To give some background as to why I'm making this journal, let me explain. Recently a close friend of mine recently made a call that seems to have been a little hard to do. They may have broken somebody's heart, but they did what they believed would make themselves happier. This leads me to my subject:

Making choices for your own happiness.

Many times people in relationships don't make a decision because they'd be hurting the other person emotionally. Most of the time they tell themselves that making that decision would be selfish, even if it would ultimately result in their happiness, and end up choosing to stay in a situation that makes them unhappy.

Making a choice to get out of an intolerable situation to benefit yourself is NOT selfish. Never let the others that are affected lead you to believe that it is. Now, I'm not saying that when one little issue springs up that you should jump ship. Issues pop up in relationship, that's just a fact. However, when the issue is a recurring problem that makes you unhappier as time goes on, the it's time to make a call. At that point, it comes down to doing what's necessary for yourself.

Sure, if you go by the dictionary definition of selfish, that sort of call is selfish to make. BUT, for those with this viewpoint, sometimes it's needed to be selfish. There's no sense in keeping yourself in an unhappy situation for the sake of another's happiness. Why live your life being miserable? In my opinion, the point of life is to be happy. If you're consciously making the decision to stay unhappy, then you're completely missing the point.

Basically what I'm trying to say is if a decision drops onto your plate that affects your happiness with your life, you need to do what's right by yourself. Live your life according to you, and don't let someone take it over with their will. Trust me, you'll be happier in the end.

And to my friend who inspired this tiny rant: I'm proud of you for making the right call.

Your resident Marret,

~ Khris K.