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Fat: A Plea
8 years ago
In case people are wondering why I may have unfollowed them of late, it's not personal. I'm trying to cut out fat-fetishizing images and posts from my feed. It's really getting under my skin. I had a really bad day, today, because of my weight and now all the emotions are pouring out as I'm getting ready for bed.
Following is what I posted over on Twitter:
Guys, I appreciate that in the furry community it's nice that some folk like us fatter furs but, please, try to like us for what's inside. I don't want to be your fetish. And, yes: I realize how hypocritical that sounds. But I just want to be loved for who I am.
Guys, I appreciate that in the furry community it's nice that some folk like us fatter furs but, please, try to like us for what's inside.
It seems I can only attract attention because of my weight. Please understand: it's due to a life of asthma and inactivity. It's lethal.
I just want to be loved for who I am ... not what I am. And I say this as a guy who has his own, physical fetishes. But I'm 50, now. Tired.
I've even encouraged it, tried to find love by embracing that which I hate about myself. It doesn't work. In the end it just makes me sad. I've ended up hating myself and still being alone.
Please, guys: I'm gay (technically bisexual, but that's a long conversation I don't need to distract from this post), over 30 (over 50, now), and fat. I have lots to offer. Please don't fixate on the thing I hate about myself.
More details on DreamWidth if you follow me, there.
Yours,
Sylvan
Following is what I posted over on Twitter:
Guys, I appreciate that in the furry community it's nice that some folk like us fatter furs but, please, try to like us for what's inside. I don't want to be your fetish. And, yes: I realize how hypocritical that sounds. But I just want to be loved for who I am.
Guys, I appreciate that in the furry community it's nice that some folk like us fatter furs but, please, try to like us for what's inside.
It seems I can only attract attention because of my weight. Please understand: it's due to a life of asthma and inactivity. It's lethal.
I just want to be loved for who I am ... not what I am. And I say this as a guy who has his own, physical fetishes. But I'm 50, now. Tired.
I've even encouraged it, tried to find love by embracing that which I hate about myself. It doesn't work. In the end it just makes me sad. I've ended up hating myself and still being alone.
Please, guys: I'm gay (technically bisexual, but that's a long conversation I don't need to distract from this post), over 30 (over 50, now), and fat. I have lots to offer. Please don't fixate on the thing I hate about myself.
More details on DreamWidth if you follow me, there.
Yours,
Sylvan
To be honest I never even knew about your size. I can relate allot with the health issues I have asthma and other issues with my lungs since I was a child. It was always hard for me to be physical so now I am overweight as well. I wish I actually learned to eat a bit better when I was younger so the lack of activity would not have been as big of a factor as it is now.
It's frustrating to have to fight this all the time and, then, even when I don't fight it, I suffer for the very condition.
I'm surrounded by this world on all sides. I've been thoughtful about it for years, talked to people for years, and even with therapy, don't feel like I've made any progress. The world still feels just as isolating and judgmental as it ever did.