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6 years ago
Happy holidays to all my watchers, friends, and art family. I appreciate all of your love and support throughout the year and hope all of you can meet the goals you set for yourself at the end of the year. My current goal is to get me a decent enough job to get health insurance and stick with it. My credentials are finally good enough that I might be able to actually land a type of job I want, even if it's just entry level.
Here's a small tip on how to avoid depression about new years resolutions: set small goals for yourself to reach, then build on them. Don't set goals like "lose 300 pounds" or "get my dream job" because if you didn't set the "get the internship to start getting my dream job first" you probably won't reach that goal this year. But if you did, I am SO rooting for you no matter what! Smaller goals are the best way to build confidence toward setting long term goals.
My goal this year is to get a job and get health insurance. Sounds easy enough, right? Not really, but because I have an associates, I will be guaranteed to not start at the bare bottom minimum wage like I did at my last job. No more 7$ an hour for me! But I set a goal this year to finish my degree no matter what, and to get an A.
I studied super hard all year long and guess what? I DID IT. I got that A, and in May, I'll be graduating with my Associates of Science degree. Once I get me a job, I'll be taking small secretarial courses so I can have certificates and training toward my goal for 2020, which is to finally move out. It's - it's a long term goal I've been trying to work toward for the last few years, but it's something I know I can't do right away.
Knowing what you are capable of is one thing, but setting yourself up for failure is another. A lot of folks that follow me here on fA suffer from depression, bipolarism, and many other different disorders that makes the holidays or goal setting so difficult and the disappointment of not reaching these goals leaves a lot of us feeling like worthless failures, so I'm leaving you with this bit of advice: don't overshoot. I'm not saying don't believe you can reach a goal you set for yourself eventually, but if you're doing what everyone else is doing and setting a new year's resolution, start with what you know you can do; sometimes just setting a resolution to get up early is good enough. Or maybe walking for 10 minutes every other day is good enough. Or perhaps learning a new technique for a hobby or a skill is good enough.
You don't have to make huge goals and resolutions to feel like you did something productive, because I know a lot of folks have the horrific side effect that they don't reach that goal, and feel like an utter failure.
You're not. You tried, and that is really important. So what if you didn't make partner, or you didn't get into the first school you wanted for college (For those of you who want to go that is) you still tried. You tried your best and you can hold on to that, too.
Most of you have goals of completing tasks that are over the moon: mastering new techniques, moving out by X date, raising enough money to buy a house, etc etc. And those are insanely fantastic and blow my mind! I want you guys to know I'm proud of all of you that are working to strive toward that and make a name for yourself, but I also want you to know that it's okay if you don't reach them, too. Sometimes techniques can take years, and saving money for a house can take even longer. It's not saying you're bad or awful at something such as saving or time management if you do not reach these goals, it's just a hard, tough place right now. We have emergencies, we have families, we have things that take up our time and sometimes take our money that makes it impossible to reach the goals we set for ourselves right away. The market isn't what it used to be for any one, be it real estate or commission work.
I'm not going to tell you 'you're not going to make it', but I am going to say that I'm proud of you for trying. And I wish you even better luck, and more energy, and more strength and inspiration and everything you need to get even closer toward your goals.
I also want you guys to know that even though the holidays are tough, be it the loss of someone recently or in the past hurting, or simply celebrating with family members you can't stand, you are valid, you are loved, and you don't have to take the word of some random person on the internet to know that. Your friends are there for you, and you can reach out to them for any reason if you feel you're in a dark place. I've been in your shoes, I've suffered the loss of two loved ones around this time of year and I have problems with my family, too. We have our ups and downs, more downs than I'd like to admit, but I do know what it's like to feel that you're completely alone and you're lonely for it. I've reached out to my closest friend for that, and she has been a beautiful soul who trusted me, and I trusted her with our worst days.
Don't be afraid to talk to your friends. Some of them might not understand, and that's okay, too. Your family might not understand, which sucks but that's okay because they're different people. They don't know you better than you know you. But don't let the holidays turn dark for any reason to the point of worry. You're important, you're special, and you're someone that someone else would definitely miss if you weren't there anymore. So if you can't find a reason for the season for yourself, pick one for someone else. You can work on it later if you have to, but don't you worry.
It will get better. But you have to make it that way by growing at the right speed for you. Not the speed of someone else.
