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So... a wedding... + Stuff / Rant?
16 years ago
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... well, my brother's getting married, and I'll be in the Cocoa Beach area in Florida. (Not that anyone cares) But that also means I'll be there all weekend. (Friday, Saturday and Sunday) Hopefully I'll be enjoying myself, and not stressing out anymore over people who matter/don't care, that whole double edged sword junk.
In the meanwhile, I'm going to finish packing up my shirts and shorts. ... oh.. right. I don't have a suit. -.-; Guess I'll get one down there I guess. Those things are expensive. Hm... It's also going to be -hot.- Guess a white suit might do or one of those breathable fabric suits... which I bet are a lot more expensive. To be honest I'm a bit heh... anxious and worried. Will I fall asleep? Will I act stupid? Will I mess up? Arrgh... I wish I lost some more weight during the summer, but bleh...
Speaking of worries...
Has anyone ever had this happen? You worry and worry about someone, so when they finally appear, you have a small chat, and have the humility to go ahead and ask if YOU did something wrong?
Naturally, as this is the fandom most associated (And sorta true more than half the time) with drama, so naturally, you get a "I was busy with other things that don't involve *gasp* you!" and the like? Frankly, I'm half insulted, half.. well, I'm fully insulted, but half of it is, "I have to stop insinuating that I had to do with life's problems." and the other is just stupid me not accepting criticism on my outlook. Frankly, you COULD HAVE told me what was wrong. Naturally, I'd want to help etc. Which is probably why some people WOULDN'T want me to, and that's alright.
I've also had the pleasure of being graced with people saying, "YOU CAUSE DRAMA!" when they have -no- idea nor have any idea what I'm doing behind the curtains. They just see the OTHER person ranting and raving while I literally go insane trying to calm the person down and smacking them silent for them to only realize that THEY themselves are at fault for the drama that was being raised? So they wander off and whisper whisper in other people's ears saying that you were the cause?
To those people that say, "YOU CAUSE DRAMA!" I say, "Shut the hell up and look at it from my perspective." Especially to those who are the head of communities, or other sorts of positions of power... "Why isn't he banned yeeet?" "Why isn't my constant attempts of whining working?!" It's a piss off and quite irritating.
Hm... let's see.
Ban him right away = Drama
Ban him publicly = Drama
Ban him after showing EVERYONE the rules, etc. = Drama + Feeling of totalitarianism
Kick him = Drama for admin abuse.
... can anyone win?
Side note: Why nice guys finish last, and kindhearted and generous guys die.
Nice People, especially in this fandom, let alone in the entire world, have been taken advantage of, and continue to be taken advantage of. Eventually they wisen up and stop/slow it down a bit, or become so outraged they become something they didn't want to be.
Kindhearted Generous Guys: They are taken advantage of for everything they have. Money, abilities (Art, Music, etc.) their mere presence, etc. And the reason why I say they die, is... well, from the mere meaning of the word of "Generosity." It loops in on itself and destroys the word. Example.
Nice guy creates shelter. He pours money, time and effort into building it. People use the shelter. People demand/ask for more, nice guy does so. Other people tell him to stop, he's being taken advantage of. He knows this, but can't stop. So he continues on and on and on, until he's broke, tired, and broken. He asks help from the people he's helped, and gets shunned / forgotten, as THEY pursue their own goals, forgetting about the person who helped them through their troubles. Of course, some people will admit that they had help from this guy. But usually when it's far too late, or not enough. (aka giving him a sandwich on their way to work.) And so, the nice guy dies. In more than one way. Be it physically, rotting in an alley, or personality wise. Where he is no longer who he once was.
A bitter, angry, and sick individual, cursing at all of everyone and everything, lashing out with fury, no caring who it was, but feeling bitter ever tearing remorse, at what he had become, fueling his hate even more.
Am I like that? I don't know. I don't judge myself. I go by what people tell me I am. As long as they know what I have to do and what I'm willing to do for people who I care about. Naturally my friends are MY FRIENDS, and I'm extremely gullible, as what people have told me. But then again... my "Family," will always take first priority. Always.
Crazy man, out~
In the meanwhile, I'm going to finish packing up my shirts and shorts. ... oh.. right. I don't have a suit. -.-; Guess I'll get one down there I guess. Those things are expensive. Hm... It's also going to be -hot.- Guess a white suit might do or one of those breathable fabric suits... which I bet are a lot more expensive. To be honest I'm a bit heh... anxious and worried. Will I fall asleep? Will I act stupid? Will I mess up? Arrgh... I wish I lost some more weight during the summer, but bleh...
Speaking of worries...
Has anyone ever had this happen? You worry and worry about someone, so when they finally appear, you have a small chat, and have the humility to go ahead and ask if YOU did something wrong?
