Elephant in the Room: Why you Shouldn't Trust Twitter Drama
8 years ago
General
I'm aware of small cabal of individuals who have recently taken it upon themselves to "destroy my business" despite my having already stated that I do not intend to do commissions for a long time, if ever, once my current queue is completed.
The individuals in question have collaborated in their efforts to smear, defame, and otherwise lie about my interactions with them, and at least one among them has already publically admitted to creating fake screenshots to try and make me look bad. I have ample proof thyat little to none of what is currently being spread about me is accurate. I do not send stick figures, intentionally withhold refunds, or unilatterally remove my artwork from other people's gallery without just cause (and even then, as a literal last resort to deal with severe bullying, threats, or harassment--I have only needed to ask for moderator intervention twice in my 6 years as an artist).
What I HAVE done is allowed myself to get angry or frustrated. While I would NEVER send notes like the fake ones I'm currently being accused of, in the last month I have been less tactful than I would like. It is that realization--not the threats or whims of others--that has caused me to take a step back and try to work on finding my happiness and working on my candor. That being said, I have apologized to individuals with whom I was less than perfectly professional, refunded them, and offered my best wishes to them in their future endeavors.
In all but one case, this did nothing. The individuals not only rejected my apologies, they manufactured me as a villain and declared their intention to take me down. Why? Instability, mostly, as each person in question has known psychological issues that make it difficult for them to sort paranoia from truth. But also, I think, because this fandom all too often thrives on and encourages drama. When people are offered fair compromises and honorable efforts in the face of their NEED to be angry at something, someone--they reject it, because it does not fit into their worldview.
So, TL;DR--the screenshots are fake, proof is on my account and has been corroborated by several other psters, and the people doing this to me are angry over personal rather than professional issues. I have, on occassion, needed to work on my tact, and I will continue to do so no matter what my job or fandom status is.
Finally, I need to say this here and now: I LOVE my commissioners, and I have poured hundreds if not thousands of hours of manpower into hosting fun streams, giving away free art,busting out a queue even while I have little to no means or privacy, sharing in your pains and celebrating your triumphs.
You. Are. Family.
Sometimes, families fight. The good ones make up after. They say their apologies, work to be better, and continue to have each other's backs.
People who would intentionally forge fake screenshots or manufacture bullshit stories just because I won't get romantically involved with them, won't tolerate their bad behavior, or won't lie to make them happy? Those people are not family, and that breaks my heart. Those people are wounded in a way I can't fix, both morally and spiritually, and at day's end they will have to live with knowing they willfully betrayed a person who, though far from perfect, always tried to do right by them and would chew off his own arm to help his friends.
Yote out.
The individuals in question have collaborated in their efforts to smear, defame, and otherwise lie about my interactions with them, and at least one among them has already publically admitted to creating fake screenshots to try and make me look bad. I have ample proof thyat little to none of what is currently being spread about me is accurate. I do not send stick figures, intentionally withhold refunds, or unilatterally remove my artwork from other people's gallery without just cause (and even then, as a literal last resort to deal with severe bullying, threats, or harassment--I have only needed to ask for moderator intervention twice in my 6 years as an artist).
What I HAVE done is allowed myself to get angry or frustrated. While I would NEVER send notes like the fake ones I'm currently being accused of, in the last month I have been less tactful than I would like. It is that realization--not the threats or whims of others--that has caused me to take a step back and try to work on finding my happiness and working on my candor. That being said, I have apologized to individuals with whom I was less than perfectly professional, refunded them, and offered my best wishes to them in their future endeavors.
In all but one case, this did nothing. The individuals not only rejected my apologies, they manufactured me as a villain and declared their intention to take me down. Why? Instability, mostly, as each person in question has known psychological issues that make it difficult for them to sort paranoia from truth. But also, I think, because this fandom all too often thrives on and encourages drama. When people are offered fair compromises and honorable efforts in the face of their NEED to be angry at something, someone--they reject it, because it does not fit into their worldview.
So, TL;DR--the screenshots are fake, proof is on my account and has been corroborated by several other psters, and the people doing this to me are angry over personal rather than professional issues. I have, on occassion, needed to work on my tact, and I will continue to do so no matter what my job or fandom status is.
Finally, I need to say this here and now: I LOVE my commissioners, and I have poured hundreds if not thousands of hours of manpower into hosting fun streams, giving away free art,busting out a queue even while I have little to no means or privacy, sharing in your pains and celebrating your triumphs.
You. Are. Family.
Sometimes, families fight. The good ones make up after. They say their apologies, work to be better, and continue to have each other's backs.
People who would intentionally forge fake screenshots or manufacture bullshit stories just because I won't get romantically involved with them, won't tolerate their bad behavior, or won't lie to make them happy? Those people are not family, and that breaks my heart. Those people are wounded in a way I can't fix, both morally and spiritually, and at day's end they will have to live with knowing they willfully betrayed a person who, though far from perfect, always tried to do right by them and would chew off his own arm to help his friends.
Yote out.
FA+

Looking forward to the stream at the weekend, and I hope I can snag one last piece before you take a break. And I hope you'll stay in touch by one method or another :3
>:3
While I was definitely in the wrong for being tactless with one individual initially and taking too long to process his refund, that just doesn't justify making up fake screenshots to make me look like I'm a raging asshole when the stuff i said basically amounted to "I'm burnt out and need you to stop messaging me every other day about a pic that wont be done for another two weeks" followed by an apology when i realized that was unprofessional of me.
