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16 years ago
So my Facebook account is pretty much locked down in what I can and can't post, because it's got a fair number of my co-workers on that particular list.
That being said, this particular journal entry is looking for an unbiased opinion on who you guys think is in the right here, if such a position does, indeed, exist. It's gonna be one of them TLDR things for sure, but... if you're bored, well... humor me.
The skinny of the situation...
Four months ago, I had a co-worker approach me with a sticky note that had the following three options on it:
Yes
No
Maybe
Problem was, she approached me with this particular sticky note on a Friday, and I was mere minutes from being let go for the day. So, I hurriedly added and checked my own box to the bottom:
All of the above
She saw that, and was pretty much shut down. She had no idea how to respond to that, and frankly, I had no real concerns either way. Don't get me wrong, she's quite attractive, but I didn't know if she was serious, so I went ahead and added my own bit of playfulness to it.
The next week when I was at work on the midshift, I got a call. Long story short, it was her, and she was at a bar with our boss. She was completely smashed, but the call was distracting from the mundane bit remaining in the shift. She ended up calling me a fag for putting that checkbox on the sticky note, and abruptly hanging up on me, after telling me that she'd defriended me on Facebook.
Okay, no big deal.
So I finish the shift, and get home, only to have a call from her a couple hours later. ANOTHER long story short, she wanted to know where I lived so she could come over and "fuck me". Not knowing how to handle the sudden bout of awkwardness, I told her my address, but I didn't give her my apartment number. Eventually, she gave up and we talked for a couple hours before her phone's battery died.
Two weeks later, she calls me and asks if she can come over to my place just to hang out. Someone naively, I agreed, and told her that that'd be fun, since I had no other plans.
So she comes over, we're hanging out and having fun, when she tells me, and I quote, "I wanna make out with you so bad right now."
This goes in the only direction it could possibly go from this point. But what really gets me is that after it's all said and done, she says, "You know, in another life, I think I could love you."
What she meant by this was "in another life where I'm not married".
Yeah, I'd officially just engaged in an affair with her.
Alright, the scrollbar is starting to grow a bit thin on the side there, so the story is getting a bit longer than I'd intended.
Since August 1st, however, things between us have gone south. Horribly south. Somewhere along the lines, she decided that I was a stalker, had placed a GPS tracking device on her car, and was out to get her.
Ultimately, the problem is that she's incredibly promiscuous. Not only has she been engaged in an affair with ME behind her husband's back, but there's been AT LEAST one other, as well. And she's used my knowledge of this to seriously rape my heart strings by flirting with other males in my presence.
But these days—and now, the point of this journal—she thinks that she can fix the problems between us by ignoring me. Which of course doesn't fly for the following reasons:
1. We're co-workers, and we exchange information between ourselves daily in the pursuit of accomplishing our work-related tasking.
2. As co-workers, we have to deal with each other nearly every single day.
3. Though she might be over me, the fact that she simply cut it all off without a single explanation about ANYTHING has left me completely clueless, confused, and disoriented.
Call me a monster for engaging in carnal acts with a woman that's already married, I don't care. My ethical and/or moral beliefs don't really acknowledge the concept of "cheating". If I had a partner that was doing that with me and I found out, I'd be more interested in finding out what the relationship was lacking more than I would be angry at the other individual.
So yeah... based on what completely sporadic information I've provided, what do you guys think?
About everything.
That being said, this particular journal entry is looking for an unbiased opinion on who you guys think is in the right here, if such a position does, indeed, exist. It's gonna be one of them TLDR things for sure, but... if you're bored, well... humor me.
The skinny of the situation...
Four months ago, I had a co-worker approach me with a sticky note that had the following three options on it:
Yes
No
Maybe
Problem was, she approached me with this particular sticky note on a Friday, and I was mere minutes from being let go for the day. So, I hurriedly added and checked my own box to the bottom:
All of the above
She saw that, and was pretty much shut down. She had no idea how to respond to that, and frankly, I had no real concerns either way. Don't get me wrong, she's quite attractive, but I didn't know if she was serious, so I went ahead and added my own bit of playfulness to it.
The next week when I was at work on the midshift, I got a call. Long story short, it was her, and she was at a bar with our boss. She was completely smashed, but the call was distracting from the mundane bit remaining in the shift. She ended up calling me a fag for putting that checkbox on the sticky note, and abruptly hanging up on me, after telling me that she'd defriended me on Facebook.
Okay, no big deal.
So I finish the shift, and get home, only to have a call from her a couple hours later. ANOTHER long story short, she wanted to know where I lived so she could come over and "fuck me". Not knowing how to handle the sudden bout of awkwardness, I told her my address, but I didn't give her my apartment number. Eventually, she gave up and we talked for a couple hours before her phone's battery died.
Two weeks later, she calls me and asks if she can come over to my place just to hang out. Someone naively, I agreed, and told her that that'd be fun, since I had no other plans.
So she comes over, we're hanging out and having fun, when she tells me, and I quote, "I wanna make out with you so bad right now."
This goes in the only direction it could possibly go from this point. But what really gets me is that after it's all said and done, she says, "You know, in another life, I think I could love you."
What she meant by this was "in another life where I'm not married".
Yeah, I'd officially just engaged in an affair with her.
Alright, the scrollbar is starting to grow a bit thin on the side there, so the story is getting a bit longer than I'd intended.
Since August 1st, however, things between us have gone south. Horribly south. Somewhere along the lines, she decided that I was a stalker, had placed a GPS tracking device on her car, and was out to get her.
Ultimately, the problem is that she's incredibly promiscuous. Not only has she been engaged in an affair with ME behind her husband's back, but there's been AT LEAST one other, as well. And she's used my knowledge of this to seriously rape my heart strings by flirting with other males in my presence.
But these days—and now, the point of this journal—she thinks that she can fix the problems between us by ignoring me. Which of course doesn't fly for the following reasons:
1. We're co-workers, and we exchange information between ourselves daily in the pursuit of accomplishing our work-related tasking.
2. As co-workers, we have to deal with each other nearly every single day.
3. Though she might be over me, the fact that she simply cut it all off without a single explanation about ANYTHING has left me completely clueless, confused, and disoriented.
Call me a monster for engaging in carnal acts with a woman that's already married, I don't care. My ethical and/or moral beliefs don't really acknowledge the concept of "cheating". If I had a partner that was doing that with me and I found out, I'd be more interested in finding out what the relationship was lacking more than I would be angry at the other individual.
So yeah... based on what completely sporadic information I've provided, what do you guys think?
About everything.
But yeah, I guess that's really all I can do at this point. Just keep on keepin' on until she gets fired, I get deployed, or some other unforeseen event. I dunno, I guess that ultimately my problem is that I'm lead by my heart. If it was as simple as just, "Yeah, that was one fine booty call," everything would be fine.
I dunno... guess we'll see what happens. Not something I really have to worry about this month. Just ventin'.
Fo' sho.
I'm in the military, and she's a contractor. She can't go and talk to my supervisor about it for the same reason that I can't: she's been... familiar with him, as well. And it'd just make things all kinds of deliciously awkward. So her only solution to the entire thing is to blow me off like it never happened. Which would be fine, but there are several questions I need answered, first.
And since she's not feeling particularly chatty about it, well... I'm stuck between a rock and a hard place.
Questions are pretty much just in regards to things that I let her borrow while we were under more amicable terms. A book, a couple movies, et cetera. I just wanna know if she has them, and if she does, if I can get them back.