Revolting though it be to consider, if she's supporting you, then use it. Until it gets to that point that you can either no longer tolerate it, OR you can support yourself? Do it.

Take it from a thirty-six year old virgin in the same situation. I would go more in detail about the circumstances surrounding it, but you're an artist I watch. Not my therapist.

So try to tough it out until you can secure yourself gainful employment. Once you have that, and you've held the job and you know it's stable? BAIL.

Oh yeah! No that's totally what I am doing hands down. But I'm also just aware that in the future I'll have to be saving and jobs for real and stuff like that you know?? But that wasn't the main issue Lolol I guess my main issue is that she won't let me and him (after graduation and trying to work and save money) live with her and save. I'll have to move in with his parents and be on my own financially.

BUT HEY COULD BE WORSE.

To be honest I feel it would be best to put past wounds and arguments aside and have a real heart-to-heart with your mother, with both parties letting each other know how the other truelly feels and why. Build that bridge and try to take into consideration what your mother fears. Consider also that she is trying to shelter and protect you from what she might think will be a future of heartbreak and harm. Above all try to honor her wishes if you really want that financial support from her, because in all honesty you cannot have it both ways.

Then again I am going by my own bias on how I feel about honoring one's parents and cohabitation

i understand you know? Ive gone my whole life honoring what she thinks and wants for me. I even wanted to inherit debt and be on my own two years into college and my partner told me otherwise because it was not worth it at the time.

lol when you're in something heated you dont always think to write all aspects and I have gone through a lot with my mother and every time i try and think logically about my financial situation even in regards to her helping me she kinda laughs at me? like I know for a fact she isnt trying to protect me from him. Her base line for it all is her religious beliefs. Because he and I do not have legal rights, to her it is a sin to god to live together. And my rationalization to her is that he and i have been together for 5 years and even if i were to get engaged tomorrow she still wouldnt allow it as long as she is helping me. If i were to live with her again even he isnt allowed to come with me unless we have that piece of paper.

Where I got upset was that in all that she does and helps me with and even after all this time it is still something she wont "allow" or "tolerate" Seems very unreasonable and illogical. She also made comments that put him down and i wasnt about that either.

She has always had these rules and therefore never made an effort to get to know him or even us as a couple. And he values her help for me too much to possibly get it revoked by him even proposing too soon.

It was just a lot. And i am not about to up a leave cause of a fight i know that im stuck here for a while with her "value" and "rules" and ive gone with them the entire time. But once im out of school and have a couple months to secure a job im out man lol.