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It upsets me so much when people can't accept "no"
4 years ago
ugh
i just
i had to tell off a "friend" a month ago who kept promising they'd do stuff for me, then never did, and they never contacted me except to ask for me to give something, making me feel like I didn't matter to them whatsoever. told them about this, told them to not promise me things because it'd take me a while to forgive them, they promised to do better...then promptly started making promises of gifts again around my birthday. tried to ask a favor of me again for seeing me in a stream, not really contacting me outside that. again. so i told them off, blocked them everwhere, I was DONE. told them as such, that I wanted nothing to do with them again.
yesterday they sent me a friend request on Twitch. what the hell. IF I SAY I DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU AGAIN, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THINGS HAVE CHANGED SUDDENLY A MONTH LATER??? No means NO. It hurts because I did think this person was cool, had some fun in the times they weren't making promises or ignoring me, but ugh, I can't do this. I can't accept being treated this way!
Remember, "no" means "no"! If someone says they don't want anything to do with you, be sad, but please move on. Maybe things will change later. Maybe not. Let the other person decide when that is; trying to do it yourself will make things worse.
i just
i had to tell off a "friend" a month ago who kept promising they'd do stuff for me, then never did, and they never contacted me except to ask for me to give something, making me feel like I didn't matter to them whatsoever. told them about this, told them to not promise me things because it'd take me a while to forgive them, they promised to do better...then promptly started making promises of gifts again around my birthday. tried to ask a favor of me again for seeing me in a stream, not really contacting me outside that. again. so i told them off, blocked them everwhere, I was DONE. told them as such, that I wanted nothing to do with them again.
yesterday they sent me a friend request on Twitch. what the hell. IF I SAY I DON'T WANT ANYTHING TO DO WITH YOU AGAIN, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THINGS HAVE CHANGED SUDDENLY A MONTH LATER??? No means NO. It hurts because I did think this person was cool, had some fun in the times they weren't making promises or ignoring me, but ugh, I can't do this. I can't accept being treated this way!
Remember, "no" means "no"! If someone says they don't want anything to do with you, be sad, but please move on. Maybe things will change later. Maybe not. Let the other person decide when that is; trying to do it yourself will make things worse.
OwOFurey9247
~owofurey9247
Hm...it sounds like they were just using you, which is disgusting. But the fact that they decided "Hm, let's go to a person who said they wanted nothing to do with me and try to become friends with them" is also disgusting as well. I quite feel bad that this happened to you. But hey, at least you have friends who are actual friends. That gotta be a good thing.
Nimono
~nimono
OP
They were hoping very much that I would change my mind, based on their vent in a server we both happened to be in right after I blocked him. Naively hoping that it would quickly clear up and I'd come back and we'd be friends again.
OwOFurey9247
~owofurey9247
Ah. Thanks for the clarification. But they are quite naive for thinking that, considering how they promised to do many things for you. And never did it. And then they promised to stop doing that. And THEN they kept doing it. So yeah, you're quite in the right here.
Jasmith
~jasmith
I'm really sorry to hear that
Nimono
~nimono
OP
*hugs*
Jasmith
~jasmith
*hug*uwu
