Bored Vixen is BORED
General | Posted 14 years agoA lot of you probably don't realize this, but I am an independant contractor/lease purchase over the road truck driver. This means, I drive a semi truck, currently contracted with JB Hunt, hauling their trailers all over the eastern US. I drive my ass off, then sit on my ass. So, I get bored. Hence one reason I love FA so much. Lots and lots of sexy female furs to oogle. I love boobs! Anyone know any good links to great sexy boobs? Send me links please!
Con Ponderings.
General | Posted 14 years agoI will be at Indy Fur Con for sure, but.. does anyone want to see me at Midwest FurFest if I decide to go? Anyone got roomspace for a vixen?
Why is everyone so gung ho about AC?
General | Posted 14 years agoIt's a horridly expensive, horridly overcrowded, horridly run con. It's run by one of the most egotistical arrogant asshats in the world. No wonder he's a fucking cockroach. Hardly any programming worth going to, just over crowed hallways and such, with a dealer's room so crowded you can never find anyone. And did I mention expensive? Sheesh! I refuse to pay more than $69 a night for a hotel room EVER! Just like MFF, until such time as they return to a cheaper hotel system, I will never attend.
My journal, my opinion. If you don't like it, oh well.
My journal, my opinion. If you don't like it, oh well.
"The Rules" from the male side. Now here at last!
General | Posted 14 years ago1.Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. We need it up, you need it down. You don't hear us griping about you leaving it down.
2.Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present yet again!
3.Sometimes we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
4.Sunday = sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
5.Don't cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then you're stuck with her.
6.Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
7.Crying is blackmail.
8.Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!
9.We don't remember dates. Mark birthdays and anniversaries on a calendar. Remind us frequently beforehand.
10.Most guys own three pairs of shoes - tops. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
11.Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
12.Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
13.A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
14.Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
15.If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us. We refuse to answer.
16.If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
17.You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
18.Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
19.Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we.
20.The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out. Get over it. And quit whining to your girlfriends.
21.ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
22.If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
23.We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
24.If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
25.If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
26.When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.
27.Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.
28.You have enough clothes.
29.You have too many shoes.
30.Foreign films are best left to foreigners. (Unless it's Bruce Lee or some war flick where it doesn't really matter what they're saying anyway.)
31.It is neither in your best interest or ours to take the quiz together. No, it doesn't matter which quiz.
32.I am in shape. ROUND is a shape.
33.Thank you for reading this; Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight, but did you know we really don't mind that, it's like camping.
2.Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present yet again!
3.Sometimes we are not thinking about you. Live with it.
4.Sunday = sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
5.Don't cut your hair. Ever. Long hair is always more attractive than short hair. One of the big reasons guys fear getting married is that married women always cut their hair, and by then you're stuck with her.
6.Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.
7.Crying is blackmail.
8.Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work! Strong hints do not work! Obvious hints do not work! Just say it!
9.We don't remember dates. Mark birthdays and anniversaries on a calendar. Remind us frequently beforehand.
10.Most guys own three pairs of shoes - tops. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
11.Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.
12.Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.
13.A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
14.Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days.
15.If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us. We refuse to answer.
16.If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one.
17.You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done. Not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.
18.Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
19.Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we.
20.The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out. Get over it. And quit whining to your girlfriends.
21.ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.
22.If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that.
23.We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you.
24.If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.
25.If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
26.When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really.
27.Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation, or monster trucks.
28.You have enough clothes.
29.You have too many shoes.
30.Foreign films are best left to foreigners. (Unless it's Bruce Lee or some war flick where it doesn't really matter what they're saying anyway.)
31.It is neither in your best interest or ours to take the quiz together. No, it doesn't matter which quiz.
32.I am in shape. ROUND is a shape.
33.Thank you for reading this; Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight, but did you know we really don't mind that, it's like camping.
How To Start A Fight
General | Posted 14 years agoGot this post from another group. Laughed so hard I had to share it!
One year, I decided to buy my mother-in-law a cemetery plot as a Christmas gift...The next year, I didn't buy her a gift. When she asked me why, I replied, "Well, you still haven't used the gift I bought you last year!" And that's how the fight started.....
