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Venting about banning, vindictiveness and drama
7 years ago
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When starting being active in these online communities I've been hoping to meet people, talk with artists I admire and make friends and for most time I've made really good connections with people.
But there have been two falling out's I'd like to talk about (I left their names unmentioned and would appreciate people discussing not to guess them or anything):
- One is an animator I've been following for their vore work since before I been active here, I liked their works and was inspired by to make my animation.
Now he's been expressing his discontent for vore art and fans and closed their account (something I was unhappy with since I maintain that once art is abandoned by their creator they no longer has any claim for it).
I expressed my discontent on their Picarto, something that didn't seem to cause any trouble, but a day later after I jokingly remarked I'd like to see the character they drew eating another character I was banned from their stream.
- Another is an artist and animator I've been a fan of and thought to be on good terms with (We also found out we both been dissatisfied with when an artist we're fan of deciding to delete their gallery). I've subbed to her YouTube channel and overall had decent interactions with, but the breaking point came when she uploaded a face revealing vlog.
I complimented her looks, something that she found objectionable, and asked her about her day which she derided me for, and chastised me for having ulterior motives.
I explained that I want to meet people and make friends with people online and she expressed she don't consider me as friendworthy and banned me from every social account we share.
Now both of this instances I find unfair, unwarranted and vindictive. But what really angers me is that whenever these two are multistreaming with people I watch on Picarto, it blocks me from their streams and their chats.
That impedes me from interacting with the community, the sole reason why I'm here in the first place.
But there have been two falling out's I'd like to talk about (I left their names unmentioned and would appreciate people discussing not to guess them or anything):
- One is an animator I've been following for their vore work since before I been active here, I liked their works and was inspired by to make my animation.
Now he's been expressing his discontent for vore art and fans and closed their account (something I was unhappy with since I maintain that once art is abandoned by their creator they no longer has any claim for it).
I expressed my discontent on their Picarto, something that didn't seem to cause any trouble, but a day later after I jokingly remarked I'd like to see the character they drew eating another character I was banned from their stream.
- Another is an artist and animator I've been a fan of and thought to be on good terms with (We also found out we both been dissatisfied with when an artist we're fan of deciding to delete their gallery). I've subbed to her YouTube channel and overall had decent interactions with, but the breaking point came when she uploaded a face revealing vlog.
I complimented her looks, something that she found objectionable, and asked her about her day which she derided me for, and chastised me for having ulterior motives.
I explained that I want to meet people and make friends with people online and she expressed she don't consider me as friendworthy and banned me from every social account we share.
Now both of this instances I find unfair, unwarranted and vindictive. But what really angers me is that whenever these two are multistreaming with people I watch on Picarto, it blocks me from their streams and their chats.
That impedes me from interacting with the community, the sole reason why I'm here in the first place.
Honestly, it isn't worth getting too stressed about. There was a time when I tried to be social with as many people as I could, but now? I have a very small group of actual friends, and everyone else stays at arm's length. I think in time you'll find you feel the same way. A lot of people, particularly in the creative community, tend to have unreasonable levels of sensitivity about the stupidest things sometimes.
Sorry to hear that happened to you man.
I know this probably wont sound too important, after all we have never been very close and I'm kind of... weird when its about making friends. Still.
Dont fret too much when somebody blocks you, whatever the reason is. If there's a friendship behind, one that is worth saving, try by all means to bring it back, but if it doesnt work or if it looked like it was going to nowhere, probably stepping out of that is the best situation.
I know nothing about the cases you mention, but at least I can relate that I have been at the receiving end of a rant, insults and banning because somebody thought I was being insulting/abusive/etc without even giving me time to explain what I really meant, or because said person thought I had ulterior motives to befriend her.
(Thing that is funny because I usually am the one heavily against making friends for convenience. So basically she thought I was being exactly the kind of people I dislike).
In the end, I know being banned from multistreams suck. And I know thats a decent reason to vent. But at least it can work as a reminder that some peeps here in the community are short fused, or that some are hostile or see others with hostility. And in general I'd prefer to stay away from these people. I don't need that kind of negativity in my life.
Now, this works also in the other side. If I'm the "known" person and one of the persons that follow me is making me feel unease, I'll block said person for my own mental sanity and peace. "I don't need that kind of negativity".
My block list has 23 names in it. And that helps a lot. Its also a bit the reason why it isnt so hard for me to try to stay approachable.
Thanks for the sentiment, we may not be close friends but I told you that I started watching MLP due to your old comics
Make an alt account on pictaro to get around their block when they are streami g with your other friends, but otherwise just continue on. Less stress that way ;)
Make Friends with People Who Want the Best For You
I also hate it when Artists remove their whole Gallery and pretty much erase themselves.