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Wow. PSA.
8 years ago
You ever start talking to someone, and because you don't know much about them, you say or do something that they don't particularly like?
What would you do? You know what you shouldn't? Immediately ignore them and not even give them a second chance.
I mean yes if it was something horrible, like something bigoted in any way, then yeah don't talk to them anymore. But if you crack as joke they don't like, or say or do something a bit stupid without thinking, it doesn't seem right to just say fuck all.
This has happened multiple times in the past month. I said or did something I didn't know would offend a potential friend, and then they just block me or not want to talk at all? Like...none of the things I did or said were bad! They were things that were personally bad to the individual, meaning I had no way in hell to know that they'd react poorly to something so normally tame without them telling me their background and triggers first!
Like, for example, if my mother died and a potential friend didn't know. If they did something stupid like ironically make a yo momma joke or something, yes I'd be a bit upset! Rightfully so! But they didn't know it was a touchy subject so I'd at least give them another chance! As long as they didn't show any other bad sides!
But no, in this day and age it's all just "TRIGGERED! Ignore, block, delete, no chance of forgiveness!" I'm not saying to put up with bullshit from people, but at least tell someone "Hey I don't like that." Then, if they say "Oh sorry my bad." then fucking move on!
I tried to apologize to every single person this has happened with, letting them know my intentions. Even if we stop talking I try to at least have no hard feelings. But apparently with people on this site it's just one and done.
If you're reading this then I'm almost certainly not talking about you. I have plenty of sensible friends where we got into little spats and were completely fine afterwards! You know why? Cause that's how relationships work. You won't always get along! Whether it be with friends, family, or a lover! But you move past it cause not every little disagreement means the end of the world.
So TL;DR If you start talking to someone and they trigger you, let them know. Don't just immediately get mad and block them. Chances are they had no freaking clue and will immediately apologize.