My wife and I were sitting at a table at her high school reunion, and she kept staring at a drunken man swigging his drink as he sat alone at a nearby table. I asked her, "Do you know him?" "Yes", she sighed, "He's my old boyfriend.... I understand he took to drinking right after we split up those many years ago, and I hear he hasn't been sober since." "My God!" I said, "Who would think a person could go on celebrating that long?" And then the fight started...
When our lawn mower broke and wouldn't run, my wife kept hinting to me that I should get it fixed. But, somehow I always had something else to take care of first, the shed, the boat, making beer, always something more important to me. Finally she thought of a clever way to make her point. When I arrived home one day, I found her seated in the tall grass, busily snipping away with a tiny pair of sewing scissors. I watched silently for a short time and then went into the house. I was gone only a minute, and when I came out again I handed her a toothbrush. I said, "When you finish cutting the grass, you might as well sweep the driveway."
The doctors say I will walk again, but I will always have a limp.
My wife was hinting about what she wanted for our upcoming anniversary. She said, "I want something shiny that goes from 0 to 150 in about 3 seconds." I bought her a bathroom scale.
And then the fight started......
One year, I decided to buy my mother-in-law a cemetery plot as a Christmas gift...The next year, I didn't buy her a gift. When she asked me why, I replied, "Well, you still haven't used the gift I bought you last year!" And that's how the fight started.....
My wife and I were sitting at a table at her high school reunion, and she kept staring at a drunken man swigging his drink as he sat alone at a nearby table. I asked her, "Do you know him?" "Yes", she sighed, "He's my old boyfriend.... I understand he took to drinking right after we split up those many years ago, and I hear he hasn't been sober since." "My God!" I said, "Who would think a person could go on celebrating that long?" And then the fight started...
When our lawn mower broke and wouldn't run, my wife kept hinting to me that I should get it fixed. But, somehow I always had something else to take care of first, the shed, the boat, making beer, always something more important to me. Finally she thought of a clever way to make her point. When I arrived home one day, I found her seated in the tall grass, busily snipping away with a tiny pair of sewing scissors. I watched silently for a short time and then went into the house. I was gone only a minute, and when I came out again I handed her a toothbrush. I said, "When you finish cutting the grass, you might as well sweep the driveway."
The doctors say I will walk again, but I will always have a limp.
My wife was hinting about what she wanted for our upcoming anniversary. She said, "I want something shiny that goes from 0 to 150 in about 3 seconds." I bought her a bathroom scale.
And then the fight started......
The Ultimate Dog Tease!
General | Posted 14 years agoThis is just too fucking funny!
General | Posted 14 years agoOh geesh, this one is so sad, 'Til Then, Part 2
General | Posted 14 years ago'Til Then..... Another very moving lost pet video
General | Posted 14 years agoA Rainbow Bridge song!
General | Posted 14 years agoMusic Quiz Thingamabob, copied from LiveJournal
General | Posted 15 years agoAnother in the line of music quizzes. Respond with title and artist please. The winner gets a cookie!
1. Awake on my airplane, awake on my airplane, my skin is bare, my skin is theirs. Awake on my airplane, awake on my airplane, my skin is bare, my skin is thiers.
2. Some people say a man is may out of mud. A poor man's made out of muscle and blood. Muscle and blood, and skin and bones. A mind that's weak and a back that's strong.
3. One two three, it's easy to see, but it's not that I don't care so. 'Cause I hear it all the time but they never let you know on the TV and the radio.
4. Somewhere in the distance, I hear the bells ring. Darkness settles on the town as the children start to sing.
5. He was eating twinkies as he drove along the highway. Listening to the DJ play Merle Haggard and his band.
6. When darkness falls, turn your collar to the cold. Don't be afraid, if you need someone to hold.
7. When suppertime came, the old cook came on deck, sayin' "Fella's, it's to rough to feed ya."
8. Happiness is happening, the dragons have been bled. Loveliness is everywhere, fear's just in your head.
9. Big man, Pig man. Haha, Charade you are. You well-heeled big wheel, Haha, Charade you are.
10. Oh let the sun beat down upon my face, stars fill my dream. I am a traveller of both time and space, to be where I have been.
11. I've been hearing you're concerned about my happiness. All that thought you've given me is conscience I guess.
12. Your hair's a mess you better put on a dress and get your feet back on the ground. You fix your eyes for some city guys who wouldn't save you if you drowned.
