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Lil rough lately
7 years ago
Heya everyone! I haven’t really updated anything, spare some streams and conventions, in nearly a year now- when my bun and I moved out East to North Carolina. I haven’t been chatting or active as much lately, so I figure I should update about things. Like the title implies, things have been a bit all over the place lately, so… bitching warning ahead, lol.
Doggy!
For the past year, while living in NC, we’ve had a doggy <3 Deebo. He’s been seen on twitter quite a bit. It’s been awesome :D Love him and so happy he’s around. Good bit of work for Sal and myself- more so him, he works from home and has to keep up with Deebo. But it’s been great <3 Really looking forward to getting him a yard to stay in. Of which…
Things turn a bit negative after this XP
House-
Sal and I have decided to stay in NC for the long run. Or at least many years. We both like the area a lot. I have really great job prospects in the area, and expect I’ll find a job after my postdoc is up (2 more years) real easily. Because of this, we’ve been looking for a house :D It’s… exhausting and awful, really. Sal and my twitter feeds have been full of rage all about it. We found one, but home inspection showed some serious issues, and terminated. We thought we found the perfect new one. Were supposed to close on Aug. 14th… but the entitled pieces of shit threw a huge tantrum, hurled a ton of insults at us for asking credits toward repairs (needed 20k roof/siding/windows), and told us they’d smoke in the house all they wanted. It was some entitled, Trump baby bullshit. I have horrible wishes for this fucker. So, now, back to the hunt.
Family-
It’s been about 2 years? Since I saw my family, which I’ve been reminded of quite a lot. Unfortunately, my mom has had good reason; things haven’t been going so well with her. Recently, she got diagnosed with Ankylosing Spondylitis (AS); it’s a genetic-based condition, rheumatoid arthritis in the spine. Inflammatory based disease. Luckily… thanks to my field of work, I know a lot about this. Unfortunately, there’s near nothing she can do at this point, as it’s progressively degenerative; you can do preventative stuff, but not fix what’s already broken so easily.
Atop this, my mom was recently found to have a large neoplasm (growth that shouldn’t be there) inside her abdomen. It’s looking like it’s an ovarian or intestinal tumor; information coming in still. Between those both, my mom’s retired early from her job. She’s also taking care of my great uncle, whose wife passed a while ago. So she’s pretty at the end of what she can handle.
Health-
As stated above, AS is a genetic condition; a mutation called HLA-B27. There are other variables that affect presentation, but a large component is genetic. Unfortunately, my brother and I both inherited the mutation. After some tests, I have it for sure; luckily, only minor disk and pelvic joint degeneration for now. At this point it’s healthy diet/supplements and monitoring degeneration.
Mental health-
Understandably, this hasn’t been great lately. I’ve been very open about having a depression condition (dysthymia) before, and that I’ve been taking medication for it. Specifically, Zoloft. It’s helped a lot on making it through my PhD, and kept all the worst away. Unfortunately, it’s a bit of a downer and made my libido not great. After getting set up with my psych here (~4 months), we talked about trying a new medication (Wellbutrin) as an adjunctive therapy. It’s helped a lot, so we’re trying to get me off Zoloft entirely. It’s been tapered off for the past couple months, and as of Monday I’m off it entirely. It’s not felt great, but hopefully withdrawal ends soon. It’s really physically uncomfortable. But mentally, been doing pretty great.
The stuff with the house/my mom hasn’t been helping a ton. I’m also a very social person, and Sal and I don’t have local friends. Luckily, some friends a little ways away have come out to visit us (and see the pupper) a few times. It’s helped, but all of it’s been getting to me too. Hopefully things turn upward soon, and the new medication stuff works out.
Sorry for the all-around negativity, but lots of stuff going on! Hoping things turn upward soon. I hope to get back to writing soon. I started knitting once again, so… looking to get back into creativity :D
Doggy!
For the past year, while living in NC, we’ve had a doggy <3 Deebo. He’s been seen on twitter quite a bit. It’s been awesome :D Love him and so happy he’s around. Good bit of work for Sal and myself- more so him, he works from home and has to keep up with Deebo. But it’s been great <3 Really looking forward to getting him a yard to stay in. Of which…
Things turn a bit negative after this XP
House-
Sal and I have decided to stay in NC for the long run. Or at least many years. We both like the area a lot. I have really great job prospects in the area, and expect I’ll find a job after my postdoc is up (2 more years) real easily. Because of this, we’ve been looking for a house :D It’s… exhausting and awful, really. Sal and my twitter feeds have been full of rage all about it. We found one, but home inspection showed some serious issues, and terminated. We thought we found the perfect new one. Were supposed to close on Aug. 14th… but the entitled pieces of shit threw a huge tantrum, hurled a ton of insults at us for asking credits toward repairs (needed 20k roof/siding/windows), and told us they’d smoke in the house all they wanted. It was some entitled, Trump baby bullshit. I have horrible wishes for this fucker. So, now, back to the hunt.
Family-
It’s been about 2 years? Since I saw my family, which I’ve been reminded of quite a lot. Unfortunately, my mom has had good reason; things haven’t been going so well with her. Recently, she got diagnosed with Ankylosing Spondylitis (AS); it’s a genetic-based condition, rheumatoid arthritis in the spine. Inflammatory based disease. Luckily… thanks to my field of work, I know a lot about this. Unfortunately, there’s near nothing she can do at this point, as it’s progressively degenerative; you can do preventative stuff, but not fix what’s already broken so easily.
Atop this, my mom was recently found to have a large neoplasm (growth that shouldn’t be there) inside her abdomen. It’s looking like it’s an ovarian or intestinal tumor; information coming in still. Between those both, my mom’s retired early from her job. She’s also taking care of my great uncle, whose wife passed a while ago. So she’s pretty at the end of what she can handle.
Health-
As stated above, AS is a genetic condition; a mutation called HLA-B27. There are other variables that affect presentation, but a large component is genetic. Unfortunately, my brother and I both inherited the mutation. After some tests, I have it for sure; luckily, only minor disk and pelvic joint degeneration for now. At this point it’s healthy diet/supplements and monitoring degeneration.
Mental health-
Understandably, this hasn’t been great lately. I’ve been very open about having a depression condition (dysthymia) before, and that I’ve been taking medication for it. Specifically, Zoloft. It’s helped a lot on making it through my PhD, and kept all the worst away. Unfortunately, it’s a bit of a downer and made my libido not great. After getting set up with my psych here (~4 months), we talked about trying a new medication (Wellbutrin) as an adjunctive therapy. It’s helped a lot, so we’re trying to get me off Zoloft entirely. It’s been tapered off for the past couple months, and as of Monday I’m off it entirely. It’s not felt great, but hopefully withdrawal ends soon. It’s really physically uncomfortable. But mentally, been doing pretty great.
The stuff with the house/my mom hasn’t been helping a ton. I’m also a very social person, and Sal and I don’t have local friends. Luckily, some friends a little ways away have come out to visit us (and see the pupper) a few times. It’s helped, but all of it’s been getting to me too. Hopefully things turn upward soon, and the new medication stuff works out.
Sorry for the all-around negativity, but lots of stuff going on! Hoping things turn upward soon. I hope to get back to writing soon. I started knitting once again, so… looking to get back into creativity :D
How hard would it have been for them to simply say `No, we can't accept the adjusted offer (because X.)" Nothing more needed to be said after that if they couldn't handle it. These uncivilized creatures need to stop fucking up society with their proclivity for violent over reaction...
It's really sad that this is increasingly what the rest of the world is seeing as the stereotype of our country as of late.