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Self-Care is Important
5 years ago
Hi guys - wanted to make this journal as a means to not only try to get back into some good mental health, but to get some stuff out there so you guys can take care of yourselves too and notice some of these red flags sooner. Just a bit of practice in positivity and self-care this Halloween. Everyone handles their own problems differently, so this is in no way an 'official guide' or anything to feeling better ... these are just some of the things I've noticed in some toxic people in my life, and thought it might be helpful to share incase any of you guys are going through the same thing in one way of another. Please - Take care of yourselves! <3
If you ever have a 'friend' :
1. who makes excuses and lies about shit to cover their own trail
2. who takes advantage of your generosity / kindness and refuses to change their behavior when you point things out to them that upset you
3. who makes you feel like shit constantly, and when you try to tell them about it they ignore or lash out at you
4. who disregards your concerns for them and instead argues with you and tells you how its none of your business
5. who lashes out at you for certain things, but is a hypocrite to the same things they lashed out at you for
6. who doesn't try to understand or talk to you, but expects so much from you in turn and acts selfishly
7. who uses you to get what they want and doesn't care about how you feel
8. who owes you a bunch of different things or money and they don't do any of the things or pay you back after a really long time
9. who is two faced and either talks badly behind your back, or publicly acts being 'anonymous' about who they are talking about
10. who copies your hard earned work or something you care about and then tries to turn it on you as if you copied them
11. who gets their other friends to hunt down and harass you or other people because they didn't like something you/they said or did
12. who never takes responsibility for their actions and always tries to dodge around whatever they can to avoid looking bad
13. who has a huge ego when they profit on other peoples work, efforts, or time while they barely do anything themselves.
Please have some self-respect for yourself and don't tolerate it, you deserve better then that. Try to go make some friends that will actually care about you and understand that everyone has lives, or problems they may or may not wanna talk about, who don't judge you for every choice you do or don't make and aren't gonna try to guilt trip you or talk shit behind your back and play the 'woe is me' / sympathy card to try and get attention and play the victim when there is so much more going on. Make some friends who understand that life happens, and sometimes you aren't gonna be able to keep up with every single little person or thing when there is stuff going on in your life that makes things difficult already. Making friends is difficult, I know... but hopefully some of these red flags will help you to weed out the toxic ones from the real friends. This journals is in regards to a few experiences I've had now with some people that have hurt me deeply because I was too nice and tried to make it work out, but one way or another it just got too overly toxic and I couldn't take it anymore and we had to break things off. Too many times have I put myself in a negative funk because of toxic people around me and not speaking up enough or letting them take advantage of me because I didn't wanna cause any drama or arguments with them because I hate conflict. But ... I'm gonna try to do what I can to not tolerate it anymore.
If you ever have a 'friend' who is toxic: its not worth the mental and emotional pain, you can do so much better and find people who actually care about you as a person. <3
Thank you for reading
please have some self care, be safe, and stay healthy during these crazy times.
If you ever have a 'friend' :
1. who makes excuses and lies about shit to cover their own trail
2. who takes advantage of your generosity / kindness and refuses to change their behavior when you point things out to them that upset you
3. who makes you feel like shit constantly, and when you try to tell them about it they ignore or lash out at you
4. who disregards your concerns for them and instead argues with you and tells you how its none of your business
5. who lashes out at you for certain things, but is a hypocrite to the same things they lashed out at you for
6. who doesn't try to understand or talk to you, but expects so much from you in turn and acts selfishly
7. who uses you to get what they want and doesn't care about how you feel
8. who owes you a bunch of different things or money and they don't do any of the things or pay you back after a really long time
9. who is two faced and either talks badly behind your back, or publicly acts being 'anonymous' about who they are talking about
10. who copies your hard earned work or something you care about and then tries to turn it on you as if you copied them
11. who gets their other friends to hunt down and harass you or other people because they didn't like something you/they said or did
12. who never takes responsibility for their actions and always tries to dodge around whatever they can to avoid looking bad
13. who has a huge ego when they profit on other peoples work, efforts, or time while they barely do anything themselves.
Please have some self-respect for yourself and don't tolerate it, you deserve better then that. Try to go make some friends that will actually care about you and understand that everyone has lives, or problems they may or may not wanna talk about, who don't judge you for every choice you do or don't make and aren't gonna try to guilt trip you or talk shit behind your back and play the 'woe is me' / sympathy card to try and get attention and play the victim when there is so much more going on. Make some friends who understand that life happens, and sometimes you aren't gonna be able to keep up with every single little person or thing when there is stuff going on in your life that makes things difficult already. Making friends is difficult, I know... but hopefully some of these red flags will help you to weed out the toxic ones from the real friends. This journals is in regards to a few experiences I've had now with some people that have hurt me deeply because I was too nice and tried to make it work out, but one way or another it just got too overly toxic and I couldn't take it anymore and we had to break things off. Too many times have I put myself in a negative funk because of toxic people around me and not speaking up enough or letting them take advantage of me because I didn't wanna cause any drama or arguments with them because I hate conflict. But ... I'm gonna try to do what I can to not tolerate it anymore.
If you ever have a 'friend' who is toxic: its not worth the mental and emotional pain, you can do so much better and find people who actually care about you as a person. <3
Thank you for reading
please have some self care, be safe, and stay healthy during these crazy times.
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