13. I've got your picture, of me and you. You wrote "I Love You", I love me too. I sti there staring and there's nothing else to do.
14. There's an angel standing in the sun. And he's crying in a loud voice, "This is the Supper of the Mighty One!"
15. I'm on my way I'm making it. I've got it grow, yeah. So much larger than life.
16. Jump down the shelters to get away. The boys are cockin' up their guns. Tell us General, is it party time? If it is can we all come?
17. Through the fisheyed lens of tear stained eyes, I can barely define the shape of this moment in time. And far from flying high in clear blue skies, I'm spiralling down to the hole in the ground where I hide.
18. Then as it was, then again it will be. Though the course may change some time, rivers always reach the sea.
19. Knee deep in flowers we'll stray. We'll keep the showers away. And if I kiss you in the garden, in the moonlight will you pardon me?
20. I belong, a long way from here. Put on a poncho, played for mosquitoes and drank til I was thirsty again.
21. Seven weeks have passed now, since she left me. She shows her face to ask me how I am.
22. I'm a wheel, I'm a wheel, I can roll, I can feel. But you can't stop me turning. 'Cause I'm the sun, I'm the sun, I can move, I can run, but you'll never stop me burning.
23. Well I've never been to England, but I kinda like the Beatles. Oh I headed toward Las Vegas, only made it out to Needles.
24. I woke up in a Soho doorway, a policeman knew my name. He said "You can go sleep at home tonight if you can get up and walk away."
25. Climbing up the blind side, shining up the wall, Checking to the left and the right. Picking up the pieces, putting them away, something doesn't feel quite right.
26. Baby, although I chose this lonely life, it seems it's strangling me now. All the wild men, big cigars, gigantic car, they're all laughing at the lie.
27. Can you take me back where are people? Can you take me back? Can you take me back where are people, Brother, can you take me back?
28. There will be another song for me, someone will sing it. There will be another dream for me, someone will dream it.
29. He can make you love, he can make you cry. He will bring you down, then he'll make you high.
30. Walking home with you last night, you said the world is beautiful, and how things look that way when you're in love. I love this world!
31. Sheepdog, standing in the rain. Bullfrog, doing it again. Some kind of happiness is measured out in years. You don't know what it's like to listen to your fears.
1. Awake on my airplane, awake on my airplane, my skin is bare, my skin is theirs. Awake on my airplane, awake on my airplane, my skin is bare, my skin is thiers.
2. Some people say a man is may out of mud. A poor man's made out of muscle and blood. Muscle and blood, and skin and bones. A mind that's weak and a back that's strong.
3. One two three, it's easy to see, but it's not that I don't care so. 'Cause I hear it all the time but they never let you know on the TV and the radio.
4. Somewhere in the distance, I hear the bells ring. Darkness settles on the town as the children start to sing.
5. He was eating twinkies as he drove along the highway. Listening to the DJ play Merle Haggard and his band.
6. When darkness falls, turn your collar to the cold. Don't be afraid, if you need someone to hold.
7. When suppertime came, the old cook came on deck, sayin' "Fella's, it's to rough to feed ya."
8. Happiness is happening, the dragons have been bled. Loveliness is everywhere, fear's just in your head.
9. Big man, Pig man. Haha, Charade you are. You well-heeled big wheel, Haha, Charade you are.
10. Oh let the sun beat down upon my face, stars fill my dream. I am a traveller of both time and space, to be where I have been.
11. I've been hearing you're concerned about my happiness. All that thought you've given me is conscience I guess.
12. Your hair's a mess you better put on a dress and get your feet back on the ground. You fix your eyes for some city guys who wouldn't save you if you drowned.
13. I've got your picture, of me and you. You wrote "I Love You", I love me too. I sti there staring and there's nothing else to do.
14. There's an angel standing in the sun. And he's crying in a loud voice, "This is the Supper of the Mighty One!"
15. I'm on my way I'm making it. I've got it grow, yeah. So much larger than life.
16. Jump down the shelters to get away. The boys are cockin' up their guns. Tell us General, is it party time? If it is can we all come?
17. Through the fisheyed lens of tear stained eyes, I can barely define the shape of this moment in time. And far from flying high in clear blue skies, I'm spiralling down to the hole in the ground where I hide.