But at this point I'm writing it off as a person off his meds who got manipulated into doing something evil by a pair of people who have been looking for a way to strike at me over personal grudges for months. Dramafurs gonna dramafur, and Im gonna keep on artin' and trying my best to serve my customers regardless.
You keep doing your best, man. Maintaining professionalism can be difficult when others demonstrate nothing but foolish behavior, but it doesn't mean you're giving in.
It has been done by the one claiming to have been refused a refund by badcoyote
"My misplaced rage matters more than your facts!"--now officially applies to SJWs, Trump voters AND dramafurs. Proof that diverse people from all walks of life can still find common ground 😉
I pretty much avoid them all. i only keep them for alerting for commissions and whatnot
When I think about it all, I consider, why can't they just let things go? Why do they have to try to hurt people online over one small thing? I believe part of the reason is many people who can't see each other online seem to get it into their heads they can do whatever they want, say whatever they want. and in time, this becomes a large aspect of their personality even outside the Internet. It's really sad to know that there are many people trying to hurt one another, when it all should have ended long ago. We should all be standing together, not fighting. Every time I see conflict, like people fighting on the net, cursing each other's very existence, or even fighting IRL, it breaks my heart.
BadCoyote, your wise words and strong will greatly inspire me, and I am glad that I have the privilege to speak to a person as great and loving as you. It feels so good, being part of a great big family that stands together through all the chaos, as opposed to being alone and hurt. And I thank you for being one of the very few people that has taught me and so many others to be strong.
EDIT: P. S., Hugs to you if you want them.
In the other case, the individual had been on a targeted campaign of harassment against me and my husband for months--and I have dozens of screenshots to prove it though I hate getting bogged down in that sort of thing (taking private communications and displaying them is, in my opinion, largely a violation of a person's right to privacy and should never be done except as a last resort of defense). When it finally got to be too much, I asked him to remove my name from his gallery while permitting him to keep the pictures provided that he move on. He refused, and I warned him weeks in advance that if he didn't stop with the hate speech and remove my name from his posts that I would have no choice but to contact the moderators, who eventually removed my pictures from his gallery as a means of dealing with the ongoing problem.
The moral of the story is that neither person accepted a peaceful offer to move on and both felt compelled to resort to base slander and proven fake screenshots as a means to support their story. When a person has to create fake evidence, their case loses all credibility no matter what was actually said. When a person feels the need to slander me simply because I won't take bullying lying down, they no longer deserve my consideration or respect. That's all there is to it.
That being said, neither person is blocked on my FA and they are absolutely welcome to present their side here on my page where the mods can ensure a civil dialogue is maintained. While they have blocked me, I have no fear of a frank and open discussion, which I suppose says a good deal about the people involved.
I wish you well as you pull through the storm of haters and trolls, my good man! You are one of the greatest people I've ever known, and I'm glad to have met you!
(bows like the residents of Spira)
Until we speak again!
Shiro also only got a single pic and complained because the dick was wrong or something. It got fixed a bit later and I have not heard a word of complaint in the two years since...but hey, some furs love to be in the spotlight and drama is an easy path to fame!
But golly it's almost like out of 10k watchers, finding 10 easily pissed off people with grudges is a statiscal certainty lol.
Conspiratorial as it sounds, this entire thing boils down to one crazy asshole convincing a few other unstable people to hop on his bandwagon and fight the big bad artist. People like Terry who have a history of mental health and attention seeking issues are all too easy for someone like Croup to manipulate, and it feeds into his delusion of victim-turned-savior. But he is neither of those things. He is a child throwing a tantrum because someone took away his toys after several warnings.
Outside of lengthy wait times and spotty communication, I've never had any consistent issues with my customers. Most of the people bitching are not my customers at all, or are doing so because I or my husband have called them on their shit in the past, and furries cannot stand being confronted with inconvenient truths about themselves. They can revel in drama and mudflinging if they like. But I know who I am. I am the guy who sleeps 4 hours a night when I'm falling behind. Who does dozens of redraws to get a pic PERFECT for someone. Who pours his heart and soul into his art, into streams with music, games, and giveaways not because it boosts my popularity, but because I love working with most of my fanbase. The overwhelming majority of them are great people who see through this shit.
The ones stirring the shit? If they have legit complaints the can talk with me and I will work to fix the problem if it's a genuine screw up on my part, as I did this morning with a few folks. The rest? The fakers, liars, the impossible to please, the thin skinned who look for any excuse to rage in their otherwise boring and empty lives? Yeah, those ones can dwell in the shit they stir. And in the end it's all they'll have. I will not apologize or subject myself to the whims of broken, drama hungry, unstable people whose only sense of purpose comes from furry popularity and bashing others.
I'm 32, and left high school behind a long time ago. Time for them to grow the hell up and do the same.
I'm not here to play into anyone's fantasy. I'm polite until treated rudely, and any standard that non customers choose to impose beyond that is absolutely not my concern.
He refused, blocked me, and then started this crap to try and force me to put his art back up.
Any idiot can take a post out of context. And of course other furs are jumping on this. Most relish the opportunity to "take a popufur down a peg" despite me hardly qualifying as such.
But let actions speak for themselves. Neither I nor any of my friends have popped into anyone else's page to harass them. Nor have I blocked or silenced anyone. The people levying these accusations, on the other hand, seem afraid of counterpoints and are coming here in droves to pick fights. Not one of whom I've worked with btw--its white knights with too much time and too little critical thought.
Seems to be a loud bunch of people that spend their lives projecting and lashing out with their inability to control themselves emotionally and mentally and it is sad to see that you have fallen foul of these people. Take that break, refresh yourself and I hope you can find your inspiration again. Let's face it, FA could use more artists like yourself.