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Attention those who I have commissioned (Warning vent post!)
8 years ago
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After recent checks and notes and even looking at my notepad, I have had more than a handful of artists that owe me a great amount, or are super overdue in presenting me with any progress, or notifications.
I really, really don't want to be a super hardass here, but I've been noticing that Every. SINGLE. TIME. I give a little, I get taken -FOR A RIDE- that will, and I SHIT YOU NOT. (AND HAS IN FACT a couple of artists) that owe me for at least the past
And my patience for all of the excuses, the meandering, the whatever has worn my patience incredibly thin, to the point where even my emotional state regarding the same freaking FANDOM. (Not even kink!) makes my mind instantly twitch to what is owed and how I feel as if I've been wronged in some deep way. If I've recently commissioned you (last month or so) you are exempt. This is kind of a .... long running thing.
It's starting to get to the point where I start to lose empathy with people who have actual issues, health or mental. So I will begin contacting everyone, and either request that I get a schedule, a post, status update that is not an excuse or an out right full cash refund right then and there. And no, I don't care if we've been friends for half of my life-time. Yes. It's becoming THAT SERIOUS, that my own pleasure I derive from games, even casually I start to focus on with serious abandon, in order to drive my attention elsewhere from all of the reminders that I honestly feel like I've been fucked with. No joke! Legitimately, I know it's my own responsibility to contact people, to request a status update, send a note, hope they're okay, talk to them, etcetera. But I am legitimately feeling as if I am becoming used. Again.
I really, really don't want to be a super hardass here, but I've been noticing that Every. SINGLE. TIME. I give a little, I get taken -FOR A RIDE- that will, and I SHIT YOU NOT. (AND HAS IN FACT a couple of artists) that owe me for at least the past
THREE. YEARS.And my patience for all of the excuses, the meandering, the whatever has worn my patience incredibly thin, to the point where even my emotional state regarding the same freaking FANDOM. (Not even kink!) makes my mind instantly twitch to what is owed and how I feel as if I've been wronged in some deep way. If I've recently commissioned you (last month or so) you are exempt. This is kind of a .... long running thing.
It's starting to get to the point where I start to lose empathy with people who have actual issues, health or mental. So I will begin contacting everyone, and either request that I get a schedule, a post, status update that is not an excuse or an out right full cash refund right then and there. And no, I don't care if we've been friends for half of my life-time. Yes. It's becoming THAT SERIOUS, that my own pleasure I derive from games, even casually I start to focus on with serious abandon, in order to drive my attention elsewhere from all of the reminders that I honestly feel like I've been fucked with. No joke! Legitimately, I know it's my own responsibility to contact people, to request a status update, send a note, hope they're okay, talk to them, etcetera. But I am legitimately feeling as if I am becoming used. Again.
This is a business now.
Oh hey! Ponies! That's a cute story/episode/art piece! I think... oh wait.. this artist, that artist, that other artist.. wait how much do they owe me? oh wait shit... wow. >:(
Or, "Oh hey! This game I like. wow, that's kinda silly. I think... oh wait, hang on.. this artist.. no that artist... shit. They owe me already... now I have to find others."
Literally. Can't even play a fucking game unless it's a brand new start without being reminded of how screwed out of things I've been.
It's a constant reminder and there's always a fucking excuse and if there isn't then it's "oh, it's still there" as if that makes it any better. Glad to know you haven't forgotten about my god damn 4 year old commission.
Anytime you see deflection, obfuscation, and/or projection, you know that the individual is not taking responsibility. Especially when they apologize but continue their wrongdoing. More so when they mitigate their own mistake and attack you as being harsh, unemphatic, and/or even as being vile. Make the appropriate appeal, and then don't do business with them again.
At the same time, I'd also suggest compartmentalizing your personal attachments when matters do become serious. As with any business, there are those who do not honor their obligation, and what I do is I write them off as money that I've lost. If I do manage to receive anything back (even partial), I see that as a blessing in itself thing.
I wish you the best possible outcome, Mephis, from a fellow fox on the other side of the world from you. :p
And if you can feel it in my words, then you, have my sympathy. As that's a lotta annoyed/soft rage.