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Posted 3 months agoWell, ive gotten back into streaming again~ And ill be posting stuff here letting everyone know when i start. Average start time is around 11pm (MST) But been replaying FF10. Let me know if you are down for knowing when i get started~
Inc~
Posted 6 months agoHere we go. Its been a wile and i have a ton to upload.
Lets talk about it~
Posted 4 years agoIts been a wile, but i got to experience something quite odd. Something that i thought is gone in the world, as i never really saw it much or delt with on a day to day basis. But thanks to the magic of World of Warcraft and some random guild, it became something i was damn near confronted with. And that thing is: Toxic masculinity.
Almost everyone i have talked with, chatted with, or even befriended for an extended period of time was never even close to it. Even being in the fandom itself! Being the nomad i am, i have got to live in quite a number of states, and houses, and towns. Work at many many different jobs and types of jobs. Even those that i would have thought would of been prime candidate. His name was Grant, he worked at the double tree with me. Was 6'2" and around 220 and was an armature wrestler. He was kind, gentle, and very respectful to everyone around him. He was my favorite of all the coworkers i had there. So from my life views and even my life bubble, i had never even got a whiff of it. Sure i would see it in Vines/TicToks and Youtube and stuff. So i knew it was a mind set that was out in the world, but i thought it was rare! Untill i joined this guild~
Being in the discord with these "Chads" was down right painful at times at just how bad hearing them "just mess around" was. The word Bro was unironically used no less then 5 times a min. Telling someone that they are trash, or garbage, or a shithead, over and over. So even when i got "cool" with everyone, i started to really poke and prod with some deep questions. When i called the guild "a guild full of Chads" they would giggle and almost enjoy that fact. It made me really wonder if they just have zero self awareness or being a Chad is what they aspired to be! I was just at a loss with them. There was 1 or 2 ppl in this guild that mostly played a long just to keep the peace, but that to me showed how bad things had gotten.
I even asked a few of them, if we got together at a bar in Vegas for like a guild meet up. Would you hug anyone. I got a big "naaaaa~" from most ppl. I asked this question because of how my life is with the fandom and others i meet in the fandom. A hug is normal! Its like our handshake, but it shows a level of trust and intimacy that i would never get with anyone in that guild, save for maybe 1 or 2 others. But there was 1 thing that i was shocked at! My icon in discord is my furry self. And i can remember in the middle of the raid when we where setting up for a boss, one of them ask "hey Kai (my in game name is Kaimetsu) are you a furry?" Now im an odd person, and i love questions that might start a topic of debate, or even deep personal questions. I am awesome at dealing with them. So i said with zero hesitation "yes i am". And there was a few seconds of silence that followed, but the guy who asked the question had one of the best replys ive head in a long time "ahh ok cool. I like it when others dont hide who they are". I got asked a few other random questions about furries and stuff, as i was cool with them and i was more then happy to answer questions. But thankfully, i am no longer in that guild because they server transferred no joke, yesterday. So it was a nice way to leave all that behind. I did end up sending personal msgs to those few in that guild that was good to be around.
But now that i am free from that bro soup, i really hope that anyone doesnt have to live anywhere near that social sub set. It was awful. Is there anyone that does? How do you deal with that? Do you try and fit in and shit talk others and bro your way out of stuff?
Almost everyone i have talked with, chatted with, or even befriended for an extended period of time was never even close to it. Even being in the fandom itself! Being the nomad i am, i have got to live in quite a number of states, and houses, and towns. Work at many many different jobs and types of jobs. Even those that i would have thought would of been prime candidate. His name was Grant, he worked at the double tree with me. Was 6'2" and around 220 and was an armature wrestler. He was kind, gentle, and very respectful to everyone around him. He was my favorite of all the coworkers i had there. So from my life views and even my life bubble, i had never even got a whiff of it. Sure i would see it in Vines/TicToks and Youtube and stuff. So i knew it was a mind set that was out in the world, but i thought it was rare! Untill i joined this guild~
Being in the discord with these "Chads" was down right painful at times at just how bad hearing them "just mess around" was. The word Bro was unironically used no less then 5 times a min. Telling someone that they are trash, or garbage, or a shithead, over and over. So even when i got "cool" with everyone, i started to really poke and prod with some deep questions. When i called the guild "a guild full of Chads" they would giggle and almost enjoy that fact. It made me really wonder if they just have zero self awareness or being a Chad is what they aspired to be! I was just at a loss with them. There was 1 or 2 ppl in this guild that mostly played a long just to keep the peace, but that to me showed how bad things had gotten.
I even asked a few of them, if we got together at a bar in Vegas for like a guild meet up. Would you hug anyone. I got a big "naaaaa~" from most ppl. I asked this question because of how my life is with the fandom and others i meet in the fandom. A hug is normal! Its like our handshake, but it shows a level of trust and intimacy that i would never get with anyone in that guild, save for maybe 1 or 2 others. But there was 1 thing that i was shocked at! My icon in discord is my furry self. And i can remember in the middle of the raid when we where setting up for a boss, one of them ask "hey Kai (my in game name is Kaimetsu) are you a furry?" Now im an odd person, and i love questions that might start a topic of debate, or even deep personal questions. I am awesome at dealing with them. So i said with zero hesitation "yes i am". And there was a few seconds of silence that followed, but the guy who asked the question had one of the best replys ive head in a long time "ahh ok cool. I like it when others dont hide who they are". I got asked a few other random questions about furries and stuff, as i was cool with them and i was more then happy to answer questions. But thankfully, i am no longer in that guild because they server transferred no joke, yesterday. So it was a nice way to leave all that behind. I did end up sending personal msgs to those few in that guild that was good to be around.
But now that i am free from that bro soup, i really hope that anyone doesnt have to live anywhere near that social sub set. It was awful. Is there anyone that does? How do you deal with that? Do you try and fit in and shit talk others and bro your way out of stuff?
a thought on cons
Posted 8 years agoive been going to cons now for 10 years. lots of highs. lots of lows. and very little PCD from them all. i think i might of had it for like 2 of them. but there has been something big that has been happening. something i couldnt understand let alone put into words. i felt like i had tons of regrets, and lots of unhappiness afterwords. but then after watching 2 friends of mine have a bit of an issue, it all clicked.
there are 2 types of con goers. those that goto the con to have a meaningful event with someone. and those who want to have small ones with lots of people.
and way to often, when person #1 try's to have that meaningful even with person #2 it ends up being really bad for person #1. sad to say i am often person #1 way to much, but there have been times where i have been person #2. but watching my friends who both like each other very much almost ruin there friendship over this kinda opened my eyes to the idea of what was going on.
thoughts? ideas? comments?
there are 2 types of con goers. those that goto the con to have a meaningful event with someone. and those who want to have small ones with lots of people.
and way to often, when person #1 try's to have that meaningful even with person #2 it ends up being really bad for person #1. sad to say i am often person #1 way to much, but there have been times where i have been person #2. but watching my friends who both like each other very much almost ruin there friendship over this kinda opened my eyes to the idea of what was going on.
thoughts? ideas? comments?
basic communication
Posted 8 years agoThe idea of basic communication seems lost, with so many people. its been a non stop issue for the last 3-5 of my life. i made a vlog about it as i had a to get a lot of small detail up and out.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dr7OTV26U_s
i feel like i dont ask for much when asking for communication. but i am often met with walls, deflection, and sometimes accusation. even being told that all i do is assume. witch is all down to the basics of communication! when i ask questions for information and get zero details, what is one to do? a simple answer would be not say anything at all to that person. and to a total stranger i would agree. but when im being told this from a friend. a friend! it becomes quite clear that i am not treated like a friend. and it confuses the shit out of me. how do i even call said person a friend if i don't get the basics?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dr7OTV26U_s
i feel like i dont ask for much when asking for communication. but i am often met with walls, deflection, and sometimes accusation. even being told that all i do is assume. witch is all down to the basics of communication! when i ask questions for information and get zero details, what is one to do? a simple answer would be not say anything at all to that person. and to a total stranger i would agree. but when im being told this from a friend. a friend! it becomes quite clear that i am not treated like a friend. and it confuses the shit out of me. how do i even call said person a friend if i don't get the basics?
boredom...what do you do?
