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8 years ago
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Hello all, hope all of you have been well.
It's been a very short time since I moved to the sunny yet very hot state of Arizona, and I will admit it's been a very nice trip so far. Although the hard part is getting a job to get by, everything is moving along nicely.
Now, I'd actually like to talk about something about myself and this awesome website. I know that many of you tend to see my comments everywhere, ranging from a variety of subjects, some of them ranging from pretty large to small comments on pieces. In many cases, I have a feeling that I'm weirding and alienating people out because often-times I try to leave fun and sometimes witty punny comments to try to help people smile and laugh.
I realize that because I essentially comment everywhere talking about how cool pieces of artwork are, it often looks like my words mean nothing to many people because of how frequent they are. I have to tell you whenever I try to say something nice or fun about a piece, I really do mean it. Oftentimes though, I feel like people don't like me for the comments I put out and that they don't like me as a person because of how I try to push out a fun or witty comment.
~What I want to know is what I should do differently.~
I know I have a lot that I say, and I have a huge backlog of artwork that I want to upload, with the feeling that I need to include some form of a story with every piece I can. But I will admit, that does cause me to have headaches as I have so many things going on at once, music, writing, how the characters speak. What I need to read to find a nice bit of inspiration.
The second thing that I have really noticed lately is that I don't know how I'm perceived by many of you. I often worry that I'm not doing enough for people in helping them out with artwork, references, advice, and whatnot. I often worry I'm going to be forgotten and pushed to the side because I feel I don't bring enough to the table no matter how kind I try to be and how honest I am about a lot of things. While yes, I recently started life and made a huge move, that doesn't discount the fact that I want to be there for my friends and help them as best I can. It's about a perception of what you think of me as a person, as a writer, as someone who can do something to help others. And I always feel I don't do enough to help others. As a result it sounds like I'm very samey.
I want to help people oftentimes because I want to be a good person, I want to see people grow and change and be better than they are today for tomorrow. But what really matters to me is not just how much I help you, but I'm often worried that people don't like that I help others so much. I want to know what people think of me so that I know where I can improve myself for you and for myself. I want to know what you guys have to say about me to others because I have been entirely unaware for the past few months about what people think of me and what I do for others. I know many people are becoming busy and busier these days as college comes back, as people continue moving forward in their lives, but I wonder if there is absolutely something that I am doing wrong. Am I affecting people in the wrong way? I honestly do not know.
~I want people to be honest with me about this, if it's brutally honest that's fine too. If I've been an asshole, I'm sorry... that never was the intention.~
I've always wanted to be better than I am every day, I always want to try to make sure I can help others when I can, and make sure they have fun. One thing I'd like to add is every morning I ask myself if I'm a good person. When I say no, then I ask what can I do to fix that. When I say yes, I relax for a bit and focus more on what's immediately around me. I have my reasons for constantly trying to become better than I am yesterday, many of which may be obvious, and in other cases not so obvious.
I want to apologize in advance for this journal, if it came off as rude or odd or hurtful in any way. But I have been having these feelings for a while and some of you are aware of it. However, thank you for taking the time to read this journal.
I hope you have a great day.
Dialuca01
It's been a very short time since I moved to the sunny yet very hot state of Arizona, and I will admit it's been a very nice trip so far. Although the hard part is getting a job to get by, everything is moving along nicely.
Now, I'd actually like to talk about something about myself and this awesome website. I know that many of you tend to see my comments everywhere, ranging from a variety of subjects, some of them ranging from pretty large to small comments on pieces. In many cases, I have a feeling that I'm weirding and alienating people out because often-times I try to leave fun and sometimes witty punny comments to try to help people smile and laugh.
I realize that because I essentially comment everywhere talking about how cool pieces of artwork are, it often looks like my words mean nothing to many people because of how frequent they are. I have to tell you whenever I try to say something nice or fun about a piece, I really do mean it. Oftentimes though, I feel like people don't like me for the comments I put out and that they don't like me as a person because of how I try to push out a fun or witty comment.
~What I want to know is what I should do differently.~
I know I have a lot that I say, and I have a huge backlog of artwork that I want to upload, with the feeling that I need to include some form of a story with every piece I can. But I will admit, that does cause me to have headaches as I have so many things going on at once, music, writing, how the characters speak. What I need to read to find a nice bit of inspiration.
The second thing that I have really noticed lately is that I don't know how I'm perceived by many of you. I often worry that I'm not doing enough for people in helping them out with artwork, references, advice, and whatnot. I often worry I'm going to be forgotten and pushed to the side because I feel I don't bring enough to the table no matter how kind I try to be and how honest I am about a lot of things. While yes, I recently started life and made a huge move, that doesn't discount the fact that I want to be there for my friends and help them as best I can. It's about a perception of what you think of me as a person, as a writer, as someone who can do something to help others. And I always feel I don't do enough to help others. As a result it sounds like I'm very samey.