18. Then as it was, then again it will be. Though the course may change some time, rivers always reach the sea.
19. Knee deep in flowers we'll stray. We'll keep the showers away. And if I kiss you in the garden, in the moonlight will you pardon me?
20. I belong, a long way from here. Put on a poncho, played for mosquitoes and drank til I was thirsty again.
21. Seven weeks have passed now, since she left me. She shows her face to ask me how I am.
22. I'm a wheel, I'm a wheel, I can roll, I can feel. But you can't stop me turning. 'Cause I'm the sun, I'm the sun, I can move, I can run, but you'll never stop me burning.
23. Well I've never been to England, but I kinda like the Beatles. Oh I headed toward Las Vegas, only made it out to Needles.
24. I woke up in a Soho doorway, a policeman knew my name. He said "You can go sleep at home tonight if you can get up and walk away."
25. Climbing up the blind side, shining up the wall, Checking to the left and the right. Picking up the pieces, putting them away, something doesn't feel quite right.
26. Baby, although I chose this lonely life, it seems it's strangling me now. All the wild men, big cigars, gigantic car, they're all laughing at the lie.
27. Can you take me back where are people? Can you take me back? Can you take me back where are people, Brother, can you take me back?
28. There will be another song for me, someone will sing it. There will be another dream for me, someone will dream it.
29. He can make you love, he can make you cry. He will bring you down, then he'll make you high.
30. Walking home with you last night, you said the world is beautiful, and how things look that way when you're in love. I love this world!
31. Sheepdog, standing in the rain. Bullfrog, doing it again. Some kind of happiness is measured out in years. You don't know what it's like to listen to your fears.
For those I chat with a lot...
General | Posted 15 years agoI need to let you know why I disappear for days at a time. My RL job is driving a semi truck over the road, for my own company, Foxx Trucking. Thus, I never know for sure when and where I'll be able to get online. Just thought I should let you know since I see all sorts of notes about, where are you, are you ok and such. I'm fine, just doing the job I do. Trust me, the sexy machine kitsune will be online again as soon as she can.
Free Arts!
General | Posted 15 years ago$2 icon commissions
General | Posted 15 years ago
animewolfchick is doing cheap and awesomelly cool 2$ iconsCheck her out at this link: http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/2015581/
Ask Away.
General | Posted 15 years agoStolen from Wielder and Ariana Wolfmare. Wanna know anything you want (within reason) about me? Here's your chance
Few artists are man/woman enough to openly answer any and all questions thrown at them. Are you? Prove it. Copy/Paste this as a new journal entry and answer every question you get.
The rules are simple:
-You must answer every question you get no matter what it's about, and you must do so honestly
-There are no questions that can not be asked as long as they are within reason. They can be personal, about oc's, and every thing in between.
Think of it as a truth or dare of sorts, only No dare option and I can't ask anything back.
_________________________________________________________
If something gets too personal, I may either decline to answer, or send you a note instead of answering in a journal comment (if I'm comfortable telling you). I can't actually think of much I wouldn't answer though.
Few artists are man/woman enough to openly answer any and all questions thrown at them. Are you? Prove it. Copy/Paste this as a new journal entry and answer every question you get.
The rules are simple:
-You must answer every question you get no matter what it's about, and you must do so honestly
-There are no questions that can not be asked as long as they are within reason. They can be personal, about oc's, and every thing in between.
Think of it as a truth or dare of sorts, only No dare option and I can't ask anything back.
_________________________________________________________
If something gets too personal, I may either decline to answer, or send you a note instead of answering in a journal comment (if I'm comfortable telling you). I can't actually think of much I wouldn't answer though.
Try for a chance at this 2 character piece!
General | Posted 15 years ago
dragonsparda is doing a contest to be included in a 2 character piece with her character. Check it out at:http://www.furaffinity.net/journal/1961715
"Man On The Throne" - Must Watch Video by Emil Inc.
General | Posted 15 years agoI found this awesome video of an awesome song today, and I admit, it sums up how I feel about the government and politics better than I could ever put into words.