Posted 8 years agoit was a question i asked on my vlog today and it made me wonder what others do when they become bored? do you sit and do nothing? do you do things you already have done over and over? or do you deal with it in other constructive ways? if so do tell. i would love to know!
and check out my vlog on youtube~
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZhZQBPPGpvs
and check out my vlog on youtube~
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZhZQBPPGpvs
a daily vlog~
Posted 9 years agoi'm attempting to do a daily vlog about me, my life. stuff that happens and just wanting to be on the Youtube platform. wanting to just have a random thing to document how things are going for me, perhaps to give a different prospective on things going on. everything will be unscripped and just off the top of my head. the most i will do is have talking points. and this isnt just a 1 way thing. i would always enjoy others getting involved as well. asking questions or stuff like that. so without further ado, lets get this train wreck a rolling!!!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCv.....BG5ODC4jQEWTyA
feel free to comment there or here with any feedback you can give. all constrictive criticism is welcomed!
https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCv.....BG5ODC4jQEWTyA
feel free to comment there or here with any feedback you can give. all constrictive criticism is welcomed!
STREAMS! MEMES! DARK SOULS!!!
Posted 9 years agohey all! doing the dark souls streaming again. come watch me be uber salty at everything <3<3<3
https://www.twitch.tv/nomadthewolf
https://www.twitch.tv/nomadthewolf
do you like dark souls? do you like streams?
Posted 9 years agobeing someone who has never playing any of the dark souls games, and wanting to give them a shot. and ive wanted to try my hand at streaming. for all the ppl who love the dark souls games ill be starting with #1 and working my way upto #3. i wanted to see if anyone would be interested in watching me play the souls games and failing a crap ton.
yah? or nah?
yah? or nah?
Am I doing it wrong?
Posted 9 years agoI am a super friendly guy by nature. It's what I love most about the fandom. I am widely accepted by tons of random people, and I'm not prejudged right from the start. And once others see me, they come to find I'm a cool dude and pretty chill. A friendship is formed rather easily, cuz most furs are nice guys and gals. So it goes really smoothy. But what if I want "more"?
Now I have to quantify by what I mean as " more ". I call it a close friendship. Things in common. Our interests line up and we find common ground to stand on and relate to. When walls and barriers are able to be lowered and we are able to share deeper thoughts and feelings about anything. The topics we have in common, or others were find along the way.
Once we have let eachother into the deeper parts of our feelings we start to know even more about eachother. Then other things start to happen. Phone numbers are traded. Voice chats become common. Very particular details start to be shared. The " TMI " zone is long gone. RPs might happen. Pics are shared. Feelings grow stronger. Desires are shared. Not everything stated above happen for everyone. Maybe only 1 part happens. Maybe 2. Maybe all and more. But things start to have deeper meanings. And I become invested in to that person. Almost to a fault.
And there in lays my issue. I become invested. On one hand, it had lead to the best friendships I've ever had. Shikan, crash, achi and a whole special chat room that has 9 ppl in it that I would give them anything and everything. They have enriched my life more then I can ever explain. But I would not be who I am without them. But now the down side to this all.
Of the top of my head I can name 5 ppl right now who I felt like where close friends of mine. T, V, K, B, P. Each one of them have done different things to make me wonder and question where I am in there live's. And when I feel like I want to question them on where I am or why I feel this way, I feel like I'm in the wrong. Becuase they have been close and we shared things to make me classifying then as close friends. But I still feel like they are not there anymore. And my attempts to bring them back to being closer to me had only been met with failure and pain.
So much pain that the idea of just not chatting with them anymore has started to sound like the best option. But because I'm invested in them emotionally, it becomes this ever lasting rubber band fest of me trying to bring them close. And when it doesn't work, it hurts worce. But I try again. And I fail and my soul starts to hurt and it takes over my whole day. And I'm left with endless questions and self doubt. And I don't know what to do with myself even to the friends that truely love and honor me and my life. I'm a lifeless husk of a person. And if I bring this up to anyone, I feel like a paranoid, jealous, envoys, pathetic little shit. So I wonder. Should I stop trying to make close friends?
I say this to so many people that I still believe. "Don't let a few bad apples spoil you for the rest of the world" I'm just at there point where I want to stop this pain. And this is the only way I know how to.
Now this is not here to out anyone. And this is not here to guilt anyone into anything. This is hear for my own experience and thoughts to become real. I'm sharing my mind, and my feelings. That's all.
Now I have to quantify by what I mean as " more ". I call it a close friendship. Things in common. Our interests line up and we find common ground to stand on and relate to. When walls and barriers are able to be lowered and we are able to share deeper thoughts and feelings about anything. The topics we have in common, or others were find along the way.
Once we have let eachother into the deeper parts of our feelings we start to know even more about eachother. Then other things start to happen. Phone numbers are traded. Voice chats become common. Very particular details start to be shared. The " TMI " zone is long gone. RPs might happen. Pics are shared. Feelings grow stronger. Desires are shared. Not everything stated above happen for everyone. Maybe only 1 part happens. Maybe 2. Maybe all and more. But things start to have deeper meanings. And I become invested in to that person. Almost to a fault.
And there in lays my issue. I become invested. On one hand, it had lead to the best friendships I've ever had. Shikan, crash, achi and a whole special chat room that has 9 ppl in it that I would give them anything and everything. They have enriched my life more then I can ever explain. But I would not be who I am without them. But now the down side to this all.
Of the top of my head I can name 5 ppl right now who I felt like where close friends of mine. T, V, K, B, P. Each one of them have done different things to make me wonder and question where I am in there live's. And when I feel like I want to question them on where I am or why I feel this way, I feel like I'm in the wrong. Becuase they have been close and we shared things to make me classifying then as close friends. But I still feel like they are not there anymore. And my attempts to bring them back to being closer to me had only been met with failure and pain.
So much pain that the idea of just not chatting with them anymore has started to sound like the best option. But because I'm invested in them emotionally, it becomes this ever lasting rubber band fest of me trying to bring them close. And when it doesn't work, it hurts worce. But I try again. And I fail and my soul starts to hurt and it takes over my whole day. And I'm left with endless questions and self doubt. And I don't know what to do with myself even to the friends that truely love and honor me and my life. I'm a lifeless husk of a person. And if I bring this up to anyone, I feel like a paranoid, jealous, envoys, pathetic little shit. So I wonder. Should I stop trying to make close friends?
I say this to so many people that I still believe. "Don't let a few bad apples spoil you for the rest of the world" I'm just at there point where I want to stop this pain. And this is the only way I know how to.
Now this is not here to out anyone. And this is not here to guilt anyone into anything. This is hear for my own experience and thoughts to become real. I'm sharing my mind, and my feelings. That's all.
yay tagged~
Posted 10 years ago1. You started to play videogames at the age of...?
5 or 6
2. First game you ever played?
super mario brothers
3. First console you owned?
NES!
4. Consoles you own/owned?
NES, SNES, Genesis, Gameboy, PS1, Gameboy SP, Xbox360
5. Your favorite genre(s)?
Metroidvania, RPGs, Sandbox games
6. Favorite game character(s)?
Link. Ratchet. Dust.
7. Which element(s) in games is/are most important for you (story, graphic etc.)?
story~
8. You don't care about ...?
FPSs
9. Prefer PC or Console?
PC ALL THE FUCKING WAY!!!
10. Your current 3 Fav games?
forza. dust. GTA5
11. 3 Games you didn't like...
so many to put here >_<
12. One game that's totally overrated in your opinion?
the final fantasy MMOs
13. Ever played an online game, if yes which one(s)?
tons of them!
