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The End of a Semester
Posted 15 years agoMy procrastination always catches up to me. I start out doing so well but then by the end of the semester... I blunder it. Next semester will be better, I always say. This time I really mean it. Carrying an A average and then letting it slide because of a sinus infection is stupid.
Self-deprecation Ailne is self-deprecating. D:<
Self-deprecation Ailne is self-deprecating. D:<
On Volumes of Furriness
Posted 15 years agoI don't know if labels are necessary, but they seem innate to humans. Am I a furry, am I not a furry; I guess it depends who you ask. I don't wear a tail or animal ears in public, I don't use words like "yiff" except in jest. I do not and never will own a fursuit. My fiancé is just that; a fiancé, not a "mate." I'm just a girl who relates to animals. I also really enjoy the fantastical notion of humans with animal characteristics, especially given the converse propensity on humanity's part to place themselves on some sort of evolutionary pedestal above other creatures.
If you ask my aforementioned fiancé, he would say I am a furry. Why? Because I frequent FurAffinity, and Furcadia, one of my best friends is a furry (hi noma!) and I've made passing jokes about such and such animal being hot.
What do I feel I am? I don't know. Does it matter? No, not really. At times I feel I don't fit in the fandom at all because I refuse to dress up in public, and I'm not into the heavier kinks (vore, cub, etc., etc.). I try not to talk too much about being a member of the fandom because so many people have preconceived notions of what a furry is, and I am unable to articulate what it means to me. I don't deny my involvement, I just don't make it particularly well known. I am not ashamed, but I cannot advocate something without the proper reasoning behind it, and at this point in time I don't know.
At one point in time my fursona (Ailne) was built as an escape for me. When I was about 13 I discovered Wolfhome, and from there found Furcadia. Ailne was a way to get away from my life and my troubles. If I was her, I wouldn't be in the sucky situations I found myself in, in reality. She became a social bridge for me, meeting friends that I still retain and cherish even today, ten years later. I wasn't a heavy RP'er, but online I was her, and she could be what I couldn't.
My fiancé and I have been together for over three years and he recently found out about this fuzzy side of me, and to be frank I think he's repulsed. He's one of those people who thinks that furry = obsessed with bestiality, etc. I've tried to explain my perception of things ("Many people just relate to animals well, and respect them. For many people it isn't sexual, but anything can be sexualized." (Cough, Rule 34, which I also explained.) "For me it's a way to express the person I would be if I could sculpt myself.") but he doesn't get it. He doesn't want to, it's perverse, end of story. He's not a vanilla guy, but he's dug in his heels on this one.
It makes me feel isolated that he doesn't get it. I try not to let him see the hardcore side of FA, because explaining that "there are people so much freakier than me" isn't a great justification. I love him, it just hurts that he doesn't get it.
So, do any of you have people in your lives who you cherish but just don't get it/don't want to? If so, I'd love to hear about them.
If you ask my aforementioned fiancé, he would say I am a furry. Why? Because I frequent FurAffinity, and Furcadia, one of my best friends is a furry (hi noma!) and I've made passing jokes about such and such animal being hot.
What do I feel I am? I don't know. Does it matter? No, not really. At times I feel I don't fit in the fandom at all because I refuse to dress up in public, and I'm not into the heavier kinks (vore, cub, etc., etc.). I try not to talk too much about being a member of the fandom because so many people have preconceived notions of what a furry is, and I am unable to articulate what it means to me. I don't deny my involvement, I just don't make it particularly well known. I am not ashamed, but I cannot advocate something without the proper reasoning behind it, and at this point in time I don't know.
At one point in time my fursona (Ailne) was built as an escape for me. When I was about 13 I discovered Wolfhome, and from there found Furcadia. Ailne was a way to get away from my life and my troubles. If I was her, I wouldn't be in the sucky situations I found myself in, in reality. She became a social bridge for me, meeting friends that I still retain and cherish even today, ten years later. I wasn't a heavy RP'er, but online I was her, and she could be what I couldn't.
My fiancé and I have been together for over three years and he recently found out about this fuzzy side of me, and to be frank I think he's repulsed. He's one of those people who thinks that furry = obsessed with bestiality, etc. I've tried to explain my perception of things ("Many people just relate to animals well, and respect them. For many people it isn't sexual, but anything can be sexualized." (Cough, Rule 34, which I also explained.) "For me it's a way to express the person I would be if I could sculpt myself.") but he doesn't get it. He doesn't want to, it's perverse, end of story. He's not a vanilla guy, but he's dug in his heels on this one.
It makes me feel isolated that he doesn't get it. I try not to let him see the hardcore side of FA, because explaining that "there are people so much freakier than me" isn't a great justification. I love him, it just hurts that he doesn't get it.
So, do any of you have people in your lives who you cherish but just don't get it/don't want to? If so, I'd love to hear about them.