Please watch. The artist is Emil Inc.
https://youtu.be/b1f_iGNLZpU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1f_iGNLZpU&hd=1
Please watch. The artist is Emil Inc.
https://youtu.be/b1f_iGNLZpU
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b1f_iGNLZpU&hd=1
Major Rant about Con Hotels, and I don't care who reads it,
General | Posted 15 years agoOk, so, what the hell is it with con hotels wanting to charge more than the already outrageously overpriced room charges? MFF's new hotel is charging a $50 a day fee for "incidentals" on top of the $140 a day for the room, and now I've been told there is no way to avoid it.
WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS SHIT?!
What the hell are incidentals anyway? I never have the phone in the room activated at cons. I don't use room service, and I think anyone who does is just plain lazy. They overcharge horrendously for everything.
So, I guess my question is, how can this even be legal? We have to pay $125 a day for the room, which isn't worth half of that in my opinion, plus 13% tax.... and now an extra $50 a day on top of that?
Oh yeah, it's recommended to not use a debit card to pay either. So, how the heck is one who doesn't have and can't get a credit card supposed to pay? Even if I pay cash I still get charged that extra, and when and how do I get it back after the con? I bet they won't be giving out 2 $100 bills to everyone who stays there that weekend. So apparently it will get tied up on my card for weeks at least.
I don't see why hotels charge so much to start with when one can stay at a Motel 6 or Super 8 for under $50 a day. The con is paying tons of money to the hotel for the use of the con space, so I think the hotel is just ripping off everyone else who is staying there.
And don't even get me going on the normal charge for parking they have, at least we don't have to pay that, but I bet it's going to be a royal pain to get in and out of the parking lot. Hell, it's a royal pain to even get to this hotel. Has anyone even looked at a map of the place yet? 3 freaking interstates and offramps just to get to it?
Yeah, this was such a great idea to move here.
WHAT THE FUCK IS THIS SHIT?!
What the hell are incidentals anyway? I never have the phone in the room activated at cons. I don't use room service, and I think anyone who does is just plain lazy. They overcharge horrendously for everything.
So, I guess my question is, how can this even be legal? We have to pay $125 a day for the room, which isn't worth half of that in my opinion, plus 13% tax.... and now an extra $50 a day on top of that?
Oh yeah, it's recommended to not use a debit card to pay either. So, how the heck is one who doesn't have and can't get a credit card supposed to pay? Even if I pay cash I still get charged that extra, and when and how do I get it back after the con? I bet they won't be giving out 2 $100 bills to everyone who stays there that weekend. So apparently it will get tied up on my card for weeks at least.
I don't see why hotels charge so much to start with when one can stay at a Motel 6 or Super 8 for under $50 a day. The con is paying tons of money to the hotel for the use of the con space, so I think the hotel is just ripping off everyone else who is staying there.
And don't even get me going on the normal charge for parking they have, at least we don't have to pay that, but I bet it's going to be a royal pain to get in and out of the parking lot. Hell, it's a royal pain to even get to this hotel. Has anyone even looked at a map of the place yet? 3 freaking interstates and offramps just to get to it?
Yeah, this was such a great idea to move here.
Dude You Have No Quran - Really Good Video, Please Watch
General | Posted 15 years agohttp://ilovepwnage.com/video.php?v=MTI0ODE=
Since I don't know how to post a video here, I changed it to the link of it.
Since I don't know how to post a video here, I changed it to the link of it.
For those who wish to draw Cali.
General | Posted 15 years agoJust a quick note, I've finished uploading all my current commissions, and I was asked by one artist if they could try their paw at drawing Cali. Sure, go right ahead! Just let me see what you come up with is all I ask.
Judge my Character!
General | Posted 15 years agoStolen from
jinxy_falina
Please answer each one if you don't mind. Thank you.
Name of the character you judged:
1.what do you think my character/s would have a job/career in?
2.what is unique about my character/s that you enjoy?
3.what is his/her flaws?
4.What are some changes you would like to see?
5.What would you like to see my character/s doing in future pictures?
6.How old my character/s look like?
7.On a scale to 1-10 how attractive is my character/s?
8.On a scale to 1-10 how sexually attractive is my character/s?
9.On a scale to 1-10 does my character/s fit me?
10.If you could how would you personally change him/her to fit me better?
jinxy_falinaPlease answer each one if you don't mind. Thank you.
Name of the character you judged:
1.what do you think my character/s would have a job/career in?
2.what is unique about my character/s that you enjoy?
3.what is his/her flaws?
4.What are some changes you would like to see?