14. What do you think about ...Tomb Raider?
only really played the first 2. i enjoyed them
15. ...Tetris?
i got to level 100 on the NES.
16. ...Sonic?
as much hate as he gets. i still like him~
17. ...Spyro?
never played any of his games. but i love purple, and i love dragons.
18. ...The Sims?
i cant play that game for long periods of time. no idea why.
19. ...Legend of Zelda?
one of the all time greats.
20. ... Assassin's Creed?
got REALLY shitty after #2
21. GAME OVER!!!
THE NAIL IN THE COFFIN!!!
22. Game(s) you'd love to see?
this is kinda a hard. i only want to see games that are made by ppl who love to make games. not because its a sequel. LOOKING AT YOU ASS CREED!!!
23. Game(s) you're waiting for at the moment?
fallout 4!
24. Tag some gamers here, if you want to.
YOU! ya you! no no. that other guy. no not him. there! him! you~
5 or 6
2. First game you ever played?
super mario brothers
3. First console you owned?
NES!
4. Consoles you own/owned?
NES, SNES, Genesis, Gameboy, PS1, Gameboy SP, Xbox360
5. Your favorite genre(s)?
Metroidvania, RPGs, Sandbox games
6. Favorite game character(s)?
Link. Ratchet. Dust.
7. Which element(s) in games is/are most important for you (story, graphic etc.)?
story~
8. You don't care about ...?
FPSs
9. Prefer PC or Console?
PC ALL THE FUCKING WAY!!!
10. Your current 3 Fav games?
forza. dust. GTA5
11. 3 Games you didn't like...
so many to put here >_<
12. One game that's totally overrated in your opinion?
the final fantasy MMOs
13. Ever played an online game, if yes which one(s)?
tons of them!
14. What do you think about ...Tomb Raider?
only really played the first 2. i enjoyed them
15. ...Tetris?
i got to level 100 on the NES.
16. ...Sonic?
as much hate as he gets. i still like him~
17. ...Spyro?
never played any of his games. but i love purple, and i love dragons.
18. ...The Sims?
i cant play that game for long periods of time. no idea why.
19. ...Legend of Zelda?
one of the all time greats.
20. ... Assassin's Creed?
got REALLY shitty after #2
21. GAME OVER!!!
THE NAIL IN THE COFFIN!!!
22. Game(s) you'd love to see?
this is kinda a hard. i only want to see games that are made by ppl who love to make games. not because its a sequel. LOOKING AT YOU ASS CREED!!!
23. Game(s) you're waiting for at the moment?
fallout 4!
24. Tag some gamers here, if you want to.
YOU! ya you! no no. that other guy. no not him. there! him! you~
Nomad being a Nomad again~
Posted 10 years ago
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Baphnediaignorance is bliss...? (CWM)
Posted 10 years agoHey everyone! Nomad here and trying something out. I wanted to get some feedback on things and have some real topic discussions. So i'm gonna try out a small segment called "CHAT WITH ME!" and talk about random things, feelings, food. you name it! I want to have full on debates about your feelings on whatever topic is at hand. So the first one i want to try out today is ignorance, and if its better just not knowing.
There are lots of days i ask myself this. Am i better of not knowing? Am i happier knowing the truth? I haven't had to deal with this issue much in the past, but its been creeping up on me this year. So i wanted to talk about it!
example #1:
So your poking friend #1 of yours to hang, and after some time you find out that he is just gonna stay in and play video games. So you tell him cool and have fun with that! But you poke friend #2 to hang and he says sure! So you make your way over to his place, and then after say 10 min or so, friend #1 comes over.
Now there could be lots of reasons why he could of come over! He maybe wanted to play video games with that dude. So he made plans with him to come over and rock some league games or something. All you know is that he said that he didn't want to hang with you. Now if you didn't go over to friend #2's place at all and you stayed in and watched Big hero 6 or something and never knew about him going over to friend #2's place, witch one would you rather know? That he blew you off? Or would you of been better off not knowing anything?
example #2:
So you try to poke a friend of yours, and you get no reply's. Or he does reply and he tells you that he needs to goto sleep. Anything of that nature trying to tell you that he cant talk with you. So you go hang out with a roommate and you come to see that the friend you had been trying to poke has been chatting with your roommate just fine.
Same kinda issue. There could be lots of reasons of why he didn't want to talk, but all you know is that you where told something and you took that as truth. Then come to find out that it was just a lie and he didn't want to tell you the real reason. But say you never went to your roommate's room and find out this info. Would you have been happier knowing nothing? Just believing that he did indeed goto sleep?
Now the main topic about all of this is not to really focus on the reasons why your friend said these things to you, or if the other person is to blame. That can be another topic all together! So for now its mostly gonna be from your prospective and your feelings. Would you be happier never knowing what that friend was really doing? Or are you better off knowing the full truth.
now im testing out a straw poll for those who want to remain anonymous. http://strawpoll.me/4953223
other then that. CHAT WITH ME! <3
There are lots of days i ask myself this. Am i better of not knowing? Am i happier knowing the truth? I haven't had to deal with this issue much in the past, but its been creeping up on me this year. So i wanted to talk about it!
example #1:
So your poking friend #1 of yours to hang, and after some time you find out that he is just gonna stay in and play video games. So you tell him cool and have fun with that! But you poke friend #2 to hang and he says sure! So you make your way over to his place, and then after say 10 min or so, friend #1 comes over.
Now there could be lots of reasons why he could of come over! He maybe wanted to play video games with that dude. So he made plans with him to come over and rock some league games or something. All you know is that he said that he didn't want to hang with you. Now if you didn't go over to friend #2's place at all and you stayed in and watched Big hero 6 or something and never knew about him going over to friend #2's place, witch one would you rather know? That he blew you off? Or would you of been better off not knowing anything?
example #2:
So you try to poke a friend of yours, and you get no reply's. Or he does reply and he tells you that he needs to goto sleep. Anything of that nature trying to tell you that he cant talk with you. So you go hang out with a roommate and you come to see that the friend you had been trying to poke has been chatting with your roommate just fine.
Same kinda issue. There could be lots of reasons of why he didn't want to talk, but all you know is that you where told something and you took that as truth. Then come to find out that it was just a lie and he didn't want to tell you the real reason. But say you never went to your roommate's room and find out this info. Would you have been happier knowing nothing? Just believing that he did indeed goto sleep?
Now the main topic about all of this is not to really focus on the reasons why your friend said these things to you, or if the other person is to blame. That can be another topic all together! So for now its mostly gonna be from your prospective and your feelings. Would you be happier never knowing what that friend was really doing? Or are you better off knowing the full truth.
now im testing out a straw poll for those who want to remain anonymous. http://strawpoll.me/4953223
other then that. CHAT WITH ME! <3
man i need to post more.
Posted 11 years agoi really do! my last journal was 2 years ago! so i need a topic to talk about. anyone got one?
help! no not really~
Posted 13 years agohelp should be offered not asked for. when it is not offered then it wasn't there to start with and wont change because someone asked for it. it doesn't take much to know when something is wrong. because when you care, you will know right away. and thus it wont be rejected. do your friends the biggest favor you can. look them up. take stock in them. and show them that you care. they will love you for it~
just becuase its a bad idea, doesnt mean that its a bad idea
Posted 13 years agoRules: Just copy and paste in a comment. Most of all Just be truthful and re-post if you wish. Just be Careful posting this, you may just get the answers you didn't expect.
Don't be shy and have fun ^^
1) Would you have sex with me if you could?
2) Have you Thought about it before?
3) Where would we do it?
4) Top or Bottom?
5) How many times?
6) Position(s)?
7) rough or soft?
8) Lots of foreplay? or get right to it?
9) more than one person? or have me all to yourself?
10) what do you think it would be like if you could?
Pretty simple, just answer these questions in the journal if you like, obvious no pressure, and this is just a random spur of the moment thing. Feel free to note if you don't want to post.
Don't be shy and have fun ^^
1) Would you have sex with me if you could?
