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The Problem With Fandoms/Communities & todays society
8 years ago
I am expressing my experiences and opinions based on what I have witnessed within the furry community. I say it like it is, if you get offended, that is your problem. Most are too afraid to be truthful.
I have read in a few articles, that most people join these so called "communities" for specific reasons. I do it because it's fun, but because of toxic people within this fandom, I have been having second thoughts about whether staying or not. I will share a few stories.
Anthrocon 2017 went well, few months after however, when at work, I found out 2 of my co-workers were furries as well and I thought that was interesting to find out co workers enjoy this as well. I do not know the character names, just that it's a green and pink rabbit. Something childish happened, and they got mad at me for something I did not do.
A friend of mine known as Max the red fox, (I do not say his real name as I don't have permission), and I said I found out two people that work at my job are furries as well. He said that was cool, but I said to him to not repeat it to anyone, or to ask anyone about it. And to not ask them. However, he asked them if they work at the same place as me, and they denied (when it's obviously true). Then they got mad at me, for something that was not intentional whatsoever. I told my friend not to repeat it because I trust him, but now I know he kinda has a big mouth lol. Then they made it such a big issue, I just said to myself it's not worth arguing with people like this, just let them think they win. I don't get what's so bad about others knowing where you work, everyone that works there pretty much knows anyway. Many people visit every day when the place is open, there's without a doubt a few who know they fursuit like me.
It's fine to be private and everything, but I noticed, if you don't like people to know what you do, or where you work, but you don't mind posting pics or videos online, that doesn't make sense. I found out from here, that from what I read, most people join these communities because within their family, or people they know, they do not fit in. So they join these things, but only want their identity known as what their costume is. This is simply called "attention seekers."
Most people who have very nice costumes/fursuits, either wear them because they want to showcase their talent if they made it themselves, or they spend a lot of money, to get attention from others. People will say nice comments, ask who made it, etc. That's another thing that kinda annoys me. If you made it, and someone asked you who and you say you yourself made it, and the person asks for commissions, but you say you "don't do them" that's a good reason right there. It's a lot of hard work yes, but if offered a lot of money, possibly double, or triple the price of what it took you to make your suit, why would you deny that? Simple, those types of people want attention. I know I wouldn't deny an offer like that. It's a lot of hard work, but in the end you will have much leftover. That's where overrated fursuiters come in. Telephone, red & white cruxes, etc.
Why did the red and white cruxes share a room with the pink and green rabs? Simple. They both have a lot of followers, and with popularity, other popular people only be with other popular people. It's because it's a thing called "networking." In industry terms, networking is important in the film industry. These people just do it for attention and more people who act like they are celebrities with a star on the walk of fame, when all they are, are people that dress up in a costume.
That is not a famous person. No one in these communities are famous, except Guest of Honors like Charlie Adler at AC 2017. It's annoying to see people, treat popular furries like they are big stars in their own feature film. They act like they are, but they are not. This is what I mean about attention seeking, they want to be popular, not well known. There is a difference.
I've met a few others, who (unsurprisingly) have social issues. Don't get me wrong I have autism myself, but I don't join fandoms for a "safe space" because others do. I do this because it is fun and I enjoy it. Since I am an actor, I enjoy it because I am playing a character, which I do nearly on a daily basis when filming something, or doing voice over. Many, many people in the furry community are gay, for whatever reason I will never know.
I am not against LGBT, but constantly being asked out by other guys, when I am straight, is annoying. I need to constantly repeat to them that I am straight. I might as well wear a sign that says "I'm straight, don't ask me out if you're a guy." That may sound anti-gay, but when you constantly see it, it does get annoying. Everywhere I walk, all i hear are other guys saying "My boyfriend." It's like Destiny, it get's repetitive, and it get's annoying, to the point where you just wana stop, but you keep wanting to try to get that Exotic weapon so bad, so you keep going back to it even though you may regret it.
We need more straight people within these communities. Too many use it as a safe space because they are not accepted outside of it. Why else would there be so many gays? Or Trans? etc
This comes to the next part. People. If you are wanting to make a friend or a few in these fandoms, you must find the right people within them. I've encountered people who will say they are my friend, then completely ignore me. And make up lies because they do not wish to visit or do something at a con. Alas, then there other friend will make up a lie or two, because they are jealous of me being around their friend when it's always been just them. Seems like that person wants all the attention for themselves. He smokes weed anyway... not a good person, and he knows who he is. (it's illegal)
If you are going to say you are a friend of someone, but you aren't, you are making it harder on yourself. Do not be afraid to tell the truth. People must be honest. And that needs to start in these communities.
Stop making it a safe space, can we just make this something fun to do? Like a hobby? Where there are no SJW's, no sausage fests, etc. What happened to just joining to have a good time and have fun without crazy people?
