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General | Posted 9 years agoI'm gay now, but apparently my taste in erotic writing never got the message, and my taste in erotic art misheard it. x.x;
I mean, there's nothing really wrong with it, except that it feels kinda weird that the idea of any sort of romance or sexual activity with actual boys, or photos/videos thereof leaves me cold at best, but I still love erotic RP/fiction with male characters, and my tastes in art of men have just narrowed to "fembois, shotas, and huge muscular non-humans, with exceptions to be made for boys outside this category with sufficiently large bums."
EDIT: Oh, and to cut off the "Maybe you're really bi!" people... Bi with fluctuating degrees of fem-bias is where I was before the "now" mentioned above. This is distinctly different from how I felt and what I found attractive when that was still a label that felt like it fit.
I mean, there's nothing really wrong with it, except that it feels kinda weird that the idea of any sort of romance or sexual activity with actual boys, or photos/videos thereof leaves me cold at best, but I still love erotic RP/fiction with male characters, and my tastes in art of men have just narrowed to "fembois, shotas, and huge muscular non-humans, with exceptions to be made for boys outside this category with sufficiently large bums."
EDIT: Oh, and to cut off the "Maybe you're really bi!" people... Bi with fluctuating degrees of fem-bias is where I was before the "now" mentioned above. This is distinctly different from how I felt and what I found attractive when that was still a label that felt like it fit.
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General | Posted 9 years agowhy does anyone even pretend to care about me
Triggers: An educational primer.
General | Posted 9 years ago[Trigger Warning for brief mention of rape. If having that in here upsets you, this post is absolutely for you, so try to keep an open mind and keep reading.]
I've seen a number of people use "Triggered" on this site as if it's a cute term for "offended" or "butthurt" that gets back at those evil SJWs. (never mind that getting back at them frequently involves siding with literally the same people who have been bashing and denigrating furries for years) This is a problem as using it this way is mocking the mentally ill or otherwise neuroatypical. Why? That will take explaining what triggers are.
A trigger, to put it briefly, is a stimulus that induces an attack related to a certain mental illness or neurological disorder. They're associated most strongly with PTSD, but also tie into phobias, anxiety disorders, depression, even autism. When someone is triggered, this can be anything from slight discomfort to raging panic attacks of flashbacks, depending on the circumstances or the scenario.
Triggers can be literally anything -- they don't have to make sense anyone but the person that has them, they just have to have a connection that induces the proper mental or emotional state. A classic example is being triggered by a certain song or band because it was the favorite of an abuser or playing during a traumatic event, but they can be even stranger and more nonsensical to outsider than that -- maybe the food their abuser would always cook afterwards to "apologize." I'm triggered by recycling yards (nearly had a panic attack last time I was at one) because when my Dad's terrifying rages were at their worst and most frequent, he owned a recycling yard.
Now, what are trigger warnings? They're not censorship, or an attempt to make conditions worse. Treatment for conditions involving triggers involves controlled exposure to them. Emphasis on CONTROLLED. Being unexpectedly exposed to said trigger usually makes the condition worse. That's what trigger warnings are for. They're not some sort of censorship, or a cocoon to keep people from dealing with reality. They're a way that people who have certain triggers can avoid triggering things unless they're ready for them, or encounter them in the safest, most comfortable environment they can.
What should you use trigger warnings on? Really, that depends. Common phobias and PTSD/anxiety causes are usually pretty accepted, such as rape, trypophobia (holes), or similar. If you regularly interact with someone or someone's following your content and ask you to mark certain things, you should also probably mark those. Many of the things that you'd normally mark on pics or stories anyway are also potential triggers -- rape again, death, guro, etc. No-one's actually expecting you to, without prompting, tag 10,000 different things from wombats to budgies wearing aprons.
And... that's all I can think of. If someone has more constructive to add, feel free. If you're going to try to mock the concept of triggers or whatever, just don't bother.
I've seen a number of people use "Triggered" on this site as if it's a cute term for "offended" or "butthurt" that gets back at those evil SJWs. (never mind that getting back at them frequently involves siding with literally the same people who have been bashing and denigrating furries for years) This is a problem as using it this way is mocking the mentally ill or otherwise neuroatypical. Why? That will take explaining what triggers are.
A trigger, to put it briefly, is a stimulus that induces an attack related to a certain mental illness or neurological disorder. They're associated most strongly with PTSD, but also tie into phobias, anxiety disorders, depression, even autism. When someone is triggered, this can be anything from slight discomfort to raging panic attacks of flashbacks, depending on the circumstances or the scenario.
Triggers can be literally anything -- they don't have to make sense anyone but the person that has them, they just have to have a connection that induces the proper mental or emotional state. A classic example is being triggered by a certain song or band because it was the favorite of an abuser or playing during a traumatic event, but they can be even stranger and more nonsensical to outsider than that -- maybe the food their abuser would always cook afterwards to "apologize." I'm triggered by recycling yards (nearly had a panic attack last time I was at one) because when my Dad's terrifying rages were at their worst and most frequent, he owned a recycling yard.