2) Have you Thought about it before?
3) Where would we do it?
4) Top or Bottom?
5) How many times?
6) Position(s)?
7) rough or soft?
8) Lots of foreplay? or get right to it?
9) more than one person? or have me all to yourself?
10) what do you think it would be like if you could?
Pretty simple, just answer these questions in the journal if you like, obvious no pressure, and this is just a random spur of the moment thing. Feel free to note if you don't want to post.
tell me what you think~
Posted 13 years agoi was linked to this randomly from a friend. and i want to know what you all think...and what do you think you suffer from?
Five Geek Social Fallacies
Within the constellation of allied hobbies and subcultures collectively known as geekdom, one finds many social groups bent under a crushing burden of dysfunction, social drama, and general interpersonal wack-ness. It is my opinion that many of these never-ending crises are sparked off by an assortment of pernicious social fallacies -- ideas about human interaction which spur their holders to do terrible and stupid things to themselves and to each other.
Social fallacies are particularly insidious because they tend to be exaggerated versions of notions that are themselves entirely reasonable and unobjectionable. It's difficult to debunk the pathological fallacy without seeming to argue against its reasonable form; therefore, once it establishes itself, a social fallacy is extremely difficult to dislodge. It's my hope that drawing attention to some of them may be a step in the right direction.
I want to note that I'm not trying to say that every geek subscribes to every one of the fallacies I outline here; every individual subscribes to a different set of ideas, and adheres to any given idea with a different amount of zeal.
In any event, here are five geek social fallacies I've identified. There are likely more.
Geek Social Fallacy #1: Ostracizers Are Evil
GSF1 is one of the most common fallacies, and one of the most deeply held. Many geeks have had horrible, humiliating, and formative experiences with ostracism, and the notion of being on the other side of the transaction is repugnant to them.
In its non-pathological form, GSF1 is benign, and even commendable: it is long past time we all grew up and stopped with the junior high popularity games. However, in its pathological form, GSF1 prevents its carrier from participating in -- or tolerating -- the exclusion of anyone from anything, be it a party, a comic book store, or a web forum, and no matter how obnoxious, offensive, or aromatic the prospective excludee may be.
As a result, nearly every geek social group of significant size has at least one member that 80% of the members hate, and the remaining 20% merely tolerate. If GSF1 exists in sufficient concentration -- and it usually does -- it is impossible to expel a person who actively detracts from every social event. GSF1 protocol permits you not to invite someone you don't like to a given event, but if someone spills the beans and our hypothetical Cat Piss Man invites himself, there is no recourse. You must put up with him, or you will be an Evil Ostracizer and might as well go out for the football team.
This phenomenon has a number of unpleasant consequences. For one thing, it actively hinders the wider acceptance of geek-related activities: I don't know that RPGs and comics would be more popular if there were fewer trolls who smell of cheese hassling the new blood, but I'm sure it couldn't hurt. For another, when nothing smacking of social selectiveness can be discussed in public, people inevitably begin to organize activities in secret. These conspiracies often lead to more problems down the line, and the end result is as juvenile as anything a seventh-grader ever dreamed of.
Geek Social Fallacy #2: Friends Accept Me As I Am
The origins of GSF2 are closely allied to the origins of GSF1. After being victimized by social exclusion, many geeks experience their "tribe" as a non-judgmental haven where they can take refuge from the cruel world outside.
This seems straightforward and reasonable. It's important for people to have a space where they feel safe and accepted. Ideally, everyone's social group would be a safe haven. When people who rely too heavily upon that refuge feel insecure in that haven, however, a commendable ideal mutates into its pathological form, GSF2.
Carriers of GSF2 believe that since a friend accepts them as they are, anyone who criticizes them is not their friend. Thus, they can't take criticism from friends -- criticism is experienced as a treacherous betrayal of the friendship, no matter how inappropriate the criticized behavior may be.
Conversely, most carriers will never criticize a friend under any circumstances; the duty to be supportive trumps any impulse to point out unacceptable behavior.
GSF2 has extensive consequences within a group. Its presence in substantial quantity within a social group vastly increases the group's conflict-averseness. People spend hours debating how to deal with conflicts, because they know (or sometimes merely fear) that the other person involved is a GSF2 carrier, and any attempt to confront them directly will only make things worse. As a result, people let grudges brew much longer than is healthy, and they spend absurd amounts of time deconstructing their interpersonal dramas in search of a back way out of a dilemma.
Ironically, GSF2 carriers often take criticism from coworkers, supervisors, and mentors quite well; those individuals aren't friends, and aren't expected to accept the carrier unconditionally.
Geek Social Fallacy #3: Friendship Before All
Valuing friendships is a fine and worthy thing. When taken to an unhealthy extreme, however, GSF3 can manifest itself.
Like GSF2, GSF3 is a "friendship test" fallacy: in this case, the carrier believes that any failure by a friend to put the interests of the friendship above all else means that they aren't really a friend at all. It should be obvious that there are a million ways that this can be a problem for the carrier's friends, but the most common one is a situation where friends' interests conflict -- if, for example, one friend asks you to keep a secret from another friend. If both friends are GSF3 carriers, you're screwed -- the first one will feel betrayed if you reveal the secret, and the other will feel betrayed if you don't. Your only hope is to keep the second friend from finding out, which is difficult if the secret in question was a party that a lot of people went to.
GSF3 can be costly for the carrier as well. They often sacrifice work, family, and romantic obligations at the altar of friendship. In the end, the carrier has a great circle of friends, but not a lot else to show for their life. This is one reason why so many geek circles include people whose sole redeeming quality is loyalty: it's hard not to honor someone who goes to such lengths to be there for a friend, however destructive they may be in other respects.
Individual carriers sometimes have exceptions to GSF3, which allow friends to place a certain protected class of people or things above friendship in a pinch: "significant others" is a common protected class, as is "work".
Geek Social Fallacy #4: Friendship Is Transitive
Every carrier of GSF4 has, at some point, said:
"Wouldn't it be great to get all my groups of friends into one place for one big happy party?!"
If you groaned at that last paragraph, you may be a recovering GSF4 carrier.
GSF4 is the belief that any two of your friends ought to be friends with each other, and if they're not, something is Very Wrong.
The milder form of GSF4 merely prevents the carrier from perceiving evidence to contradict it; a carrier will refuse to comprehend that two of their friends (or two groups of friends) don't much care for each other, and will continue to try to bring them together at social events. They may even maintain that a full-scale vendetta is just a misunderstanding between friends that could easily be resolved if the principals would just sit down to talk it out.
A more serious form of GSF4 becomes another "friendship test" fallacy: if you have a friend A, and a friend B, but A & B are not friends, then one of them must not really be your friend at all. It is surprisingly common for a carrier, when faced with two friends who don't get along, to simply drop one of them.
On the other side of the equation, a carrier who doesn't like a friend of a friend will often get very passive-aggressive and covertly hostile to the friend of a friend, while vigorously maintaining that we're one big happy family and everyone is friends.
GSF4 can also lead carriers to make inappropriate requests of people they barely know -- asking a friend's roommate's ex if they can crash on their couch, asking a college acquaintance from eight years ago for a letter of recommendation at their workplace, and so on. If something is appropriate to ask of a friend, it's appropriate to ask of a friend of a friend.
Arguably, Friendster was designed by a GSF4 carrier.
Geek Social Fallacy #5: Friends Do Everything Together
GSF5, put simply, maintains that every friend in a circle should be included in every activity to the full extent possible. This is subtly different from GSF1; GSF1 requires that no one, friend or not, be excluded, while GSF5 requires that every friend be invited. This means that to a GSF5 carrier, not being invited to something is intrinsically a snub, and will be responded to as such.
This is perhaps the least destructive of the five, being at worst inconvenient. In a small circle, this is incestuous but basically harmless. In larger groups, it can make certain social events very difficult: parties which are way too large for their spaces and restaurant expeditions that include twenty people and no reservation are far from unusual.