I want to help people oftentimes because I want to be a good person, I want to see people grow and change and be better than they are today for tomorrow. But what really matters to me is not just how much I help you, but I'm often worried that people don't like that I help others so much. I want to know what people think of me so that I know where I can improve myself for you and for myself. I want to know what you guys have to say about me to others because I have been entirely unaware for the past few months about what people think of me and what I do for others. I know many people are becoming busy and busier these days as college comes back, as people continue moving forward in their lives, but I wonder if there is absolutely something that I am doing wrong. Am I affecting people in the wrong way? I honestly do not know.
~I want people to be honest with me about this, if it's brutally honest that's fine too. If I've been an asshole, I'm sorry... that never was the intention.~
I've always wanted to be better than I am every day, I always want to try to make sure I can help others when I can, and make sure they have fun. One thing I'd like to add is every morning I ask myself if I'm a good person. When I say no, then I ask what can I do to fix that. When I say yes, I relax for a bit and focus more on what's immediately around me. I have my reasons for constantly trying to become better than I am yesterday, many of which may be obvious, and in other cases not so obvious.
I want to apologize in advance for this journal, if it came off as rude or odd or hurtful in any way. But I have been having these feelings for a while and some of you are aware of it. However, thank you for taking the time to read this journal.
I hope you have a great day.
Dialuca01
In all seriousness, I share similar worries, but I'm inhibited by my inability to relate to others on many levels and thus leaves me an outcast because I can never interact properly. So whatever you're doing, it's probably several times better than me
I appreciate it, and I'm sorry to hear that but knowing you these past few years I can tell you you're a really great guy. No matter what keep going, keep trying to better yourself. But thank you though, it means a lot.
P.S. Can't wait for your uploads x3
And I knoooow, I just gotta get over the headaches.
Why do you feel you haven't helped others enough? Is it because you were so busy lately, you weren't able to chat much with your friends? If you really have a feeling people don't like you because of something, then why not just ask people directly what they think of you? I know you might not get an honest answer though, it's a hard question to ask people...
To me you've been really good and I have nothing to complain about, only that you've been distant lately but that's understandable considering your big move. :) I am really happy you are trying to for a better and a better job and I really do hope you find it. ^^
I will say that posting this journal is a good sign, though. There are two main reasons I don't like the seemingly empty positivity. The first is that if the intention is actually to make a quick 'friend' using no effort by just posting a few happy things every now and again to gain popularity, then that's just incredibly shallow, and in the end, isn't treating others like human beings behind the monitor. The second is that it can actually end up hurting more than helping. Part of the reason for my cynicism regarding this subject is because I've had a few situations where I've been in a very rough mental state (Thankfully all behind me as far as I can tell!), and hearing people tell me to look on the bright side of things or keep my chin up or hang in there felt like just kinda made things worse. I remember those times, not fondly of course but it luckily doesn't feel bad to recall any of them, and it just ended up feeling like people just wanted me to get out of their faces, the standard easy-to-type and thoughtless messages and 'encouragement' felt like a quick way to act like they're helping when in reality they'd rather not waste the time on really talking to me or really trying to help or even just listening to what I had to say. Whether it's the intention or not, whether it's empty or not, it can still end up making things worse. If you've got the intention to help, whether it's someone who's depressed or someone just feeling down on the day, or even just brightening the day of someone who wasn't even feeling bad, then the best thing to do is to ask a question; and don't just go for the first thing that comes to mind, find something that really does interest you about the person or their situation. Lots of people tend to have that extra sense, sometimes even through text, of how much someone really cares. The best interactions I had with people when I was in a rough spot was when someone pulled me aside to PM me, where I could be sure that they weren't just saying nice things to appear nice in front of others, and just took a genuine interest in *something* that I did or was, having a conversation about it rather than someone saying "that's cool, keep it up" to everything that I did.
Again, I haven't seen you much so I have no idea how much that applies to you. I have to sleep soon and writing this out was faster than finding comments of yours, plus it just serves as general advice anyway. I'll keep an eye out to see if I notice anything from your posts, though!
Oh, and I definitely get the hardships of being a writer. People are so quick to gloss over stories rather than artwork, and many people don't seem to care to make the distinction between a skilled writer who puts time and experience into their stories vs someone who just thought "Welp, I can't draw, so I might as well write" and just storyboards a fetish with no detail for an hour. That's another conversation, though :P
Just my two cents ¯\_(ツ)_/¯