The Situation
6 years ago
I'm going to summarize this as best as I can without giving any names because at the end of the day I hope this person gets the help they need.
Moved from Texas to Cali two years ago, Things were somewhat okay.
As most of you know I escaped an abusive relationship back home that involved not only me getting the brunt of it, but my dog in one incident.
After said incident I finally moved.
Few months into being in Cali were dramatic as all get out, but I adjusted, found stability, dove into my artwork here, made decent living and a good friend.
However as of a few months prior to this incident, said friend decided to make questionable choices and I was warned by family and friends to leave them to their own.
I cared about this person, I tried to help them, but they constantly butted those who tried out of their life.
After a few dramatic instances of this said person pretending to hurt themselves to gain attention and running away when they knew thy were in the wrong to make others feel bad, I stopped trying to care so much and started focusing on a way out, and to focus on myself.
They caught on to this and made more brash decisions, ones that involves illegal drug usage and promised violence upon others as well as quitting their job last minute after being financially unstable and in debt.
I wanted to leave but couldn't at this moment.
Then in the past week for two days I decided to ignore them after an outburst. I was tired of being abused and emotionally distraught over them tugging constantly at people's heartstrings for attention, and screaming and yelling all the time. I was stressed, my partner was worried, and so was everyone else around me.
The last incident consisted of two days of constant screaming from 6am to 10pm, violent strenuous outbursts and talking to themselves and pacing and breaking things around the house to the point of dents in the walls and doors, and blood in places around the apartment from it.
I was done with them. From the lying, to the screaming an yelling, to the incoherent screaming and violent outbursts I didn't feel safe anymore. Especially when I was listening to a one - on - one conversation they had with themselves that they "needed to end it and they know what they needed to do, don't make me do it shut up and stop talking to me", grabbed a knife out of the kitchen door and slammed it back into the drawer several times. Originally I had stayed because I wanted my pets to have a home, but now that they involved violence in the house I couldn't sit by anymore.
After a series again the next day of screaming until your throat would probably bleed from them waking up until around 3pm, they left with the intentions of attention yet again, trying to tug at heartstrings and make people worried for them. But I wasn't falling for it this time. They needed professional help, even though they didn't go get it (even had suggested it nicely a few times because I couldn't help them in the ways they needed it even though I tried) they said they always would but never had and I wasn't about to wait around any longer.
Two days go by before I can put out a missing person's and I did. I found out they were getting help which was good but I was told I'd be safe to leave by Saturday. Friday rolls around and they walk through the front door on "good behavior leave" which is completely unacceptable as they were supposed to be on extended watch.
They try to rope me in again I ask a friend to come over to stay with me for safety and they try to become violent again when I wish to not speak to them.
Finally they were removed from the vicinity and I was able to move things out the next day.
Currently I have a roof over my head and my animals, but any other information I will not give out in respect for my privacy and the other person's. I wish them not to find me or my family, or anything of me ever again. They are in serious need of medical treatment and help, and need to spend time getting it.
I do not advise trying to contact this person, or even getting to know this person. They are manipulative and abusive, and need to focus on themselves for treatment. I wish them luck in doing so, but I am trying to stay away from them as far as possible because of their unpredictability and violent tendencies.
Part of me wishes they had listened, and part of me wishes things were different, but as a whole I know now I am safe and so are my animals.
If you have any concerns that you may know of this person and wish to stay away from them yourself you may note me if you have suspicion on who they are and I will confirm or deny it for you.
At the end of all of this I'm moving on to better myself and my life and to spend it with my loved ones. I hope the best for their family and everyone else who was involved to find their way in life and be the best they can be, but for now things will be a bit slow on my end until they sort themselves out. I've got a long way to go.
Side note: I have several witnesses to these events in person and over the phone for these outbursts. All of them would like me to advise you to stay away from this person at all costs.
Moved from Texas to Cali two years ago, Things were somewhat okay.
As most of you know I escaped an abusive relationship back home that involved not only me getting the brunt of it, but my dog in one incident.
After said incident I finally moved.
Few months into being in Cali were dramatic as all get out, but I adjusted, found stability, dove into my artwork here, made decent living and a good friend.