When everyone in a group is a GSF5 carrier, this isn't really a problem. If, however, there are members who aren't carriers, they may want occasionally to have smaller outings, and these can be hard to arrange without causing hurt feelings and social drama. It's hard to explain to a GSF5 carrier that just because you only wanted to have dinner with five other people tonight, it doesn't mean that your friendship is in terrible danger.
For some reason, many GSF5 carriers are willing to make an exception for gender-segregated events. I don't know why.
Interactions
Each fallacy has its own set of unfortunate consequences, but frequently they become worse in interaction. GSF4 often develops into its more extreme form when paired with GSF5; if everyone does everything together, it's much harder to maintain two friends who don't get along. One will usually fall by the wayside.
Similarly, GSF1 and GSF5 can combine regrettably: when a failure to invite someone is equivalent to excluding them, you can't even get away with not inviting Captain Halitosis along on the road trip. GSF3 can combine disastrously with the other "friendship test" fallacies; carriers may insist that their friends join them in snubbing someone who fails the test, which occasionally leads to a chain reaction which causes the carrier to eventually reject all of their friends. This is not healthy; fortunately, severe versions of GSF3 are rare.
Consequences
Dealing with the effects of social fallacies is an essential part of managing one's social life among geeks, and this is much easier when one is aware of them and can identify which of your friends carry which fallacies. In the absence of this kind of awareness, three situations tend to arise when people come into contact with fallacies they don't hold themselves.
Most common is simple conflict and hurt feelings. It's hard for people to talk through these conflicts because they usually stem from fairly primal value clashes; a GSF3 carrier may not even be able to articulate why it was such a big deal that their non-carrier friend blew off their movie night.
Alternately, people often take on fallacies that are dominant in their social circle. If you join a group of GSF5 carriers, doing everything together is going to become a habit; if you spend enough time around GSF1 carriers, putting up with trolls is going to seem normal.
Less commonly, people form a sort of counter-fallacy which I call "Your Feelings, Your Problem". YFYP carriers deal with other people's fallacies by ignoring them entirely, in the process acquiring a reputation for being charmingly tactless. Carriers tend to receive a sort of exemption from the usual standards: "that's just Dana", and so on. YFYP has its own problems, but if you would rather be an asshole than angstful, it may be the way to go. It's also remarkably easy to pull off in a GSF1-rich environment.
What Can I Do?
As I've said, I think that the best way to deal with social fallacies is to be aware of them, in yourself and in others. In yourself, you can try to deal with them; in others, understanding their behavior usually makes it less aggravating.
Social fallacies don't make someone a bad person; on the contrary, they usually spring from the purest motives. But I believe they are worth deconstructing; in the long run, social fallacies cost a lot of stress and drama, to no real benefit. You can be tolerant without being indiscriminate, and you can be loyal to friends without being compulsive about it.
Hey, Are You Talking About Me?
If I know you, yeah, probably I am. It doesn't mean I don't love you; most of us carry a few fallacies. Myself, I struggle with GSF 1 and 2, and I used to have a bad case of 4 until a series of disastrous parties dispelled it.
I haven't used any examples that refer to specific situations, if it has you worried. Any resemblances to geeks living or dead are coincidental.
Five Geek Social Fallacies
Within the constellation of allied hobbies and subcultures collectively known as geekdom, one finds many social groups bent under a crushing burden of dysfunction, social drama, and general interpersonal wack-ness. It is my opinion that many of these never-ending crises are sparked off by an assortment of pernicious social fallacies -- ideas about human interaction which spur their holders to do terrible and stupid things to themselves and to each other.
Social fallacies are particularly insidious because they tend to be exaggerated versions of notions that are themselves entirely reasonable and unobjectionable. It's difficult to debunk the pathological fallacy without seeming to argue against its reasonable form; therefore, once it establishes itself, a social fallacy is extremely difficult to dislodge. It's my hope that drawing attention to some of them may be a step in the right direction.
I want to note that I'm not trying to say that every geek subscribes to every one of the fallacies I outline here; every individual subscribes to a different set of ideas, and adheres to any given idea with a different amount of zeal.
In any event, here are five geek social fallacies I've identified. There are likely more.
Geek Social Fallacy #1: Ostracizers Are Evil
GSF1 is one of the most common fallacies, and one of the most deeply held. Many geeks have had horrible, humiliating, and formative experiences with ostracism, and the notion of being on the other side of the transaction is repugnant to them.
In its non-pathological form, GSF1 is benign, and even commendable: it is long past time we all grew up and stopped with the junior high popularity games. However, in its pathological form, GSF1 prevents its carrier from participating in -- or tolerating -- the exclusion of anyone from anything, be it a party, a comic book store, or a web forum, and no matter how obnoxious, offensive, or aromatic the prospective excludee may be.
As a result, nearly every geek social group of significant size has at least one member that 80% of the members hate, and the remaining 20% merely tolerate. If GSF1 exists in sufficient concentration -- and it usually does -- it is impossible to expel a person who actively detracts from every social event. GSF1 protocol permits you not to invite someone you don't like to a given event, but if someone spills the beans and our hypothetical Cat Piss Man invites himself, there is no recourse. You must put up with him, or you will be an Evil Ostracizer and might as well go out for the football team.
This phenomenon has a number of unpleasant consequences. For one thing, it actively hinders the wider acceptance of geek-related activities: I don't know that RPGs and comics would be more popular if there were fewer trolls who smell of cheese hassling the new blood, but I'm sure it couldn't hurt. For another, when nothing smacking of social selectiveness can be discussed in public, people inevitably begin to organize activities in secret. These conspiracies often lead to more problems down the line, and the end result is as juvenile as anything a seventh-grader ever dreamed of.
Geek Social Fallacy #2: Friends Accept Me As I Am
The origins of GSF2 are closely allied to the origins of GSF1. After being victimized by social exclusion, many geeks experience their "tribe" as a non-judgmental haven where they can take refuge from the cruel world outside.
This seems straightforward and reasonable. It's important for people to have a space where they feel safe and accepted. Ideally, everyone's social group would be a safe haven. When people who rely too heavily upon that refuge feel insecure in that haven, however, a commendable ideal mutates into its pathological form, GSF2.
Carriers of GSF2 believe that since a friend accepts them as they are, anyone who criticizes them is not their friend. Thus, they can't take criticism from friends -- criticism is experienced as a treacherous betrayal of the friendship, no matter how inappropriate the criticized behavior may be.
Conversely, most carriers will never criticize a friend under any circumstances; the duty to be supportive trumps any impulse to point out unacceptable behavior.
GSF2 has extensive consequences within a group. Its presence in substantial quantity within a social group vastly increases the group's conflict-averseness. People spend hours debating how to deal with conflicts, because they know (or sometimes merely fear) that the other person involved is a GSF2 carrier, and any attempt to confront them directly will only make things worse. As a result, people let grudges brew much longer than is healthy, and they spend absurd amounts of time deconstructing their interpersonal dramas in search of a back way out of a dilemma.
Ironically, GSF2 carriers often take criticism from coworkers, supervisors, and mentors quite well; those individuals aren't friends, and aren't expected to accept the carrier unconditionally.
Geek Social Fallacy #3: Friendship Before All
Valuing friendships is a fine and worthy thing. When taken to an unhealthy extreme, however, GSF3 can manifest itself.
Like GSF2, GSF3 is a "friendship test" fallacy: in this case, the carrier believes that any failure by a friend to put the interests of the friendship above all else means that they aren't really a friend at all. It should be obvious that there are a million ways that this can be a problem for the carrier's friends, but the most common one is a situation where friends' interests conflict -- if, for example, one friend asks you to keep a secret from another friend. If both friends are GSF3 carriers, you're screwed -- the first one will feel betrayed if you reveal the secret, and the other will feel betrayed if you don't. Your only hope is to keep the second friend from finding out, which is difficult if the secret in question was a party that a lot of people went to.