5.What would you like to see my character/s doing in future pictures?
6.How old my character/s look like?
7.On a scale to 1-10 how attractive is my character/s?
8.On a scale to 1-10 how sexually attractive is my character/s?
9.On a scale to 1-10 does my character/s fit me?
10.If you could how would you personally change him/her to fit me better?
A question about hearts.
General | Posted 15 years agoHow does one put those cute heart icons in a journal or shout?
How To Respect Sex Workers
General | Posted 15 years agohttp://msmagazine.com/blog/blog/201.....t-sex-workers/
Most women have strong feelings about the sex industry, be they for or against. (And many, of course, remain undecided.) When dealing with such an emotionally volatile topic, it’s easy to inadvertently silence or even insult sex workers themselves. (As a participant in sex worker activism for the past four years, I’ve seen that in action and on the page.) There’s a way to debate commercial sex while respecting the industry’s laborers. Here are some suggestions:
1) Don’t diminish or mock sex workers’ agency. When discussing a person coerced or forced into sex work, a sensitive recognition of the violation they’ve suffered is definitely in order. However, it’s important to let individuals themselves make this distinction, rather than automatically assigning them a label that indicates lack of agency. For instance, referring to all sex workers as “prostituted” or “used” can be violating in and of itself if the person identifies their work as a free choice.
Similarly, language implying that sex workers are defiled or disgusting will quickly alienate them—for instance, calling porn an “institution that systematically uses the bodies of subordinate groups as sheer sexual objects at best, and open toilets at worst,” as this Ms. blog comment does. Even abused workers don’t want the public analogizing them to waste receptacles.
There’s a way to recognize the indignities wrought upon another human being without furthering those indignities. For example, insisting that every paid act of sex is rape, regardless of how the person being paid labels it, implies that her failure to label it rape is a personal failure. No sex worker deserves to be demonized for asserting the nature of her own experiences.
2) Don’t assume your problems with the sex industry are the industry’s only problems. Some of the most time-honored criticisms of the sex industry—it solidifies patriarchy or commodifies female sexuality—are significant considerations. But they may not be top concerns among sex workers themselves, who are usually more interested in avoiding harassment or abuse at the hands of law enforcement, finding the safest possible workplace and earning a livelihood. As sex worker and artist Sadie Lune has said, “Stop punishing me just because you may not be able to imagine being me.”
3) Use language with care. Some escorts might refer to themselves as “whores” or call their friends “hookers,” but sex workers don’t trust someone outside the industry employs those words. “Sex worker” was conceived as a judgment-neutral term and is usually a safe bet if you’re unsure of what phrase would be most respectful. Some anti-industry pundits object to it on the grounds that it “legitimizes” prostitution, stripping or performing in porn. But it’s important not to use your complaints about the industry as personal attacks on everyone within it. The workers in question are “legitimate” human beings, and any framework that doesn’t recognize that needs reconfiguring.
4) Educate yourself. If you’re going to be vocal about a matter that affects countless people around the globe, inform yourself about it. Visit the websites and blogs of sex workers, activists and allies, not just here in the U.S. but abroad as well. (Sex-workers movements are active in India, Argentina, Taiwan and Sweden, to name only a few. Some resources are linked below.) Take into account the direct voices of sex workers and not just of theorists or politicians. If you see a statistic cited, check the source and examine the ways in which data was gathered. Be critical and compassionate in equal measures. Even if you take issue with the type of work they do, you’ll be sure not to trample on a sex worker’s dignity in the process.
Most women have strong feelings about the sex industry, be they for or against. (And many, of course, remain undecided.) When dealing with such an emotionally volatile topic, it’s easy to inadvertently silence or even insult sex workers themselves. (As a participant in sex worker activism for the past four years, I’ve seen that in action and on the page.) There’s a way to debate commercial sex while respecting the industry’s laborers. Here are some suggestions:
1) Don’t diminish or mock sex workers’ agency. When discussing a person coerced or forced into sex work, a sensitive recognition of the violation they’ve suffered is definitely in order. However, it’s important to let individuals themselves make this distinction, rather than automatically assigning them a label that indicates lack of agency. For instance, referring to all sex workers as “prostituted” or “used” can be violating in and of itself if the person identifies their work as a free choice.
