Oh man. Yes, it is a huge change. I left America to live with my boyfriend in Sweden. HUUUGE move. And yeah it was rough. But, I spent loads of time with him and that made it better for the most part. Some days, even 3 years later i break down and cry and want my mom. And Fuck its hard. I miss my family a lot. But, when you're with someone you love just being around them makes it SO much more bearable <3

I feel like this is how it's going to be for me as well. He does find ways to make things way better and cheer me up. He's mentioned before that he knows I'll be homesick and that it's a big change for me and that he's going to be as supportive as he can and help however he can. I'm so grateful for him.
I super appreciate this comment! Idk for some reason you worded it how I'd expect to feel about all of it? Thank you for this!

Anything I can do to help hun. And from someone who is in that position and only gets to see her family once every like, two years, I know its hard. Feel free to hit me up if you wanna talk about it more or if you ever just get really stressed about it all and need to vent. Its super good to have someone around you can talk to about it. But I know you can do it <3 and being with him will make it SOOO much easier.

Aaaaaa thank you so much that means a lot to me! I'll totally hit you up sometime!

I moved away from home to live with my fiance. I went from a small rural town to a pretty large city and the change was so jarring and scary. What I did to deal with it was focus on making our home feel like mine. I took a few months to get used to driving around and knowing a bit of the landscape, and cleaning up the house and setting up my own little area. It was so tough, we fought a lot because it was just so difficult for him to understand how the change effected me and such, ya know? But we worked through it together, and once I felt a bit safer in my own space I found a job. It just took little steps at a time, setting up small goals to get to so I didn't take it all on at once.

Funny enough I'm moving from one of the largest cities in America to a much much smaller college town. I LOVE college towns so I'm really excited to get away from so many people and SO MUCH traffic lol. I feel like once I make it "home" I'll feel like it's a more permanent deal and it'll all settle in.

Oh wow o Ao That'll be quite a change. I agree though, I'd feel better being in a smaller town xD Not as many people, and maybe not as much traffic but probably dumber drivers lol
You can do it though! It's rough but it's so worth it ;; I love living with my fiance, being able to wake up next to him every day. LDRs are so difficult....

Oh god no. Houston drivers are the worst. Seriously I think we are actually ranked somewhere lmao. That's another adjustment I'm going to have to make. I'm gonna have to get used to not speeding and be less aggressive as a driver. However I think if I'm around other drivers that aren't speeding or aggressive I'll be alright. Driving here is a totally different monster. Like if I dislike someone I'll wish Houston traffic on them over anything else lol. It's miserable especially during rush hour.
I'm very much looking forward to waking up with him in the mornings. It's been 5 going on 6 years now and I'm so ready for it. I agree LDRs suck.

Hahaha xD Wow, I just mean drivers that aren't used to city driving are annoying as fuck. Slow and get in the way and omg xD So yes, trying not to be as aggressive haha
I had to get more used to speeding here, cuz cops super love to pull you over in small towns xD But in the city going 10 miles over the speed limit is normal
Wow almost 6 years?? :( We were together a lil over 3 years before we moved in together.

I just made this same move in the opposite direction, so our situations are probably going to get very similar. As a fellow homebody(and cancer), it's been a tough move for me. I don't know how helpful this is going to be because I'm still getting the hang of this myself, but the best thing you can do is exactly what you're doing now with your partner, which is looking forward to being with him again. Try to make plans to visit home as soon as you can so when you're feeling really homesick you'll have something to look forward to. Always remember that it's not forever.

Speaking from experience, I will say that living with my partner has been awesome and so worth the leap. I cried a LOT the first week(and the weeks leading up to it) I was here and still do sometimes), but he's been handling me like a champ. Having that support and company is really nice, and I know this will be the same case for you- but if you ever need some further support from someone who's been there, please feel free to reach out to me!

Omg I totally forgot how similar our situations are haha especially the cancer thing because omg... just talking about it today on the phone with him I started crying. I'll definitely have to message you so you can walk me through it. He told me that he understands it's going to take me some time to settle in and get comfortable (in a home sense. I'm already comfortable with him obviously lol)
But yes I'll definitely message you so you can walk me through it all <3

Dude. I almost did the same thing. Texas is my home too. It's so hard to even think about moving away from it. Sometimes it just sounds easier to go out and make a huge change but in reality it's so hard. I understand the feeling of uprooting yourself. But if you really think you want to do this, if it's really worth it, then you have nothing to worry about.
Just make sure you're financially stable before or after you get there. That's always the annoying part; money.
And to deal with the homesickness, just remember that you can always come back and visit your family.And real friends never leave.
Good luck dude. Make sure to take some Texas memorabilia with you lol. Hang the motherland's flag high!

I definitely have my savings all bulked up, I've been very lucky and fortunate to have been able to move back home and pay minimal expenses to keep us backed up for a little bit once I move. I'm already looking into jobs up there and applying around. I think it's going to be so worth it though. We've been together 5 going on 6 years now and I've been looking so forward to it. I think now that it's actually happening it's like "is this real life???" And it's just kind of a shock because it's actually here.
Don't worry I've got plenty of Texas things including flags to take with me ;3

The best thing I can advise is to focus on all the pros, the area you get to set yourselves up in. What do you enjoy the most when you visit him (besides him ofc - I mean the places ya'll go)
Get hyped for that stuff!

When we moved here I tried to get excited about all the little things I wasn't able to do here a lot because it would always just be visiting my mom for a few days. Like certain places to eat that aren't up north or the fact there is CACTI IN YARDS???? Just fun little things I enjoy.

I'm a horrid advice giver but I am here for you through this and I am so excited to see where life takes you guys and I'm so happy for you!

Haha the cacti comment made me giggle a little bit.
I'm looking forward to it, I actually have really weird things that I enjoy doing FOR him. Like... Helping him get organized around the apartment, helping out with one of the extra curricular teams he's on. (I've helped with some graphics stuff). Finding new recipes for dinner. Silly little things. The more advice I get the more excited I am, the nervousness seems to subside at least a little when I think about it.

I'm glad <3 I'm so happy for you !