Naturally, as this is the fandom most associated (And sorta true more than half the time) with drama, so naturally, you get a "I was busy with other things that don't involve *gasp* you!" and the like? Frankly, I'm half insulted, half.. well, I'm fully insulted, but half of it is, "I have to stop insinuating that I had to do with life's problems." and the other is just stupid me not accepting criticism on my outlook. Frankly, you COULD HAVE told me what was wrong. Naturally, I'd want to help etc. Which is probably why some people WOULDN'T want me to, and that's alright.
I've also had the pleasure of being graced with people saying, "YOU CAUSE DRAMA!" when they have -no- idea nor have any idea what I'm doing behind the curtains. They just see the OTHER person ranting and raving while I literally go insane trying to calm the person down and smacking them silent for them to only realize that THEY themselves are at fault for the drama that was being raised? So they wander off and whisper whisper in other people's ears saying that you were the cause?
To those people that say, "YOU CAUSE DRAMA!" I say, "Shut the hell up and look at it from my perspective." Especially to those who are the head of communities, or other sorts of positions of power... "Why isn't he banned yeeet?" "Why isn't my constant attempts of whining working?!" It's a piss off and quite irritating.
Hm... let's see.
Ban him right away = Drama
Ban him publicly = Drama
Ban him after showing EVERYONE the rules, etc. = Drama + Feeling of totalitarianism
Kick him = Drama for admin abuse.
... can anyone win?
Side note: Why nice guys finish last, and kindhearted and generous guys die.
Nice People, especially in this fandom, let alone in the entire world, have been taken advantage of, and continue to be taken advantage of. Eventually they wisen up and stop/slow it down a bit, or become so outraged they become something they didn't want to be.
Kindhearted Generous Guys: They are taken advantage of for everything they have. Money, abilities (Art, Music, etc.) their mere presence, etc. And the reason why I say they die, is... well, from the mere meaning of the word of "Generosity." It loops in on itself and destroys the word. Example.
Nice guy creates shelter. He pours money, time and effort into building it. People use the shelter. People demand/ask for more, nice guy does so. Other people tell him to stop, he's being taken advantage of. He knows this, but can't stop. So he continues on and on and on, until he's broke, tired, and broken. He asks help from the people he's helped, and gets shunned / forgotten, as THEY pursue their own goals, forgetting about the person who helped them through their troubles. Of course, some people will admit that they had help from this guy. But usually when it's far too late, or not enough. (aka giving him a sandwich on their way to work.) And so, the nice guy dies. In more than one way. Be it physically, rotting in an alley, or personality wise. Where he is no longer who he once was.
A bitter, angry, and sick individual, cursing at all of everyone and everything, lashing out with fury, no caring who it was, but feeling bitter ever tearing remorse, at what he had become, fueling his hate even more.
Am I like that? I don't know. I don't judge myself. I go by what people tell me I am. As long as they know what I have to do and what I'm willing to do for people who I care about. Naturally my friends are MY FRIENDS, and I'm extremely gullible, as what people have told me. But then again... my "Family," will always take first priority. Always.
Crazy man, out~
Yes, a thousand times yes, especially during the spring of this year >.>
Congratulations on the wedding and stuffs. Hopefully getting away from the drama of life (well.... kinda. Guessing by your luck it's going to end up in "out of the frying pan, into the fire" :/) will help you out a little to be able to relax and not worry (as much) about the people you love ^^ I'm positive that the lives of the people you help every day can be stable enough to survive a week's absence (and hey, if you're gone for less time, that's just better! ^^)
In any case... Yes, you might be the nice, giving guy who's always ready to give to help his friends and especially his family. For that, you're a good person in a very self-centered, "evil" world. While nice guys might finish last, they tend to be remembered as the people who really did good by people in life and tend to have the nice eulogies and the special place in people's hearts that nobody really forgets, even if they try.
Yeah, you might be a little bitter at times, hon, but it's only what makes you human. Stress does bad shit to good people, and things are pretty stressful for ya at this time of life... I can say personally I don't blame you for being... quirky I think is the best way to put it, because you've never really been outright douchebag/asshole/[generic, displeasing insult here]. The worst you've gone in my book is "Caring friend who just needed to vent". :/ nuffin wrong with that.
I wubs you Mephi, you're part of my family and as such I can't say that you'll ever be forgotten. Just remember: we all have limits, and it's okay to take a break from everything and just take a few days to yourslf when you need it, and even if nice guys -do- finish last, that doesn't mean they don't live better lives overall, surrounded by people who care and love them. Be as cynical as you like, but there's always going to be people there to give you a hug and smile, and be a shoulder to cry on.