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6 years ago
So basically I've been having a really shit week.
On monday they launched an investigation at work because they caught a couple of staff drinking tea in the kitchen (I work in a cafe in a supermarket). Since then they have been investigating the rest of us over activity of making coffees, drinking them and not paying for them.
I have currently been suspended because I admitted to it and am waiting a disciplinary. I have worked there for 5 years and the staff are like a second family to me...and now I feel I am being pulled away from them. One member of staff has already been sacked and another has quit because of the excessive stress.
In addition to this, I have been charmed and liking this guy, only to be met with the 'you are a really good friend' line. Which I accept, that is fine - but then he asked to help me get info on another girl for him. Talk about kicking me whilst down.
I have sprained my back which causes me to be currently shit at jiu jitsu and I feel inadequate for it because I cannot do break-falls or be thrown due to the pain.
And to top it off - just before my investigation yesterday, my ex told me he had a new gf - and although I broke up with him and deep down I am really happy ...I am saddened and envious because I still am struggling to actually find someone to be interested in me.
I have a lot of friends who are supporting me, and my family are too - so why do I still feel excessively lonely still? I feel like just a ghost wandering around now...and this has all happened before I'm supposed to go away on vacation next week.
I know there are people out there who are probably having it a lot worse than me, so I am sorry for complaining - guess I just wanted to write down my thoughts...and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
On monday they launched an investigation at work because they caught a couple of staff drinking tea in the kitchen (I work in a cafe in a supermarket). Since then they have been investigating the rest of us over activity of making coffees, drinking them and not paying for them.
I have currently been suspended because I admitted to it and am waiting a disciplinary. I have worked there for 5 years and the staff are like a second family to me...and now I feel I am being pulled away from them. One member of staff has already been sacked and another has quit because of the excessive stress.
In addition to this, I have been charmed and liking this guy, only to be met with the 'you are a really good friend' line. Which I accept, that is fine - but then he asked to help me get info on another girl for him. Talk about kicking me whilst down.
I have sprained my back which causes me to be currently shit at jiu jitsu and I feel inadequate for it because I cannot do break-falls or be thrown due to the pain.
And to top it off - just before my investigation yesterday, my ex told me he had a new gf - and although I broke up with him and deep down I am really happy ...I am saddened and envious because I still am struggling to actually find someone to be interested in me.
I have a lot of friends who are supporting me, and my family are too - so why do I still feel excessively lonely still? I feel like just a ghost wandering around now...and this has all happened before I'm supposed to go away on vacation next week.
I know there are people out there who are probably having it a lot worse than me, so I am sorry for complaining - guess I just wanted to write down my thoughts...and any advice would be greatly appreciated.
It took me so long, and I still struggle with it, but I've come to accept that my pain and struggles are valid and worth complaining or venting about.
And so are yours. What you went through and are going through is rough. Your feelings and pain are completely valid. I promise.
Take things slow and easy. It's okay to focus on one thing at a time.
For your work friends. If you feel they're family maybe make sure to get their contact info so you can keep in touch if things fall through.
For ju jitsu - maybe taking some extra time to stretch and pulling yourself back from the jarring things that hurt might help. Give your back a break before jumping back into it.
As for your love life. I'm sorry about the friend line and things. It can suck seeing other people move on whole you arent. And maybe with the guy you like - be honest with him. Tell him that you feel uncomfortable helping him get another lover because you like him. It might help. I'm not sure.
I hope my rambles make sense. I'm a little tired. Sorry it's so long! I wish you the bestest of luck.
Thank you so much for your 'rambles' it honestly does help. I feel like I am just currently drifting but people telling me kind words and showing support is really the only thing keeping me afloat still.
So really, I appreciate the time you have taken to speak to me <3
I'm so glad I could help you :) Keep your head up! Things will get better
You got hit with A LOT at one time so you haven't had healing time either.
You were honest with your job so that may look good in your favor and be enough to keep you.
Hearing your ex have someone probably only hurt due to what happen with the guy you have feelings for. Those two happening at once would sting anybody.
Tomorrow is a new day and I promise nothing stays bad forever.
You got this. 👌
I was honest with my job yes, however they sacked the other two colleagues so I don't fancy my chances - not only that I hate the place now and am actually considering quitting anyway.
And yes - I suppose I do miss the relationship aspects but not necessarily him.
I just feel like I'm buried currently and can't dig my way out