New Years is a hard holiday for all of us, but know this. You can set small goals for yourself, and still accomplish something. You don't have to reach for the stars right off the bat. Gotta get on the ladder first and sometimes, that's enough.
Here's a small tip on how to avoid depression about new years resolutions: set small goals for yourself to reach, then build on them. Don't set goals like "lose 300 pounds" or "get my dream job" because if you didn't set the "get the internship to start getting my dream job first" you probably won't reach that goal this year. But if you did, I am SO rooting for you no matter what! Smaller goals are the best way to build confidence toward setting long term goals.
My goal this year is to get a job and get health insurance. Sounds easy enough, right? Not really, but because I have an associates, I will be guaranteed to not start at the bare bottom minimum wage like I did at my last job. No more 7$ an hour for me! But I set a goal this year to finish my degree no matter what, and to get an A.
I studied super hard all year long and guess what? I DID IT. I got that A, and in May, I'll be graduating with my Associates of Science degree. Once I get me a job, I'll be taking small secretarial courses so I can have certificates and training toward my goal for 2020, which is to finally move out. It's - it's a long term goal I've been trying to work toward for the last few years, but it's something I know I can't do right away.
Knowing what you are capable of is one thing, but setting yourself up for failure is another. A lot of folks that follow me here on fA suffer from depression, bipolarism, and many other different disorders that makes the holidays or goal setting so difficult and the disappointment of not reaching these goals leaves a lot of us feeling like worthless failures, so I'm leaving you with this bit of advice: don't overshoot. I'm not saying don't believe you can reach a goal you set for yourself eventually, but if you're doing what everyone else is doing and setting a new year's resolution, start with what you know you can do; sometimes just setting a resolution to get up early is good enough. Or maybe walking for 10 minutes every other day is good enough. Or perhaps learning a new technique for a hobby or a skill is good enough.
You don't have to make huge goals and resolutions to feel like you did something productive, because I know a lot of folks have the horrific side effect that they don't reach that goal, and feel like an utter failure.
You're not. You tried, and that is really important. So what if you didn't make partner, or you didn't get into the first school you wanted for college (For those of you who want to go that is) you still tried. You tried your best and you can hold on to that, too.
Most of you have goals of completing tasks that are over the moon: mastering new techniques, moving out by X date, raising enough money to buy a house, etc etc. And those are insanely fantastic and blow my mind! I want you guys to know I'm proud of all of you that are working to strive toward that and make a name for yourself, but I also want you to know that it's okay if you don't reach them, too. Sometimes techniques can take years, and saving money for a house can take even longer. It's not saying you're bad or awful at something such as saving or time management if you do not reach these goals, it's just a hard, tough place right now. We have emergencies, we have families, we have things that take up our time and sometimes take our money that makes it impossible to reach the goals we set for ourselves right away. The market isn't what it used to be for any one, be it real estate or commission work.
I'm not going to tell you 'you're not going to make it', but I am going to say that I'm proud of you for trying. And I wish you even better luck, and more energy, and more strength and inspiration and everything you need to get even closer toward your goals.
I also want you guys to know that even though the holidays are tough, be it the loss of someone recently or in the past hurting, or simply celebrating with family members you can't stand, you are valid, you are loved, and you don't have to take the word of some random person on the internet to know that. Your friends are there for you, and you can reach out to them for any reason if you feel you're in a dark place. I've been in your shoes, I've suffered the loss of two loved ones around this time of year and I have problems with my family, too. We have our ups and downs, more downs than I'd like to admit, but I do know what it's like to feel that you're completely alone and you're lonely for it. I've reached out to my closest friend for that, and she has been a beautiful soul who trusted me, and I trusted her with our worst days.
Don't be afraid to talk to your friends. Some of them might not understand, and that's okay, too. Your family might not understand, which sucks but that's okay because they're different people. They don't know you better than you know you. But don't let the holidays turn dark for any reason to the point of worry. You're important, you're special, and you're someone that someone else would definitely miss if you weren't there anymore. So if you can't find a reason for the season for yourself, pick one for someone else. You can work on it later if you have to, but don't you worry.
It will get better. But you have to make it that way by growing at the right speed for you. Not the speed of someone else.
New Years is a hard holiday for all of us, but know this. You can set small goals for yourself, and still accomplish something. You don't have to reach for the stars right off the bat. Gotta get on the ladder first and sometimes, that's enough.
