for as long as you need. Dealing with people can be the worst sometimes.
Anyways bud, I have always loved what you do I'll miss the streams, as you know you have great fans and i loved to hang out with them.
If and when you come back i will be here, until then i hope we can keep in touch.
A little break would do you good. Art shouldn't be an obligation, it should be a pleasure.
Besides, those pricks aren't worth your time. They'll just have to fuck themselves without you.
Also, bravo on moving forward/self-improvement. A lot of people I know never notice the need for change, and instead just become more and more of a dick.
Wish the best for you.
You know where to find me anyways!
While I haven't ever had a desire to depart from FurAffinity as a whole, I can say I have had similar sentiments regarding certain groups or gatherings that I have been a part of before. I find it surprisingly refreshing to take a simple leave of absence just to leave all the fuss and issues behind. One quirk of 21st-century society seems to be that we create a lot of stresses and issues that are unnecessary. And sometimes the best way to counteract such things is to simply leave them behind: find out what we value and what we don't and make our lives a bit simpler.
fuck people over on commissions
get called out
whine about "toxic people" and how you're leaving the fandom
okay be seeing you in three months, hope people remember how awful a person you are when you inevitably come back.
PS: If you have not commissioned me, you likely do not know how I handle commissions. The majority of my customers are satisfied with my work and communication, and I always encourage respectful dialogue if someone has an issue that needs resolving. While I need to be faster in completing work and processing refunds (when necessary), I always strive to keep things professional unless someone threatens or harasses me first, as has been the case with the two individuals in question, despite their falsified portrayal of events. As with anything, I encourage some critical thought before leaping to conclusions. Thanks.
In the meantime mate, I'm not interested in your attempts to spread drama or in whatever "history" me and my husband supposedly have with a handful of furries making wild claims, some of whom I've never even heard of before today. The simple reality is that i have no history with YOU personally, yet you felt compelled to come onto my page, attack me, and then blatantly deny the evidence even after terry himself admitted he faked the screenshots.
That speaks volumes about you and your intentions here. And while I am disinclined to block you (I make a point not to block anyone unless they directly threaten or obsessively harass me and mine), I would appreciate if you cease from further spamming my page in what to my eyes seems a rather trite attempt to continue a dead flame war. You have no interest in hearing or giving credence to my words. And thus I see little cause to continue sharing them.
PS: Terry spent the better part of the afternoon telling his rommate that he was "going to drink mercury" apparently, and has on several occasions opined to me that I am supposedly responsible for him having everything from a heart attack to a mental breakdown, accusing me of "always hating him", that I was "conspiring with the mods to get him" and other such nonsense. While I sympathize with people who have mental health issues, it does not change the fact that the guy is unstable, and the fact that he put his account to protected mode literally had nothing to do with me as I have not spoken to him in nearly a month nor have I asked anyone to attack him in any context whatsoever.
P.P.S. Me and my HUSBAND (no need to be rude and try to demean our relationship) are seperate people. He often makes a point of calling people on their shit, and he is not always gentle about it unless he feels the person has earned his respect. That is his perogative, and the fact that several people have tried to start drama with me over his words has done little but prove how utterly thin skinned and incapable some furries are of dealing with their problems in an adult, rational way. It's high school mentality at its worst, something this fandom is WAY too tolerant of due to its obsession with sex and the prevelance of emotionally/socially immature people that obsession attracts. It's not a mentality I am going to indulge or tolerate any further, no matter what stories those people may invent for what ultimately amounts to a victim complex and a need to start fights.
Take care, thank you for sharing your perspective, and please do not darken my page again until you are ready to have an open minded and civil discussion. Cheers!
So, as I said before, I am politely asking you to please leave my page until you can have a discussion that does not involve baseless accusations, demands for evidence materials you have already stated are false simply by association (thats a logical fallacy btw, my husband taught me about those!), or further appeals to "but everyone said a thing so it must be true!" while ignoring the a) the fact that furries are NOTORIOUS for jumping on drama bandwagons, like to the point where it's its own cultural meme, and b) the equal if not far greater number of people who ACTUALLY DID BUSINESS WITH ME and rapidly came to my defense without me asking.
Again, thank you for your input, and as you have no personal stake in this matter nor an interest in reasoned dialogue I would ask that you please act in a manner befitting an adult and comply with my request to stop trolling my page.
As it is, you are one person, against many people who've had issues with you in the past. Many of which I can no longer see, as Terry has had to make his twitter account protected.
This is not going with the majority, this is looking at what multiple people have said, looking at the evidence, and coming to a conclusion.
As I said in my original comment, if 'everything is faked', then I apologise, but without fire, there's no smoke, and there's a lot of smoke flowing around you, pal.
Again, I wish you the very best of luck.
Thanks for the lesson and take care of yourself.