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[CON] BLEEPING BRENDA
6 years ago
BRENDA
You bleeping bleep! I hope you bleep a bleeping bleep bleep bleep!
Hi! I'm back from Wild Nights.
Brenda is the GPS. She has the personality and aptitude of an incompetent secretary. We somehow ended up in Sedan, KS. Here are some rural town names.
Rentiesville
Bartlesville
Kreb
Canadian
Kanarado -> It's between Kansas and Colorado.
GENERAL RECAP
This year was not great compared to past years.
Tica and I drove down early because I have become dazed and confused. I am convinced that this used to be a 4 day con despite all evidence to the contrary. Why do I have this impression? I have gone crazy.
It was nice to see everyone again. Many regulars didn't show up this year, but I'm always happy to talk to the people who do, and there were lots of new faces to befriend. Sorry I'm not good at maintaining conversations over the internet. I really look forward to catching up with you.
This year's theme was excellent! There were banners and themed decorations and theme relevant panels. Panpan provided an excellent solution to displacement during the super sponsor dinner and the drag show was great!
I am not sure that the new parking ordinance is being correctly enforced, but I appreciate that staff are attempting to do something about the space problem. There's not an effective way to differentiate between people camping in their cars and people just parking.
Nobody walked in on me showering this year! Instead, it happened to someone else.
The best part of Wild Nights this year was Glitter Corner Sticker Trade, in which four artists exchanged tiny art to be turned into one-of-a-kind stickers! It was a bit late, so we might not have been able to photograph them, but I will do my best to post the stickers that I received in the trade once they have found their new homes.
Someone's aggressive dog was running around by itself, off-leash, at night, harassing me for trying to get things out of my own car. Not cool.
NON-CONSENSUAL TOUCHING
While we're discussing things that are not cool, DO NOT TOUCH PEOPLE WITHOUT PERMISSION. This is a thing that has happened to a bunch of artists in particular and people in general. Do not hug them. Do not boop them. Do not pick them up. Do not tickle attack. Do not shoot unsuspecting bystanders with a nerf gun. Do not pull someone onto your lap. If the other party pulls away, let go. This is especially important for vendors because we can't leave our tables. We do not have the ability to exit the situation.
We're all obligated to not get violent. That means that we all need to respect other people's physical space, so that nobody has to escalate into self defense. Please, behave politely. It's perfectly possible to flirt without resorting to non-consensual grabbing and if you can't do it, maybe you need to up your flirt game.
Here is a chart of places that I am okay with being touched: http://www.furaffinity.net/view/19862762/
I extend general consent to be grabbed or touched in the blue areas only. Other people may not be. If you don't know, don't do it, or do it very slowly and gently so the other person has plenty of time to react or say no.
LIFTING
I like to be picked up, but YOU NEED TO ASK. I may only be 43kg, but I am shaped like a person, not a barbell. Unless you are a trained dancer or figure skater (in which case, you already know this) you don't necessarily know how to safely do a lift. If you surprise me and my limbs flop all over the place it could seriously injure both of us. You're a trained martial artist who can do throws? Good for you! Don't pick me up. I'm still going to get hurt even if you don't.
Step 1: Open your arms. Invite the hug! I will hug you.
Step 2: While hugging say "Can I pick you up?"
Step 3: I will say yes (probably). Bend your knees. Move your hands to my waist or my ribs or my butt or however you prefer to do the lift.
Step 4: I will jump and brace onto your shoulders. All you have to do is guide the momentum and take up my weight as you stand up. In most cases, I'm capable of supporting myself and you can spin around or do whatever you want to do. You do not need to pull me onto your chest, because that is how you wrench your back and also lose your balance.
Step 5: We're not doing overhead lifts without practicing on a mat first.
You bleeping bleep! I hope you bleep a bleeping bleep bleep bleep!
Hi! I'm back from Wild Nights.
Brenda is the GPS. She has the personality and aptitude of an incompetent secretary. We somehow ended up in Sedan, KS. Here are some rural town names.
Rentiesville
Bartlesville
Kreb
Canadian
Kanarado -> It's between Kansas and Colorado.
GENERAL RECAP
This year was not great compared to past years.
Tica and I drove down early because I have become dazed and confused. I am convinced that this used to be a 4 day con despite all evidence to the contrary. Why do I have this impression? I have gone crazy.It was nice to see everyone again. Many regulars didn't show up this year, but I'm always happy to talk to the people who do, and there were lots of new faces to befriend. Sorry I'm not good at maintaining conversations over the internet. I really look forward to catching up with you.