Now, what are trigger warnings? They're not censorship, or an attempt to make conditions worse. Treatment for conditions involving triggers involves controlled exposure to them. Emphasis on CONTROLLED. Being unexpectedly exposed to said trigger usually makes the condition worse. That's what trigger warnings are for. They're not some sort of censorship, or a cocoon to keep people from dealing with reality. They're a way that people who have certain triggers can avoid triggering things unless they're ready for them, or encounter them in the safest, most comfortable environment they can.
What should you use trigger warnings on? Really, that depends. Common phobias and PTSD/anxiety causes are usually pretty accepted, such as rape, trypophobia (holes), or similar. If you regularly interact with someone or someone's following your content and ask you to mark certain things, you should also probably mark those. Many of the things that you'd normally mark on pics or stories anyway are also potential triggers -- rape again, death, guro, etc. No-one's actually expecting you to, without prompting, tag 10,000 different things from wombats to budgies wearing aprons.
And... that's all I can think of. If someone has more constructive to add, feel free. If you're going to try to mock the concept of triggers or whatever, just don't bother.
Blargh
General | Posted 10 years agoGoing through my massively overstuffed OneTab, and finding more images and users than I'd like that aren't on here anymore. Rezkar and "Beauty in Red" is one, and I'm gonna try to keep an eye out so that I don't forget even more, like the first one I did.
Christmas memelist
General | Posted 12 years agoSTEP ONE
# Make a post to your journal. The post should contain your list of ten holiday wishes. The wishes can be anything at all, from simple and fandom-related ("I'd love a christmas icon that's just for me") to medium ("I wish for _____ on DVD") to really big ("All I want for Christmas is a new car/computer/house/TV"). The important thing is to make sure these wishes are things you really, truly want.
STEP TWO
# Surf around your friends list (or friendsfriends, or just random journals) to see who has posted their list. And now, here's the important part...
# If you see a wish you can grant, and it's in your heart to do so, make someone's wish come true. Sometimes one person's trash is another's treasure, and if you have a leather jacket you don't want or a gift certificate you won't use - or even know where you could get someone's dream purebred Basset Hound for free - do it.
# You needn't spend money on these wishes unless you want to. The point isn't to put people out, it's to provide everyone a chance to be someone else's holiday elf - to spread the joy. Gifts can be made anonymously or not - it's your call. There are no guarantees with this project, and no strings attached. Just... wish, and it might come true. Give and you might receive. You'll have the joy of knowing you made someone's holiday special.
My listlet
1. Ref sheets or art for my characters. The problem being that a lot of them still need some of their physical details nailed down, which would be easier for me if I could see what some of the options look like... but I don't know who'd be willing to put up with that, and even if I did, I'm not sure I'd want to put someone through that.
2. Dealing with my debt. It's not as bad as it could be, but I've kind of slid back out of control after being on track to get it off for a while, because of stress and sales and interesting kickstarters and things. Plus, parents are having financial issues, so I can't count on some of the money I was counting on.
3. A way to make all my friends happy. I deal with too many that are depressed or facing issues, and I want to help, but I can't always.
4. To be a cute little mousegirl offline, too.
5. Some sex toys. Silly, but... yeah.
6. To stop feeling so tired and useless all the time.
7. To be able to help people.
8. More gamies for my new WiiU.
9. Monies.
10. To be cute.
# Make a post to your journal. The post should contain your list of ten holiday wishes. The wishes can be anything at all, from simple and fandom-related ("I'd love a christmas icon that's just for me") to medium ("I wish for _____ on DVD") to really big ("All I want for Christmas is a new car/computer/house/TV"). The important thing is to make sure these wishes are things you really, truly want.
STEP TWO
# Surf around your friends list (or friendsfriends, or just random journals) to see who has posted their list. And now, here's the important part...
# If you see a wish you can grant, and it's in your heart to do so, make someone's wish come true. Sometimes one person's trash is another's treasure, and if you have a leather jacket you don't want or a gift certificate you won't use - or even know where you could get someone's dream purebred Basset Hound for free - do it.
# You needn't spend money on these wishes unless you want to. The point isn't to put people out, it's to provide everyone a chance to be someone else's holiday elf - to spread the joy. Gifts can be made anonymously or not - it's your call. There are no guarantees with this project, and no strings attached. Just... wish, and it might come true. Give and you might receive. You'll have the joy of knowing you made someone's holiday special.
My listlet
1. Ref sheets or art for my characters. The problem being that a lot of them still need some of their physical details nailed down, which would be easier for me if I could see what some of the options look like... but I don't know who'd be willing to put up with that, and even if I did, I'm not sure I'd want to put someone through that.
2. Dealing with my debt. It's not as bad as it could be, but I've kind of slid back out of control after being on track to get it off for a while, because of stress and sales and interesting kickstarters and things. Plus, parents are having financial issues, so I can't count on some of the money I was counting on.
3. A way to make all my friends happy. I deal with too many that are depressed or facing issues, and I want to help, but I can't always.
4. To be a cute little mousegirl offline, too.
5. Some sex toys. Silly, but... yeah.
6. To stop feeling so tired and useless all the time.
7. To be able to help people.
8. More gamies for my new WiiU.
9. Monies.
10. To be cute.
So...
General | Posted 16 years agoDecided to add my LJ to my profile as my website. It's a whole mess of weirdness, random thoughts, events in my life, and stuff.
