I must move beyond this, lest it Kills me...
7 years ago
I am not one who complains about my feelings but I just have to get this off my mind. I am suffering from a depression so crushing I have been unable to do anything beyond getting out of bed. I have no motivation to do anything. I have no appetite. I don't feel sad, or lonely, or disgusted. Just unemotional, empty. It's like how you feel when you first wake up, before you've washed your face or had the morning coffee, except it lasts all day.
I am having problems with my ankle and knee joints, probably due to the lethargy. I know I have an alcohol addiction problem. I can't rid myself of it alone. This is I am sure, at the core of my depression and lethargy. I can't reach out very well because there are few local programs beyond the dogmatic '12 step' programs, I think I'll need medical help to shake off the physical withdrawal. Every time I try to stop, I get the shakes so bad I just want to hide away. Wife is my Rock, Glad she's here. I can't do the electronic hobby stuff anymore, 'cause I shake too much. Can't fix car anymore 'cause of the shake. Don't play guitar much annymore, because nerves are so bad. AND ITS MY OWN FUCKIN FAULT! But I want to rid myself of the alcoholism so badly. Help Me.
At any rate, I am OK... I'm STILL going to try to Host this... Maybe this may motivate...
We are going to host Zippy's 11TH Hagerstown FurBowl
on Saturday Evening, August 18 at Southside Bowl in Hagerstown. Fursuits are allowed and Encouraged!
The Place:
Southside Bowl
17325 Virginia Ave.
Hagerstown MD 21740
The Timey-Wimey stuff:
Saturday August 18 2018, 6:00 PM until 10:00 PM.
A $5 fee if you wanna bowl Shoe Rental $3.
RSVP: www.fursvp.com/group/WMFurs/5531
I am having problems with my ankle and knee joints, probably due to the lethargy. I know I have an alcohol addiction problem. I can't rid myself of it alone. This is I am sure, at the core of my depression and lethargy. I can't reach out very well because there are few local programs beyond the dogmatic '12 step' programs, I think I'll need medical help to shake off the physical withdrawal. Every time I try to stop, I get the shakes so bad I just want to hide away. Wife is my Rock, Glad she's here. I can't do the electronic hobby stuff anymore, 'cause I shake too much. Can't fix car anymore 'cause of the shake. Don't play guitar much annymore, because nerves are so bad. AND ITS MY OWN FUCKIN FAULT! But I want to rid myself of the alcoholism so badly. Help Me.
At any rate, I am OK... I'm STILL going to try to Host this... Maybe this may motivate...
We are going to host Zippy's 11TH Hagerstown FurBowl
on Saturday Evening, August 18 at Southside Bowl in Hagerstown. Fursuits are allowed and Encouraged!
The Place:
Southside Bowl
17325 Virginia Ave.
Hagerstown MD 21740
The Timey-Wimey stuff:
Saturday August 18 2018, 6:00 PM until 10:00 PM.
A $5 fee if you wanna bowl Shoe Rental $3.
RSVP: www.fursvp.com/group/WMFurs/5531
I wish I could offer useful suggestions. The first step is probably recognizing the problem, and it seems you have done that. You can overcome this... others of much less resilience have done it!
From what I understand, the AA story is probably not nearly as successful as they'd have you believe. I suggest you pursue the healthcare angle instead (not that I have great faith in the healthcare system, but at least they are usually less "preachy" and thus might be more helpful).
And be very, very thankful you have a loving partner to help you...
Hugs!
Vrghr's roomie was "A friend of Bill's". And it TOTALLY turned his life around!
He was heavily into the booze. Passing out on street corners. Lost his license and spent time in County for driving intoxicated without a license. Hospitalized after passing out at a bus stop and undergoing 3 days of nurse-guarded recovery at the hospital for the DTs. Divorced and had his children mandatorily removed by the state and put in foster care. And a lot more.
He made a commitment to get sober, and started it with an intense involvement with AA. It wasn't just the steps, because though he worked at them, he never really hit all of them. But it was the support they offered! The folks there really cared about him. They took him in, counseled him, supported him. They were on call, night or day, when things got rough. They knew where he was coming from, because they were intimately familiar with all of it.
The meetings took him out of the house where he had nothing to distract him but his pain and the desire for a drink, and out into world where he could socialize, find new friends, have fun with a group, and gradually re-acclimate to a life beyond the one he saw through the bottom of a glass. In time, he turned to helping others in the AA as they tried to kick the habit, and that socialization led to new purpose and many new friendships.
He would have gotten his 10 year sobriety coin this month. Sadly, he passed away from a brain aneurysm just before his birthday last year.
A lot of folks shy away from AA because of their links to religion. But there is SO MUCH more that they offer. It would be a pity to ignore all the rest they provide, just because of that affiliation.
He found out there were only two conditions; drinking or not. There was no such thing as a little drink. Like being "a little pregnant ", it was a condition that doesn't exist. As an alcoholic, any was too much, because the next step was convincing himself that the next one was "okay" too. It had to be all or nothing.
Perhaps the AA groups he worked with were a bit more liberal, but they were a LOT less, white knuckle than you described. Dating and sex weren't in the spotlight. Drinking and drunkenness was.
Perhaps different chapters tailor the message a bit?
I learned something that I already knew that day. When ever you rid your self of one vice, something else will take it's place to fill in the gap. I'm not saying to pick up Billy "Bong" Thorton and start smoking God's Green Glory lol. But if they give you a medical marijuana card, you might want to try using it... It might be fun?
I don't normally smoke the stuff. I don't care for the taste or smell, and I'm always the designated driver. But I'll tell you what, once or twice a year, I'll find my self at a party or get together and a trusted friend will have a little something. I'll take one hit and MAN is it relaxing. No more anxiety, and I get all happy and giggly.
Weather you become a pot head or not... The main thing (in my opinion) is to surround your self with people and distractions as much as you can... And get a HUGE bag of Hershey's Chocolate Kisses. If you like dark chocolate, even better. But Kisses are convenient. Trust me on this, no card needed, make you feel good!
Something in the chocolate does something to the brain that releases some kind of juicy chemical that make you feel happy or the sense of reward. Any time after a convention, I eat the chocolate to combat post con depression. I know, not the same as your flavor of depression. But give the chocolate a 3-day trial period.
I'll say this much, every single reply here says it in one way or another. We love you and Wanda and we wish the two of you all of the best. Hang in there and be the most stubborn, lovable ass hole under the sun, and kick this business right in the family jewels, bro. You've accomplished a lot in your life, this is nothing.
Much love!!!