However as of a few months prior to this incident, said friend decided to make questionable choices and I was warned by family and friends to leave them to their own.
I cared about this person, I tried to help them, but they constantly butted those who tried out of their life.
After a few dramatic instances of this said person pretending to hurt themselves to gain attention and running away when they knew thy were in the wrong to make others feel bad, I stopped trying to care so much and started focusing on a way out, and to focus on myself.
They caught on to this and made more brash decisions, ones that involves illegal drug usage and promised violence upon others as well as quitting their job last minute after being financially unstable and in debt.
I wanted to leave but couldn't at this moment.
Then in the past week for two days I decided to ignore them after an outburst. I was tired of being abused and emotionally distraught over them tugging constantly at people's heartstrings for attention, and screaming and yelling all the time. I was stressed, my partner was worried, and so was everyone else around me.
The last incident consisted of two days of constant screaming from 6am to 10pm, violent strenuous outbursts and talking to themselves and pacing and breaking things around the house to the point of dents in the walls and doors, and blood in places around the apartment from it.
I was done with them. From the lying, to the screaming an yelling, to the incoherent screaming and violent outbursts I didn't feel safe anymore. Especially when I was listening to a one - on - one conversation they had with themselves that they "needed to end it and they know what they needed to do, don't make me do it shut up and stop talking to me", grabbed a knife out of the kitchen door and slammed it back into the drawer several times. Originally I had stayed because I wanted my pets to have a home, but now that they involved violence in the house I couldn't sit by anymore.
After a series again the next day of screaming until your throat would probably bleed from them waking up until around 3pm, they left with the intentions of attention yet again, trying to tug at heartstrings and make people worried for them. But I wasn't falling for it this time. They needed professional help, even though they didn't go get it (even had suggested it nicely a few times because I couldn't help them in the ways they needed it even though I tried) they said they always would but never had and I wasn't about to wait around any longer.
Two days go by before I can put out a missing person's and I did. I found out they were getting help which was good but I was told I'd be safe to leave by Saturday. Friday rolls around and they walk through the front door on "good behavior leave" which is completely unacceptable as they were supposed to be on extended watch.
They try to rope me in again I ask a friend to come over to stay with me for safety and they try to become violent again when I wish to not speak to them.
Finally they were removed from the vicinity and I was able to move things out the next day.
Currently I have a roof over my head and my animals, but any other information I will not give out in respect for my privacy and the other person's. I wish them not to find me or my family, or anything of me ever again. They are in serious need of medical treatment and help, and need to spend time getting it.
I do not advise trying to contact this person, or even getting to know this person. They are manipulative and abusive, and need to focus on themselves for treatment. I wish them luck in doing so, but I am trying to stay away from them as far as possible because of their unpredictability and violent tendencies.
Part of me wishes they had listened, and part of me wishes things were different, but as a whole I know now I am safe and so are my animals.
If you have any concerns that you may know of this person and wish to stay away from them yourself you may note me if you have suspicion on who they are and I will confirm or deny it for you.
At the end of all of this I'm moving on to better myself and my life and to spend it with my loved ones. I hope the best for their family and everyone else who was involved to find their way in life and be the best they can be, but for now things will be a bit slow on my end until they sort themselves out. I've got a long way to go.
Side note: I have several witnesses to these events in person and over the phone for these outbursts. All of them would like me to advise you to stay away from this person at all costs.
Kokkinos
~kokkinos
Please remain safe! We all want you AND your pets to be in a safe home! :c
KhaliZharavez
~khalizharavez
All we can hope is that things clear up soon for you, and you can finally find a bit of a stable part of life. I wish you (and your animals) all the best in coming future. Hope you've the best of luck!
Rancidious
~rancidious
So relieved to know that you and your animals were able to escape that. Stay safe!
mmuted
~mmuted
I hope things clear up soon for you. Stay safe.
Pfft
~pfft
It's good you're out of there and away from them! good on you for not putting up with that abuse anymore, too.
Candyslug
~candyslug
I hope they will get help too, but in the end you did what you could. We can’t force people, but we can offer help, and then we need to do what’s best for our health. You did the right thing and I am glad you are safe!
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