GSF3 can be costly for the carrier as well. They often sacrifice work, family, and romantic obligations at the altar of friendship. In the end, the carrier has a great circle of friends, but not a lot else to show for their life. This is one reason why so many geek circles include people whose sole redeeming quality is loyalty: it's hard not to honor someone who goes to such lengths to be there for a friend, however destructive they may be in other respects.
Individual carriers sometimes have exceptions to GSF3, which allow friends to place a certain protected class of people or things above friendship in a pinch: "significant others" is a common protected class, as is "work".
Geek Social Fallacy #4: Friendship Is Transitive
Every carrier of GSF4 has, at some point, said:
"Wouldn't it be great to get all my groups of friends into one place for one big happy party?!"
If you groaned at that last paragraph, you may be a recovering GSF4 carrier.
GSF4 is the belief that any two of your friends ought to be friends with each other, and if they're not, something is Very Wrong.
The milder form of GSF4 merely prevents the carrier from perceiving evidence to contradict it; a carrier will refuse to comprehend that two of their friends (or two groups of friends) don't much care for each other, and will continue to try to bring them together at social events. They may even maintain that a full-scale vendetta is just a misunderstanding between friends that could easily be resolved if the principals would just sit down to talk it out.
A more serious form of GSF4 becomes another "friendship test" fallacy: if you have a friend A, and a friend B, but A & B are not friends, then one of them must not really be your friend at all. It is surprisingly common for a carrier, when faced with two friends who don't get along, to simply drop one of them.
On the other side of the equation, a carrier who doesn't like a friend of a friend will often get very passive-aggressive and covertly hostile to the friend of a friend, while vigorously maintaining that we're one big happy family and everyone is friends.
GSF4 can also lead carriers to make inappropriate requests of people they barely know -- asking a friend's roommate's ex if they can crash on their couch, asking a college acquaintance from eight years ago for a letter of recommendation at their workplace, and so on. If something is appropriate to ask of a friend, it's appropriate to ask of a friend of a friend.
Arguably, Friendster was designed by a GSF4 carrier.
Geek Social Fallacy #5: Friends Do Everything Together
GSF5, put simply, maintains that every friend in a circle should be included in every activity to the full extent possible. This is subtly different from GSF1; GSF1 requires that no one, friend or not, be excluded, while GSF5 requires that every friend be invited. This means that to a GSF5 carrier, not being invited to something is intrinsically a snub, and will be responded to as such.
This is perhaps the least destructive of the five, being at worst inconvenient. In a small circle, this is incestuous but basically harmless. In larger groups, it can make certain social events very difficult: parties which are way too large for their spaces and restaurant expeditions that include twenty people and no reservation are far from unusual.
When everyone in a group is a GSF5 carrier, this isn't really a problem. If, however, there are members who aren't carriers, they may want occasionally to have smaller outings, and these can be hard to arrange without causing hurt feelings and social drama. It's hard to explain to a GSF5 carrier that just because you only wanted to have dinner with five other people tonight, it doesn't mean that your friendship is in terrible danger.
For some reason, many GSF5 carriers are willing to make an exception for gender-segregated events. I don't know why.
Interactions
Each fallacy has its own set of unfortunate consequences, but frequently they become worse in interaction. GSF4 often develops into its more extreme form when paired with GSF5; if everyone does everything together, it's much harder to maintain two friends who don't get along. One will usually fall by the wayside.
Similarly, GSF1 and GSF5 can combine regrettably: when a failure to invite someone is equivalent to excluding them, you can't even get away with not inviting Captain Halitosis along on the road trip. GSF3 can combine disastrously with the other "friendship test" fallacies; carriers may insist that their friends join them in snubbing someone who fails the test, which occasionally leads to a chain reaction which causes the carrier to eventually reject all of their friends. This is not healthy; fortunately, severe versions of GSF3 are rare.
Consequences
Dealing with the effects of social fallacies is an essential part of managing one's social life among geeks, and this is much easier when one is aware of them and can identify which of your friends carry which fallacies. In the absence of this kind of awareness, three situations tend to arise when people come into contact with fallacies they don't hold themselves.
Most common is simple conflict and hurt feelings. It's hard for people to talk through these conflicts because they usually stem from fairly primal value clashes; a GSF3 carrier may not even be able to articulate why it was such a big deal that their non-carrier friend blew off their movie night.
Alternately, people often take on fallacies that are dominant in their social circle. If you join a group of GSF5 carriers, doing everything together is going to become a habit; if you spend enough time around GSF1 carriers, putting up with trolls is going to seem normal.
Less commonly, people form a sort of counter-fallacy which I call "Your Feelings, Your Problem". YFYP carriers deal with other people's fallacies by ignoring them entirely, in the process acquiring a reputation for being charmingly tactless. Carriers tend to receive a sort of exemption from the usual standards: "that's just Dana", and so on. YFYP has its own problems, but if you would rather be an asshole than angstful, it may be the way to go. It's also remarkably easy to pull off in a GSF1-rich environment.
What Can I Do?
As I've said, I think that the best way to deal with social fallacies is to be aware of them, in yourself and in others. In yourself, you can try to deal with them; in others, understanding their behavior usually makes it less aggravating.
Social fallacies don't make someone a bad person; on the contrary, they usually spring from the purest motives. But I believe they are worth deconstructing; in the long run, social fallacies cost a lot of stress and drama, to no real benefit. You can be tolerant without being indiscriminate, and you can be loyal to friends without being compulsive about it.
Hey, Are You Talking About Me?
If I know you, yeah, probably I am. It doesn't mean I don't love you; most of us carry a few fallacies. Myself, I struggle with GSF 1 and 2, and I used to have a bad case of 4 until a series of disastrous parties dispelled it.
I haven't used any examples that refer to specific situations, if it has you worried. Any resemblances to geeks living or dead are coincidental.
nice~
Posted 13 years agowell. it has been a wile sense I've posted anything about how life has been going for me over here in the south. thats mostly been because it was going quite poorly! finding a job down here has been quite a battle! i think i tossed out more apps in a single month then i have in my whole life. then i only got 2 interviews out of the whole thing! so then the following month i desided to hit the trail and then go door to door in strip malls and such. got nothing out of that. then another month of mass apps online. still coming up with nothing! but along that time EP and i went out to dinner at 5 guys. and they had a now hireing sign out front. so i talked with the manager that night. and she seemed to like me. so i got home and filled out that app, and then called her the 3rd day, then 3 days later, then 3 days later, then 3 more days. but ya it seemed like how most everywhere was.
but i finally got the interview that i had been wanting. and what a day to have it on. the friday that EP and i deside that we are gonaa drive to tFF! so i get all dressed up and we head to the interview. i fucking nailed it like i do for most interviews. and i FINALY got a job down here! *dances* im even getting payed .75 cents more then her other hires >_> but my first day was on monday. it was like i thought it was gonna be. hard yet fast. but thats what i like. i dont like a job where i looking at the clock to move. i want to be doing things non stop and then blink and i have to go home XD
mmmmm tFF was one of the best cons ive been to in a loooooong time. EP and i got there at 12:30am after our 9 hour drive. went to a room party, and kinda got drunk as quick as i could with coming off of the high of getting that job~ XD then Sat was good as well. got to hang with the squeakys even more afterwords! but i had a blast! even tho we had to leave at 3PM on sunday. those 2 super short days where more fun then i had at FC~ >_> and i look forward to going back!!!
well guys. thats some updates about me. feel free to poke me if you want some more details =3
byeeeeee <3
but i finally got the interview that i had been wanting. and what a day to have it on. the friday that EP and i deside that we are gonaa drive to tFF! so i get all dressed up and we head to the interview. i fucking nailed it like i do for most interviews. and i FINALY got a job down here! *dances* im even getting payed .75 cents more then her other hires >_> but my first day was on monday. it was like i thought it was gonna be. hard yet fast. but thats what i like. i dont like a job where i looking at the clock to move. i want to be doing things non stop and then blink and i have to go home XD
mmmmm tFF was one of the best cons ive been to in a loooooong time. EP and i got there at 12:30am after our 9 hour drive. went to a room party, and kinda got drunk as quick as i could with coming off of the high of getting that job~ XD then Sat was good as well. got to hang with the squeakys even more afterwords! but i had a blast! even tho we had to leave at 3PM on sunday. those 2 super short days where more fun then i had at FC~ >_> and i look forward to going back!!!
