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Do NOT use guilt to get something for free
6 years ago
I will not be naming names, because I want to respect the people's anonymity.
I've (sort of) recently put a character up for adoption. The auction started at the lowest allowed price of $1, seeing as the concept behind its creation was mostly a joke, but I thought having a symbolic price on it was better than giving it away, but I wasn't planning on asking for more than a dollar even if the auction got higher. Kind of a "We'll just see who would be willing to pay a higher price for fun, and make the actual still-$1 price a surprise."
Someone approached me in private, asking if they could get the character if the auction ended without any bid, as they couldn't bid on it themselves.
Of course, seeing the context, I said yes. If no one was willing to pay one dollar after the auction time, I didn't mind just letting it go.
But someone DID bid the opening bid, making the deal void.
But that person decided to contact the bidder, trying to make them retract their bid, using the loss of their pets as a reason why they didn't have money.
As soon as it came to my ears, I knew that no matter what would happen, I wouldn't let them get the adoptable.
I'm myself still mourning after the loss of one of my pet birds, and am well aware of the pain losing a pet you love can cause. But I also respect my deceased baby enough not to use his death as a way to get free stuff I'm in no way entitled to, and there is NO way I would try to get something that someone ELSE is entitled to.
It's unfair, it's disrespectful for all parties involved, and I will not be guilted into giving anyone anything. Using guilt as a way to get something is selfish. And as much as I KNOW I'm going to feel guilty (I've got a guilt complex bad enough to require therapy) I'm still not going to disappoint someone because someone else feels like they're more deserving of something that is in no way required.
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Sorry for the rant, but I needed to let it out.
I've (sort of) recently put a character up for adoption. The auction started at the lowest allowed price of $1, seeing as the concept behind its creation was mostly a joke, but I thought having a symbolic price on it was better than giving it away, but I wasn't planning on asking for more than a dollar even if the auction got higher. Kind of a "We'll just see who would be willing to pay a higher price for fun, and make the actual still-$1 price a surprise."
Someone approached me in private, asking if they could get the character if the auction ended without any bid, as they couldn't bid on it themselves.
Of course, seeing the context, I said yes. If no one was willing to pay one dollar after the auction time, I didn't mind just letting it go.
But someone DID bid the opening bid, making the deal void.
But that person decided to contact the bidder, trying to make them retract their bid, using the loss of their pets as a reason why they didn't have money.
As soon as it came to my ears, I knew that no matter what would happen, I wouldn't let them get the adoptable.
I'm myself still mourning after the loss of one of my pet birds, and am well aware of the pain losing a pet you love can cause. But I also respect my deceased baby enough not to use his death as a way to get free stuff I'm in no way entitled to, and there is NO way I would try to get something that someone ELSE is entitled to.
It's unfair, it's disrespectful for all parties involved, and I will not be guilted into giving anyone anything. Using guilt as a way to get something is selfish. And as much as I KNOW I'm going to feel guilty (I've got a guilt complex bad enough to require therapy) I'm still not going to disappoint someone because someone else feels like they're more deserving of something that is in no way required.
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Sorry for the rant, but I needed to let it out.
or even better, just block people who ask for free art, they usually are more trouble than they are worth.
Free stuff should be a nice suprise, not something you ask for.
And I totally agree!
Take them when they happen, but don't ask for them!
For example, I did not create a newspaper when my grandmother died in January of this year, because I do not want to create an event that makes everyone come to me to support me. It annoys me and prefers to talk about it only if necessary to my closest friends, whom I trust and help me, not to point to support me just to show they exist. -_-
But I agree that this is something you should talk about only if you're comfortable!