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Friends: Some COME, Some STAY, Some GO
8 years ago
I've had one of those "And now you've noticed/realised?!" kind of moments.
I can't really put this in a way that could seem non-egotistical, so I'm going to go straight to it.
In this fandom I think it's obvious for everyone to see, that if you're an artist that's doing at least alright, you're going to have a fair few people who will want to be your friend. Some may just want to be your friend because you draw animals well, some may actually want to get to know that actual person you are and look into a proper friendship.
When you get to my position or bigger, you'll soon noticed as time goes by, little-by-little, some friendships fade away. Because you would have talked to so many people and befriended many, that sooner or later you're not going to be able to talk to everyone.
That's something I've only just clicked onto. Again, I know you're reading this (especially people who are already in this situation), probably thinking how the hell has it taken me this long to figure this out. Perhaps I was too naive too believe this kind of thing actually happens. To be honest it's been happening for most of my time here, and it's all been happening right under my nose.
There would be periods of time (I'd say about 3-4 months each), that I'd be talking to one bunch of people. By 3-4 months later, I may be frequently talking to somewhere between 50-70% of the people I'd talked to in the previous months.
I've been fortunate to have some longer term friendships that I've held onto. At the same time, some of my longest friendships within this fandom have been fading away with the last 6-12 months. I think a lot of that has to do with the issues I was facing between October last year and May this year.
I had pretty much distanced myself from talking. I felt I needed to keep to myself, when I should've been looking for help from the ones I'd call friends. Before that stage, I had a groups and circles of friends which I was pretty happy with. I talked to them on most days, we'd Skype or something. But when things happened with me later on, I just lost contact. I had meet people and here and there since, but a lot of the people I considered the closest, along with myself, unknowingly moved on. Now when I do talk to any of these people I was close with a year ago, it's awkward and the conversations are pretty much the same things said and asked each time. Also I've noticed that I'd be the only one starting the conversation with some of these people. Not blaming them by the way. Because nothing went wrong between me and this group of people. Nothing negative was said between me and any of them. We just simply lost connection, and some of these friendships I'm afraid are long gone from repairable.
What really sucks about this, is that some of these people I thought, and still think are quite awesome people. One or two I'd been friends with before either of us were involved in anyway with this community. But we've become that distant now that what friendship was there a year, two or five years ago is now very faint.
I'd wish things would stay the way they were, but here I am. That's life. Not just in this fandom, but friend in my personal life as well.
Some friends come, some friends stay and some friends go.
It's the ones that stay that you really need to treasure, or else you'll let a good thing go to waste. When all these different friends go, you'll need someone, who's close, to be there for you to keep you somewhat socially sane, no matter what the situation is.
So anyone out there aspiring to be a successful artist in this community, and for whatever reason want lots and lots of friends. Just be prepared to make some and lose some. Because unfortunately you can't have them all in the end.
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Hopefully I can be a friend to you for a long time to come =)