This year's theme was excellent! There were banners and themed decorations and theme relevant panels. Panpan provided an excellent solution to displacement during the super sponsor dinner and the drag show was great!
I am not sure that the new parking ordinance is being correctly enforced, but I appreciate that staff are attempting to do something about the space problem. There's not an effective way to differentiate between people camping in their cars and people just parking.
Nobody walked in on me showering this year! Instead, it happened to someone else.
The best part of Wild Nights this year was Glitter Corner Sticker Trade, in which four artists exchanged tiny art to be turned into one-of-a-kind stickers! It was a bit late, so we might not have been able to photograph them, but I will do my best to post the stickers that I received in the trade once they have found their new homes.
Someone's aggressive dog was running around by itself, off-leash, at night, harassing me for trying to get things out of my own car. Not cool.
NON-CONSENSUAL TOUCHING
While we're discussing things that are not cool, DO NOT TOUCH PEOPLE WITHOUT PERMISSION. This is a thing that has happened to a bunch of artists in particular and people in general. Do not hug them. Do not boop them. Do not pick them up. Do not tickle attack. Do not shoot unsuspecting bystanders with a nerf gun. Do not pull someone onto your lap. If the other party pulls away, let go. This is especially important for vendors because we can't leave our tables. We do not have the ability to exit the situation.
We're all obligated to not get violent. That means that we all need to respect other people's physical space, so that nobody has to escalate into self defense. Please, behave politely. It's perfectly possible to flirt without resorting to non-consensual grabbing and if you can't do it, maybe you need to up your flirt game.
Here is a chart of places that I am okay with being touched: http://www.furaffinity.net/view/19862762/
I extend general consent to be grabbed or touched in the blue areas only. Other people may not be. If you don't know, don't do it, or do it very slowly and gently so the other person has plenty of time to react or say no.
LIFTING
I like to be picked up, but YOU NEED TO ASK. I may only be 43kg, but I am shaped like a person, not a barbell. Unless you are a trained dancer or figure skater (in which case, you already know this) you don't necessarily know how to safely do a lift. If you surprise me and my limbs flop all over the place it could seriously injure both of us. You're a trained martial artist who can do throws? Good for you! Don't pick me up. I'm still going to get hurt even if you don't.
Step 1: Open your arms. Invite the hug! I will hug you.
Step 2: While hugging say "Can I pick you up?"
Step 3: I will say yes (probably). Bend your knees. Move your hands to my waist or my ribs or my butt or however you prefer to do the lift.
Step 4: I will jump and brace onto your shoulders. All you have to do is guide the momentum and take up my weight as you stand up. In most cases, I'm capable of supporting myself and you can spin around or do whatever you want to do. You do not need to pull me onto your chest, because that is how you wrench your back and also lose your balance.
Step 5: We're not doing overhead lifts without practicing on a mat first.
Gotta love the non stop ebb and flow of old faces vs. new, people coming and people going. There were indeed a chunk of the older faces not around but enough to keep it good and familiar as well as the new ones. *Chuckles* I still can't quite wrap my head around how that happens "by accident". Seems more like accidentally on purpose to me but then again people these days are so disconnected from their immediate surroundings so I guess it's possible to be that literally clueless. Tellin ya if you need someone to stand out front and keep fools away, say something and I or any of the security will stand there and keep things orderly. Body guard for a quiet shower experience.
You're being far more polite about the parking incident than I am. That one was ill thought from the beginning, despite initially having good intentions. The second we found out that was what they were doing I was like oh fuck no. Seems one person's car indeed paid the inevitable price before they had those poor fools bring their vehicles back up. Till there's some security willing and able to stay out there and babysit a parking lot, that idea crashed and burned before take off.
Seems you need a damn body guard for general roaming around too. I get paws reachin all over so I'm kinda used to it. When it's people I know I'll give em the benefit of the doubt but yea, some take it too far. The boop assassin dude was kind of starting to get old. But he was tiny and I didn't want to break him so I was nice. But yea, getting mucked with while trying to do your work, I'm surprised people continually still have to be reminded of that. Tis one of the reasons I all but ignore that area when you're all in, I don't wanna cause too much of a ruckus for the artists. That's what the other 99% of the con is for. ;P
And again thank you so much for fixing my suit. It may have only takin you like 5 minutes and a dime sized dab of paint but it still meant alot and was much needed!