Similarly, language implying that sex workers are defiled or disgusting will quickly alienate them—for instance, calling porn an “institution that systematically uses the bodies of subordinate groups as sheer sexual objects at best, and open toilets at worst,” as this Ms. blog comment does. Even abused workers don’t want the public analogizing them to waste receptacles.
There’s a way to recognize the indignities wrought upon another human being without furthering those indignities. For example, insisting that every paid act of sex is rape, regardless of how the person being paid labels it, implies that her failure to label it rape is a personal failure. No sex worker deserves to be demonized for asserting the nature of her own experiences.
2) Don’t assume your problems with the sex industry are the industry’s only problems. Some of the most time-honored criticisms of the sex industry—it solidifies patriarchy or commodifies female sexuality—are significant considerations. But they may not be top concerns among sex workers themselves, who are usually more interested in avoiding harassment or abuse at the hands of law enforcement, finding the safest possible workplace and earning a livelihood. As sex worker and artist Sadie Lune has said, “Stop punishing me just because you may not be able to imagine being me.”
3) Use language with care. Some escorts might refer to themselves as “whores” or call their friends “hookers,” but sex workers don’t trust someone outside the industry employs those words. “Sex worker” was conceived as a judgment-neutral term and is usually a safe bet if you’re unsure of what phrase would be most respectful. Some anti-industry pundits object to it on the grounds that it “legitimizes” prostitution, stripping or performing in porn. But it’s important not to use your complaints about the industry as personal attacks on everyone within it. The workers in question are “legitimate” human beings, and any framework that doesn’t recognize that needs reconfiguring.
4) Educate yourself. If you’re going to be vocal about a matter that affects countless people around the globe, inform yourself about it. Visit the websites and blogs of sex workers, activists and allies, not just here in the U.S. but abroad as well. (Sex-workers movements are active in India, Argentina, Taiwan and Sweden, to name only a few. Some resources are linked below.) Take into account the direct voices of sex workers and not just of theorists or politicians. If you see a statistic cited, check the source and examine the ways in which data was gathered. Be critical and compassionate in equal measures. Even if you take issue with the type of work they do, you’ll be sure not to trample on a sex worker’s dignity in the process.
10 Reasons Why Gay Marriage is Wrong
General | Posted 15 years ago01) Being gay is not natural. Real Americans always reject unnatural things like eyeglasses, polyester, and air conditioning.
02) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.
03) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.
04) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn't changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can't marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.
05) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Britney Spears' 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.
06) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn't be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren't full yet, and the world needs more children.
07) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.
08) Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That's why we have only one religion in America.
09) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That's why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.
10) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven't adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.
Re-post this if you believe love makes a marriage.
02) Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people will make you tall.
03) Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage contract.
04) Straight marriage has been around a long time and hasn't changed at all; women are still property, blacks still can't marry whites, and divorce is still illegal.
05) Straight marriage will be less meaningful if gay marriage were allowed; the sanctity of Britney Spears' 55-hour just-for-fun marriage would be destroyed.
06) Straight marriages are valid because they produce children. Gay couples, infertile couples, and old people shouldn't be allowed to marry because our orphanages aren't full yet, and the world needs more children.
07) Obviously gay parents will raise gay children, since straight parents only raise straight children.
08) Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are imposed on the entire country. That's why we have only one religion in America.
09) Children can never succeed without a male and a female role model at home. That's why we as a society expressly forbid single parents to raise children.
10) Gay marriage will change the foundation of society; we could never adapt to new social norms. Just like we haven't adapted to cars, the service-sector economy, or longer life spans.
Re-post this if you believe love makes a marriage.
New Character needs drawing. Lottie, the Lot Lizard.
General | Posted 15 years agoMost of you know I'm an over the road truck driver, trying to pay off my own rig nowadays. Several years ago, my now exwife, Heather, came up with a character for me, Lottie, the Lot Lizard. Now, for those who don't know, a lot lizard is a hooker/prostitute, who works a truck stop parking lot, looking for truck drivers to fuck or suck for usually far more than a buck. I've seen lots of lot lizards in my time on the road, both nice looking and butt ugly, and more than a few were trans gals too.
What I'm wanting is to find someone who can draw Lottie for me. Anyone interested?
What I'm wanting is to find someone who can draw Lottie for me. Anyone interested?
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