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Breast Fed Fender's Fed Up
6 years ago
After perusing "Fender's" latest [comment disabled] journal: "Help Page + Site Policy Updates, I seem to be left with a bitter taste in my mouth.
Not that I mind yet another mind-numbing refinement of the never ending code of conduct rules.
No. Not at all.
And I would let "Fender" know just that, if only I was allowed to leave a comment on said journal.
But alas, no.
So I will leave a comment here, on my page of [relative] freedom.
The irony of "Fender", the purveyor of a porn site, nagging us once again about what constitutes indecency or nudity or what have you- is mildly entertaining.
Not unlike the chastising of Queen Roo-kiss as she talked down to her adoring minions.
But I digress.
The point of my journal is something I noticed under "Fender's" heading: "Indecent Photography".
Apparently a photo of a woman breastfeeding a baby is "indecent" and therefore unacceptable for uploading.
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying I disagree. (Ok. I disagree, but don't tell "Fender".)
As you know, I am fine with one less naked breast being shared on this site. (See my journal Roo-kiss Ruckus.)
I am merely acknowledging a double standard.
Namely... well, I'll just give you a story:
I was at a fancy Italian restaurant. Sitting at a table in the center, chatting up the locals.
At the booth directly across from me: A privileged American woman with, I'm guessing her mother, and a baby.
As soon as feeding time comes, that woman whips out her right breast and anchors the baby to it. Right there in the middle of the restaurant, for all to see.
No blanket, no nothing to cover up. Just whips it out like it's God's gift or something.
Now I know what you are going to say: Dreamwindow, there is nothing wrong with it. It's totally natural. (I hear that's what Michael Jackson said to all of his young victims.)
Again, I don't disagree. (Ok. I disagree. Call me old-fashioned, but what ever happened to bottle feeding?)
The issue is... when I happened to glance over in the direction of this privileged woman breast feeding her baby, she gave me the dirtiest, disapproving look.
As if I, the person sitting across from her, had committed some major faux-pas simply by looking in her direction. I'm quite certain I looked over at her for no more than two seconds.
That is all I needed to receive her scorn.
What exactly did she expect me to do? Pretend she was not there? Pretend I did not see her? Avert my eyes for the next twenty minutes until she finished topping off her baby?
Perhaps if I had gotten some advance warning I might have moved to another chair. But I didn't, and I don't believe that she deserved anymore consideration than she gave to me.
She was in a public place. There to see and be seen. Her expectation of privacy was unrealistic. If it is such a natural, wonderful thing, she should have greeted me with a smile.
But she didn't, because (A) She believed that breastfeeding in public was... well... indecent. Gasp!
Or (B) She believed I was doing something indecent.
But there was no indecency on my part. Unlike her, I wasn't whipping out any body parts on "Fender's" no-no list.
Therefore, the indecency was on her part.
Yes, she must have believed that feeding a baby from her naked, pendulous, milk-filled bosom was inappropriate for... ahem... public consumption.
I'm not saying I agree. (Alright, maybe I agree after all.) Sorry "Fender".
Strange how sweet milk can be so bitter.
Love -D.
9/4/19
Not that I mind yet another mind-numbing refinement of the never ending code of conduct rules.
No. Not at all.
And I would let "Fender" know just that, if only I was allowed to leave a comment on said journal.
But alas, no.
So I will leave a comment here, on my page of [relative] freedom.
The irony of "Fender", the purveyor of a porn site, nagging us once again about what constitutes indecency or nudity or what have you- is mildly entertaining.
Not unlike the chastising of Queen Roo-kiss as she talked down to her adoring minions.
But I digress.
The point of my journal is something I noticed under "Fender's" heading: "Indecent Photography".
Apparently a photo of a woman breastfeeding a baby is "indecent" and therefore unacceptable for uploading.
Now, don't get me wrong. I'm not saying I disagree. (Ok. I disagree, but don't tell "Fender".)
As you know, I am fine with one less naked breast being shared on this site. (See my journal Roo-kiss Ruckus.)
I am merely acknowledging a double standard.
Namely... well, I'll just give you a story:
I was at a fancy Italian restaurant. Sitting at a table in the center, chatting up the locals.
At the booth directly across from me: A privileged American woman with, I'm guessing her mother, and a baby.
As soon as feeding time comes, that woman whips out her right breast and anchors the baby to it. Right there in the middle of the restaurant, for all to see.
No blanket, no nothing to cover up. Just whips it out like it's God's gift or something.
Now I know what you are going to say: Dreamwindow, there is nothing wrong with it. It's totally natural. (I hear that's what Michael Jackson said to all of his young victims.)
Again, I don't disagree. (Ok. I disagree. Call me old-fashioned, but what ever happened to bottle feeding?)
The issue is... when I happened to glance over in the direction of this privileged woman breast feeding her baby, she gave me the dirtiest, disapproving look.
As if I, the person sitting across from her, had committed some major faux-pas simply by looking in her direction. I'm quite certain I looked over at her for no more than two seconds.
That is all I needed to receive her scorn.
What exactly did she expect me to do? Pretend she was not there? Pretend I did not see her? Avert my eyes for the next twenty minutes until she finished topping off her baby?
Perhaps if I had gotten some advance warning I might have moved to another chair. But I didn't, and I don't believe that she deserved anymore consideration than she gave to me.
She was in a public place. There to see and be seen. Her expectation of privacy was unrealistic. If it is such a natural, wonderful thing, she should have greeted me with a smile.
But she didn't, because (A) She believed that breastfeeding in public was... well... indecent. Gasp!
Or (B) She believed I was doing something indecent.
But there was no indecency on my part. Unlike her, I wasn't whipping out any body parts on "Fender's" no-no list.
Therefore, the indecency was on her part.
Yes, she must have believed that feeding a baby from her naked, pendulous, milk-filled bosom was inappropriate for... ahem... public consumption.
I'm not saying I agree. (Alright, maybe I agree after all.) Sorry "Fender".
Strange how sweet milk can be so bitter.
Love -D.
9/4/19
What is also not natural is thinking of a woman's breasts as something dirty, disgusting, or immoral.
And yeah, bottle-feeding is illegale here in Denmark, unless you're in private owned areas. Publically owned restaurants and cafes don't allow you to do that. Cause' you know, nobody will wanna eat after that...
I would also add that "not natural" is what Fur Affinity does best.
And no there is no nothing inherently natural (or unnatural) about any of the body's and their functions. But to go ahead and say Gay people are unnatural for finding breasts disgusting and dirty, is stupid. You're allowed to find anything unattractive, disgusting or dirty. If someone feels that way about breasts, or dicks, or whatever, its fine. Their attraction Their choice.
If you are old fashioned, you'd be an advocate of breastfeeding, because breastfeeding is way, way older than bottle feeding.
Pun intended, I think you're gonna have to suck it up. Breastfeeding isn't indecent, AND if the owner of said establishment, the one paying the bills, agrees that it's acceptable, just avert your eyes for a minute. You have a cell phone, right? Everyone nowadays has a cell phone. No one looks at each other anymore. What were you doing not using your cell phone? Also, it's her body and her baby, and she isn't selfishly using her body in any way to exploit or harm you. In fact, it's a painful act of selflessness to breastfeed, at least according to some female comedians.
After all, I never said breast feeding in public was indecent, that was "Fender".
At first I thought that "Fender's" code of conduct sucked, but my own argument persuaded me that he might be right.