well guys. thats some updates about me. feel free to poke me if you want some more details =3
byeeeeee <3
a new chapter~
Posted 14 years agowell todays starts day 3 of a new part of my life. i decided to move to mississippi. its my first time ill be living on the east coast. but i felt like i needed a small change. sure this is a big one, but im always ready for it! and my good friend 
electropaw said he wanted to have a roommate. so i was all to happy to join him! so far most of my time has been spent looking for a new job. the hotels around here are mostly casinos. and the hilton brand doesn't do gambling in there hotels. so i couldn't get a transfer. so im just looking for anything for now ^^
the weather here has been right up my style. mostly cuz we are so close to the coast. arounnd the 70s with a good amount of wind. and even the nights are around 50ish. so its not as cold as the bay, just the way i want it!
on the bad side, FC is now something that is up in the air for me next year. i still might be able to go, but as of this moment i dont have enough moneys for the air fair. but who knows!
so toss me some hellos on some chat programs, ive been on them more wile i got a new phone. see ya!!!
electropaw said he wanted to have a roommate. so i was all to happy to join him! so far most of my time has been spent looking for a new job. the hotels around here are mostly casinos. and the hilton brand doesn't do gambling in there hotels. so i couldn't get a transfer. so im just looking for anything for now ^^the weather here has been right up my style. mostly cuz we are so close to the coast. arounnd the 70s with a good amount of wind. and even the nights are around 50ish. so its not as cold as the bay, just the way i want it!
on the bad side, FC is now something that is up in the air for me next year. i still might be able to go, but as of this moment i dont have enough moneys for the air fair. but who knows!
so toss me some hellos on some chat programs, ive been on them more wile i got a new phone. see ya!!!
WHAT 9000?!?
Posted 14 years agook fine i didnt have to...but still~
anywho i blinked and i hit 9000 page views! so ppl do random contests for the big ones. so how about this. if you can catch the 10k and SS it and shout it on my FA. ill give a free massage to you at FC =D
deal? ok go =D
anywho i blinked and i hit 9000 page views! so ppl do random contests for the big ones. so how about this. if you can catch the 10k and SS it and shout it on my FA. ill give a free massage to you at FC =D
deal? ok go =D
Swagga Jacked!
Posted 14 years agoI've just been swagga jacked by 
because I left myself logged in on his laptop. ;)
Sorry Nomad! :P
Love, Howee.
because I left myself logged in on his laptop. ;)Sorry Nomad! :P
Love, Howee.
my trip!
Posted 14 years agoso cuz I've been making more money wile at the double tree and having payed time off, i decided that i should be doing what i said i wanted to do years ago. spend random weeks with some good friends all over the US! so my first friend that i got to do that with was electropaw but first lets remind our self's why flying is the worst thing ever, shall we?
ok so U.S. airways. booked via Priceline i got a trip that would have 1 stop in Charlotte NC. and then on to gulf port MS. so i don't know if you have looked on a map or not...but this flight over shoots it by around 650 miles. but that didn't bother me. it was a semi cheep flight and i just wanted to get there. so for reasons beyond my understanding we where delayed. we took off at around the time we should have, but somehow it took us longer to land. *shrugs* I'm not to sure why that happened but it did. and my connection flight was a 45 min gap. so when we landed. i had around 10 mins to get to the gate. and after much fast walking and those moving treadmill things, i missed it. and it was the last fight to gulf port that night. so they said "sorry" and they booked me on the next flight there, gave me 250 bucks off my next flight and free breakfast. not what i wanted...but oh well~
and wile I'm still talking about how shitty the flight was lets talk about the return trip! so once more random ass delays! the flight from NC to CA was delayed. so the flight was suppose to be in the air at 8:10 and we didn't get in the air until 9:30! oh it get worse! they said that we had to take a different route. my 5 and a half hour flight turned into a 6 and a half hour flight. and even on the flight there i was talking someone who also got fucked over by U.S. airways! so it stands to show that this might be a really shitty airline.
sooooo back to the good stuff! so OMG this trip was so much fun! i got to do everything i love to do with out even having to request anything! lots of random driving around. lots of eating out. lots of chatting. and lots of cuddle time ^^ EP is one of those ppl that i just clicked with really easily. in each place that we ate out we stayed for like around 3 hours eat time =D just talking and talking and talking!
something we did almost every night was take a walk out on the beach. the gulf is such a nice place to be. the water is only around 1 foot deep along most of it. so it comes up to around your knees and such. and its warm water~ and omg when the tide is low it shows off all of the sand that was under it. and it has all of these cool waves in them from the water.
there was 1 really awesome thing that i liked. and that every time we ate out it was somewhere i have never been to before! well...we had Pizzahut 1 night. and that's cuz i haven't been to one in over 3 years (no joke!) so it was yummy all the same =D
i even got to cook for him one night...well it was kinda a joined cooking. we did a BBQ with some burgers~ i made up the burgers and he tossed them on the grill ^^ but i loved them! always so yummy ^^ last time i had a home BBQ was like 7 months ago. so it was nice to have one after such a long time =3
well...without going into crazy amount of details thats about it! now i need to plan on another trip!!! anyone want to house a wuffy for a week?
electropaw but first lets remind our self's why flying is the worst thing ever, shall we?ok so U.S. airways. booked via Priceline i got a trip that would have 1 stop in Charlotte NC. and then on to gulf port MS. so i don't know if you have looked on a map or not...but this flight over shoots it by around 650 miles. but that didn't bother me. it was a semi cheep flight and i just wanted to get there. so for reasons beyond my understanding we where delayed. we took off at around the time we should have, but somehow it took us longer to land. *shrugs* I'm not to sure why that happened but it did. and my connection flight was a 45 min gap. so when we landed. i had around 10 mins to get to the gate. and after much fast walking and those moving treadmill things, i missed it. and it was the last fight to gulf port that night. so they said "sorry" and they booked me on the next flight there, gave me 250 bucks off my next flight and free breakfast. not what i wanted...but oh well~
and wile I'm still talking about how shitty the flight was lets talk about the return trip! so once more random ass delays! the flight from NC to CA was delayed. so the flight was suppose to be in the air at 8:10 and we didn't get in the air until 9:30! oh it get worse! they said that we had to take a different route. my 5 and a half hour flight turned into a 6 and a half hour flight. and even on the flight there i was talking someone who also got fucked over by U.S. airways! so it stands to show that this might be a really shitty airline.
sooooo back to the good stuff! so OMG this trip was so much fun! i got to do everything i love to do with out even having to request anything! lots of random driving around. lots of eating out. lots of chatting. and lots of cuddle time ^^ EP is one of those ppl that i just clicked with really easily. in each place that we ate out we stayed for like around 3 hours eat time =D just talking and talking and talking!
something we did almost every night was take a walk out on the beach. the gulf is such a nice place to be. the water is only around 1 foot deep along most of it. so it comes up to around your knees and such. and its warm water~ and omg when the tide is low it shows off all of the sand that was under it. and it has all of these cool waves in them from the water.
there was 1 really awesome thing that i liked. and that every time we ate out it was somewhere i have never been to before! well...we had Pizzahut 1 night. and that's cuz i haven't been to one in over 3 years (no joke!) so it was yummy all the same =D
i even got to cook for him one night...well it was kinda a joined cooking. we did a BBQ with some burgers~ i made up the burgers and he tossed them on the grill ^^ but i loved them! always so yummy ^^ last time i had a home BBQ was like 7 months ago. so it was nice to have one after such a long time =3
well...without going into crazy amount of details thats about it! now i need to plan on another trip!!! anyone want to house a wuffy for a week?
