Forgivness and friendship
16 years ago
Forgivness is something that takes time and, in some cases, has to be earned. People do fight and sometimes need a break from one another and it is possible to still be friends after a bit of a break.
I tend to pride my self on my integrety, I usually take an unbiased view when 2 of my friends fight and I don't put up with those that lie or twist truths in a way that makes them look better in the eyes of others. However, I am furry (human) and am far from pefect so even if I do take an unbiased view on the current fight, I might lean more towards the one I have seen less of what I hate in.
I am not going to name any names, but like prav I too got into a fight with a friend over something that some might consider silly, would I have foirgiven them? likely, until they pulled a "if you don't aplologze, I am leaving not just you, but other mutual friends as well" if there is one thing I hate above all else it is being put in a lose-lose situation, like apologize and I lose some of my integregty cause I gave in to someone selfish enough that they could not see beyond themselvs, don't aplogize and I lose one I had cosidered a friend.
True friends like/love one despite differiences, don't manipulate their friends to get what they want and don't put their friends in positions they are uncomfortable with. They also might recognize when all that is needed is time or a mutual apology.
People that manipulate others and knowingly show hypocrasy without admiting it at all are seldom worthy of anyone's friendship. I know I can seem or be a hypocrit at times, but it is just part of being what we are and we just have to do what we can to lower the times it comes out.
Above all else, remember "it takes 2 to tango" in a fight, the only "innocents" are those not involved directly, if not at all, The other peopl involved might have done more or whatever, but don't blame it all on them without admiting things you might have or have not done that might have affected the outcome.
I tend to pride my self on my integrety, I usually take an unbiased view when 2 of my friends fight and I don't put up with those that lie or twist truths in a way that makes them look better in the eyes of others. However, I am furry (human) and am far from pefect so even if I do take an unbiased view on the current fight, I might lean more towards the one I have seen less of what I hate in.
I am not going to name any names, but like prav I too got into a fight with a friend over something that some might consider silly, would I have foirgiven them? likely, until they pulled a "if you don't aplologze, I am leaving not just you, but other mutual friends as well" if there is one thing I hate above all else it is being put in a lose-lose situation, like apologize and I lose some of my integregty cause I gave in to someone selfish enough that they could not see beyond themselvs, don't aplogize and I lose one I had cosidered a friend.
True friends like/love one despite differiences, don't manipulate their friends to get what they want and don't put their friends in positions they are uncomfortable with. They also might recognize when all that is needed is time or a mutual apology.
People that manipulate others and knowingly show hypocrasy without admiting it at all are seldom worthy of anyone's friendship. I know I can seem or be a hypocrit at times, but it is just part of being what we are and we just have to do what we can to lower the times it comes out.
Above all else, remember "it takes 2 to tango" in a fight, the only "innocents" are those not involved directly, if not at all, The other peopl involved might have done more or whatever, but don't blame it all on them without admiting things you might have or have not done that might have affected the outcome.
cause he is still my family, even though there was an argument we fixed it and went back as family