That's the problem with today's society. Everyone get's offended by everything, and everyone always has an excuse, or a backup plan. We need to fix society, not just fandoms, because the furry community, and others like it, are becoming more and more hated. Too many nut jobs. Try and make the world a better place, not a safe space
I have read in a few articles, that most people join these so called "communities" for specific reasons. I do it because it's fun, but because of toxic people within this fandom, I have been having second thoughts about whether staying or not. I will share a few stories.
Anthrocon 2017 went well, few months after however, when at work, I found out 2 of my co-workers were furries as well and I thought that was interesting to find out co workers enjoy this as well. I do not know the character names, just that it's a green and pink rabbit. Something childish happened, and they got mad at me for something I did not do.
A friend of mine known as Max the red fox, (I do not say his real name as I don't have permission), and I said I found out two people that work at my job are furries as well. He said that was cool, but I said to him to not repeat it to anyone, or to ask anyone about it. And to not ask them. However, he asked them if they work at the same place as me, and they denied (when it's obviously true). Then they got mad at me, for something that was not intentional whatsoever. I told my friend not to repeat it because I trust him, but now I know he kinda has a big mouth lol. Then they made it such a big issue, I just said to myself it's not worth arguing with people like this, just let them think they win. I don't get what's so bad about others knowing where you work, everyone that works there pretty much knows anyway. Many people visit every day when the place is open, there's without a doubt a few who know they fursuit like me.
It's fine to be private and everything, but I noticed, if you don't like people to know what you do, or where you work, but you don't mind posting pics or videos online, that doesn't make sense. I found out from here, that from what I read, most people join these communities because within their family, or people they know, they do not fit in. So they join these things, but only want their identity known as what their costume is. This is simply called "attention seekers."
Most people who have very nice costumes/fursuits, either wear them because they want to showcase their talent if they made it themselves, or they spend a lot of money, to get attention from others. People will say nice comments, ask who made it, etc. That's another thing that kinda annoys me. If you made it, and someone asked you who and you say you yourself made it, and the person asks for commissions, but you say you "don't do them" that's a good reason right there. It's a lot of hard work yes, but if offered a lot of money, possibly double, or triple the price of what it took you to make your suit, why would you deny that? Simple, those types of people want attention. I know I wouldn't deny an offer like that. It's a lot of hard work, but in the end you will have much leftover. That's where overrated fursuiters come in. Telephone, red & white cruxes, etc.
Why did the red and white cruxes share a room with the pink and green rabs? Simple. They both have a lot of followers, and with popularity, other popular people only be with other popular people. It's because it's a thing called "networking." In industry terms, networking is important in the film industry. These people just do it for attention and more people who act like they are celebrities with a star on the walk of fame, when all they are, are people that dress up in a costume.
That is not a famous person. No one in these communities are famous, except Guest of Honors like Charlie Adler at AC 2017. It's annoying to see people, treat popular furries like they are big stars in their own feature film. They act like they are, but they are not. This is what I mean about attention seeking, they want to be popular, not well known. There is a difference.
I've met a few others, who (unsurprisingly) have social issues. Don't get me wrong I have autism myself, but I don't join fandoms for a "safe space" because others do. I do this because it is fun and I enjoy it. Since I am an actor, I enjoy it because I am playing a character, which I do nearly on a daily basis when filming something, or doing voice over. Many, many people in the furry community are gay, for whatever reason I will never know.
I am not against LGBT, but constantly being asked out by other guys, when I am straight, is annoying. I need to constantly repeat to them that I am straight. I might as well wear a sign that says "I'm straight, don't ask me out if you're a guy." That may sound anti-gay, but when you constantly see it, it does get annoying. Everywhere I walk, all i hear are other guys saying "My boyfriend." It's like Destiny, it get's repetitive, and it get's annoying, to the point where you just wana stop, but you keep wanting to try to get that Exotic weapon so bad, so you keep going back to it even though you may regret it.
We need more straight people within these communities. Too many use it as a safe space because they are not accepted outside of it. Why else would there be so many gays? Or Trans? etc
This comes to the next part. People. If you are wanting to make a friend or a few in these fandoms, you must find the right people within them. I've encountered people who will say they are my friend, then completely ignore me. And make up lies because they do not wish to visit or do something at a con. Alas, then there other friend will make up a lie or two, because they are jealous of me being around their friend when it's always been just them. Seems like that person wants all the attention for themselves. He smokes weed anyway... not a good person, and he knows who he is. (it's illegal)
If you are going to say you are a friend of someone, but you aren't, you are making it harder on yourself. Do not be afraid to tell the truth. People must be honest. And that needs to start in these communities.
Stop making it a safe space, can we just make this something fun to do? Like a hobby? Where there are no SJW's, no sausage fests, etc. What happened to just joining to have a good time and have fun without crazy people?
That's the problem with today's society. Everyone get's offended by everything, and everyone always has an excuse, or a backup plan. We need to fix society, not just fandoms, because the furry community, and others like it, are becoming more and more hated. Too many nut jobs. Try and make the world a better place, not a safe space
