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7 years ago
Lately, I have been experiencing extreme bouts of depression. Let me start from the beginning.
Last July I got a new job working for a warehouse that's owned by a Teamsters Union. The place is 23 miles from my home. At first, everybody there was busting my balls and whatnot, but I personally took it as abuse. Not to mention a lot of them prefer to stay there for as long as possible, as long as 12 to 14 hours a night for five nights! Because of their decision, I suffer staying in a place where I'm far away from home and I feel like I'm being abused. The abuse has softened down quickly though, but still. I work nights between Sundays and Thursdays. I tried to ask for a day-shift but they said that shift is earned, and most have to wait over 15 years to earn a day-shift position.
The job is high-paying with great benefits including a pension and free insurance. Because of that, I was able to purchase a used truck, but I totaled it within a few months. I eventually got a new one months later and I'm paying it off. I also got a credit card and it's been saving me a bit. However, I'm paying way over the minimum balance on my bills, sometimes three times as much. Is that a bad thing?
Also, I'm spending too much time away from my home. I spend at leased between 60 to 70 hours outside my house a week, which is actually a bad thing considering I have a minor case of Agoraphobia. Not extremely major but enough to drive me crazy. I really do not want to quit my job because I'm getting used to the layout of the work and it's a great money-making opportunity. On the other hand, I have very little time to go to the movies, work on my projects, see my family, etc.
I'm not asking for a pity-party, I'm asking for advice on what I should do to calm myself out of my deep depression. I've never been this upset about my life this much. Any advice would be appreciated. I could really use help. Thank you.
Last July I got a new job working for a warehouse that's owned by a Teamsters Union. The place is 23 miles from my home. At first, everybody there was busting my balls and whatnot, but I personally took it as abuse. Not to mention a lot of them prefer to stay there for as long as possible, as long as 12 to 14 hours a night for five nights! Because of their decision, I suffer staying in a place where I'm far away from home and I feel like I'm being abused. The abuse has softened down quickly though, but still. I work nights between Sundays and Thursdays. I tried to ask for a day-shift but they said that shift is earned, and most have to wait over 15 years to earn a day-shift position.
The job is high-paying with great benefits including a pension and free insurance. Because of that, I was able to purchase a used truck, but I totaled it within a few months. I eventually got a new one months later and I'm paying it off. I also got a credit card and it's been saving me a bit. However, I'm paying way over the minimum balance on my bills, sometimes three times as much. Is that a bad thing?
Also, I'm spending too much time away from my home. I spend at leased between 60 to 70 hours outside my house a week, which is actually a bad thing considering I have a minor case of Agoraphobia. Not extremely major but enough to drive me crazy. I really do not want to quit my job because I'm getting used to the layout of the work and it's a great money-making opportunity. On the other hand, I have very little time to go to the movies, work on my projects, see my family, etc.
I'm not asking for a pity-party, I'm asking for advice on what I should do to calm myself out of my deep depression. I've never been this upset about my life this much. Any advice would be appreciated. I could really use help. Thank you.
Once you know what you can do, and if you get the shift you want, that should help with giving you more free time, if not, then perhaps looking around for another job may not hurt, but stick to your current employer until you find another job you think is worthwhile before handing in your notice.
My job is also 23 miles one-way from my house. A straight shot down the highway. First shift 9am to 5:30pm. Weekends off by default.
Prior to that, I did a 35-mile commute, 1 hour-10 minutes one-way across state lines from New Jersey to Philadelphia, second shift, 12 noon to 8pm, paying city wage taxes and bridge tolls, having no life, and being too exhausted to do anything on weekends, after having scarified the new friends I had just made before taking the job.
Before all this...I worked retail...from 8am to 8pm for barely more than minimum wage, doing the manager's job, working by myself, but for no manager's role, authority, title, or pay, everyday except Tuesday and Thursday, and that was because I had class to take IT courses. Oh, need I mention? The company I used to work for declared bankruptcy TWICE. I closed every shop I worked at. XD Literally, every shop I worked at! XD XD XD
It gets better man...although your commute doesn't sound that bad, really. 23 miles isn't far. Doing 60mph with minimal traffic, it's a little over half an hour's drive. You're fine! :D