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Being a Good Friend Is Exhausting... (Please Read)
8 years ago
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Flash Timberwolf's Journal. Read At Your Own Risk!
I wanna share some thoughts with you
During the weekend I've helped
allan move to his new place in Philadelphia and spent some time with 
spookysushi. Them, like many of my other friends in the fandom, are struggling emotionally and financially. I try to help them out by sending them good thoughts and just being there for them. I wish I could do more.
During the past 12 years I've spent in the furry fandom; I've always tried to be a positive influence on others. Giving emotional support, sending positive messages to those who need it. A lot of times I feel like nothing I do works. Everyone just stays in their depressive states as if they don't wanna get better. All my good thoughts just fall on deaf ears and gets very frustrating and tiresome for me. So I ask myself "Why do I do this?"..."Is anyone even listening to me?"..."Am I helping anyone at all?"
Why am I doing this?...
...because I choose to.
Nobody told me to be this way. This was something I decided to do. I'm doing this for fame or recognition. I just wanna be nice to people. This fandom needs more positive people in it. I wanna stand out; use what I've learned from church to encourage and strengthen others. Maybe this is what God intended for me; I'm not sure. But I'm gonna keep on doing it. No matter how difficult it is.
"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." (Proverbs 15:1 - NIV) ...that's basically life on the internet. :P
I think we've heard enough harsh words for one lifetime. Let's actually make an effort to be a positive influence; especially here in the furry community. Let's all take a moment to reach out to those who just need to know that someone does care for them. Trust me; it's for more rewarding to encourage than to discourage.
And for those you dealing with anxiety, depression, or whatever; don't be afraid to let those positive people into your life. Don't let your past dictate your life. Get rid of those negative influences. If you need to cry, do so. Let those feelings out. Once you get yourselves together, clear your head and figure out what you need to do to make your situations better.
Thank you. :)
During the weekend I've helped
allan move to his new place in Philadelphia and spent some time with 
spookysushi. Them, like many of my other friends in the fandom, are struggling emotionally and financially. I try to help them out by sending them good thoughts and just being there for them. I wish I could do more.During the past 12 years I've spent in the furry fandom; I've always tried to be a positive influence on others. Giving emotional support, sending positive messages to those who need it. A lot of times I feel like nothing I do works. Everyone just stays in their depressive states as if they don't wanna get better. All my good thoughts just fall on deaf ears and gets very frustrating and tiresome for me. So I ask myself "Why do I do this?"..."Is anyone even listening to me?"..."Am I helping anyone at all?"
Why am I doing this?...
...because I choose to.
Nobody told me to be this way. This was something I decided to do. I'm doing this for fame or recognition. I just wanna be nice to people. This fandom needs more positive people in it. I wanna stand out; use what I've learned from church to encourage and strengthen others. Maybe this is what God intended for me; I'm not sure. But I'm gonna keep on doing it. No matter how difficult it is.
"A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger." (Proverbs 15:1 - NIV) ...that's basically life on the internet. :P
I think we've heard enough harsh words for one lifetime. Let's actually make an effort to be a positive influence; especially here in the furry community. Let's all take a moment to reach out to those who just need to know that someone does care for them. Trust me; it's for more rewarding to encourage than to discourage.
And for those you dealing with anxiety, depression, or whatever; don't be afraid to let those positive people into your life. Don't let your past dictate your life. Get rid of those negative influences. If you need to cry, do so. Let those feelings out. Once you get yourselves together, clear your head and figure out what you need to do to make your situations better.
Thank you. :)
I know you mean well and I don't want you to stop being a positive righteous dude, and I agree that the fandom needs more positivity in it, but I want to talk about depression and help you understand why people just can't figure it out.
Depression and anxiety aren't switches that you just turn on and off. I've got hereditary depression and while I've got it under control there are some days where nothing gets me feeling better and I literally can't motivate myself to even get out of the house. It's hard to explain if you've never had to deal with it.
Nobody who has depression wants to stay sad all the time. We all want to feel that happiness that life is supposed to have. We hear your kind words but our brains literally aren't chemically balanced. It takes more than optimistic words and a go-get-em attitude to fix something like that.
The best thing you can do is help them get professional medical help for their mental health. There are medicines and therapies from professionals that really help. That's the best answer for your friends ,your friendship, and the fandom as a whole in the long run.
And you're right. I don't completely understand anxiety and depression. I've had bouts with it before in the past; but it's never been long term for me.
As far as people who can indeed, switch it on and off at will... I'm one of those lately. Broke up with the husky after one and a half years. And tho I'm well, it's hard to un-learn that love no longer belongs exclusively to him.
I need to un-learn the fact that at one time, it was ONLY his and belonged no one else... I need to teach my self how to share it with someone else. I've been trying to un-love someone who is not matched up as a my mate.
You're a brilliant light that shines on everyone that comes in contact with you. As much as you think that people aren't paying attention, there are. Even if you shine on a hundred, yet only one sees the light... it's worth it!
good words don't exactly bounce off someone in the hole of depression but it's usually too far near the surface of the hole, it's seen but usually the person is way to deep in to take hold of it. if that makes sense...
i do tend to describe my depression in the hole metaphor since that is what it's like for me personally