2.8 years~
Posted 14 years agolongest relationship i have ever had, but its over...
now before you all go nuts, let me say a few things. crash and i are still really good friends. heck we are still living in the same room together =3 but we have found out that some parts of our lives just dont click. we tryed and tryed and tryed. heck we love eachother, its how it works. but it just came down to the simple facts that the things we cared most about didnt click like we wanted them to. i could tell you what thoes things where but i feel some of them would be TMI for just a random journal. but all of my chat info is up and open for anyone. so if you REALLY want to know all the details im always open to chat and stuff.
i think thats about it. see ya!
now before you all go nuts, let me say a few things. crash and i are still really good friends. heck we are still living in the same room together =3 but we have found out that some parts of our lives just dont click. we tryed and tryed and tryed. heck we love eachother, its how it works. but it just came down to the simple facts that the things we cared most about didnt click like we wanted them to. i could tell you what thoes things where but i feel some of them would be TMI for just a random journal. but all of my chat info is up and open for anyone. so if you REALLY want to know all the details im always open to chat and stuff.
i think thats about it. see ya!
ahh FC
Posted 14 years agogood times good times~ i gotta say this was the best FC i have had to date. and a good part is all thanks to 1 special person. and that person is electropaw he let me barrow his skunk fursuit! so i got to fursuit around for 4 days!!! so if you saw this guy... http://www.furaffinity.net/view/2994216/ ...that was me for FC! i got to goto the dances and get my grove on with it for 2 of the nights. i hope someone got a vid of some of it ^^ i tryed my best to bust some sweet moves. and i gotta say, i have a new found respect for any suiter that goes to the dances. ITS HARD WORK!!! i love being warm and hot all the time. so i thought suiting would be right for me. and i did love it more then i thought i would. the heat was only a small part of it. i drank TONS of water and Gatorade wile i was there.
and as always with extreme highs there are always extreme lows. i have come to find that 60% of conventions are all about who you room with!!! i roomed with 6 others this con, and its not like they where bad ppl. in fact only 1 of them was bad. the rest where cool ppl...its just that i didnt know them! so like i tryed to make plans with them and like eat or hang or anything, and they went to go hang with there close friends. and the close friends i wanted to hang with, had plans with there roommates! so i was kinda left out of lots of random stuff. so i know for now, i need to pick my roommates WAY ahead of the con. so with the up coming cons i gonna hit up, i need to find out who i can room with =D
lets see what else...oh! i got some incite on the fursuiting world mostly. and it makes me happy and sad at the same time. ive always tryed to make as many friends as i can here in the furry world. and some of them are suiters. but i got to meet a few of them wile i was at the con this year,,,the suiters that is. and most of them would not give me the time of day. i told them my FA name, witch is hard to miss. and even have tryed to contact them via chat programs. but i was nothing to them. but then, i got to see them in the headless room. and my badge at the con had my fursuit name Nomad. and they treated my like a whole other person! even the 2 that i had met before suiting didnt remember my face. but once they knew that i had a suit, they where MORE then happy to get to know me. its kinda fucked really. so if you are reading this and you have a suit remember. spending money doesnt make you a better person. you are all on the same level as the rest of us!
back to the goodness. i only got to goto 1 party this year, but it was the one i was most looking forward to! so i made sure i didnt have any other plans that conflicted with getting there =D and a few of my followers know witch party it was...and all i can say is that i cant wait for the next one!!!
so in closing. FC rocked...all of it. and i want to goto more cons this year. anyone want a wuffy for there roommate? let me know <3
electropaw he let me barrow his skunk fursuit! so i got to fursuit around for 4 days!!! so if you saw this guy... http://www.furaffinity.net/view/2994216/ ...that was me for FC! i got to goto the dances and get my grove on with it for 2 of the nights. i hope someone got a vid of some of it ^^ i tryed my best to bust some sweet moves. and i gotta say, i have a new found respect for any suiter that goes to the dances. ITS HARD WORK!!! i love being warm and hot all the time. so i thought suiting would be right for me. and i did love it more then i thought i would. the heat was only a small part of it. i drank TONS of water and Gatorade wile i was there. and as always with extreme highs there are always extreme lows. i have come to find that 60% of conventions are all about who you room with!!! i roomed with 6 others this con, and its not like they where bad ppl. in fact only 1 of them was bad. the rest where cool ppl...its just that i didnt know them! so like i tryed to make plans with them and like eat or hang or anything, and they went to go hang with there close friends. and the close friends i wanted to hang with, had plans with there roommates! so i was kinda left out of lots of random stuff. so i know for now, i need to pick my roommates WAY ahead of the con. so with the up coming cons i gonna hit up, i need to find out who i can room with =D
lets see what else...oh! i got some incite on the fursuiting world mostly. and it makes me happy and sad at the same time. ive always tryed to make as many friends as i can here in the furry world. and some of them are suiters. but i got to meet a few of them wile i was at the con this year,,,the suiters that is. and most of them would not give me the time of day. i told them my FA name, witch is hard to miss. and even have tryed to contact them via chat programs. but i was nothing to them. but then, i got to see them in the headless room. and my badge at the con had my fursuit name Nomad. and they treated my like a whole other person! even the 2 that i had met before suiting didnt remember my face. but once they knew that i had a suit, they where MORE then happy to get to know me. its kinda fucked really. so if you are reading this and you have a suit remember. spending money doesnt make you a better person. you are all on the same level as the rest of us!
back to the goodness. i only got to goto 1 party this year, but it was the one i was most looking forward to! so i made sure i didnt have any other plans that conflicted with getting there =D and a few of my followers know witch party it was...and all i can say is that i cant wait for the next one!!!
so in closing. FC rocked...all of it. and i want to goto more cons this year. anyone want a wuffy for there roommate? let me know <3
HOLY SHIT!!!
Posted 15 years agowow! like crazy wow! i am stunned, in shock and awe at what has happened to me in the past few days!!!
so i'm still kinda new to all of the toy loving furs around FA. but i have been welcomed with open arms and i have been loving every second! i've met so many nice ppl. heck one is coming over this Sunday and we are going to hang and chill and just have fun ^^ everyday i just seem to meet more of them! sharing pics and fun chats. but what comes next is where things go crazy!
so as i'm sure many of you know...i've been wanting a puffypaws wolf for sometime now! i only discovered them around 5 or 6 months ago. then sometime after that i saw all the pics that flooded FA. and i just wanted one SO BADLY! i've made tons of tweets and journals stating this. told friends ect ect...and i missed out on the pre-orders. and the only other way i could get my hands on one was Ebay, and im sure lots of you have seen the actions and how much they go for :P
but then out of the blue a few days ago i get a note from puffypaws! asking if i would want to buy one! as it turns out thoes friends in the inflatable community have been telling puffy about me and how ive wanted one. and so my heart swelled with joy, it almost brought me to tears! i felt my cheeks glow red. its so rare when an act of kindness comes my way. but it makes me feel so alive when they do come along!
and with that simple act, something became very clear.
puffypaws is quite possibly one of the best company's out there. cuz they care most about 1 thing. there customers. and for that, i will forever speak highly of the ppl that make them work <3
so my payment is sent...and my wolf is on the way! expect pics and more journals about me counting the days till its here =3
so i'm still kinda new to all of the toy loving furs around FA. but i have been welcomed with open arms and i have been loving every second! i've met so many nice ppl. heck one is coming over this Sunday and we are going to hang and chill and just have fun ^^ everyday i just seem to meet more of them! sharing pics and fun chats. but what comes next is where things go crazy!
so as i'm sure many of you know...i've been wanting a puffypaws wolf for sometime now! i only discovered them around 5 or 6 months ago. then sometime after that i saw all the pics that flooded FA. and i just wanted one SO BADLY! i've made tons of tweets and journals stating this. told friends ect ect...and i missed out on the pre-orders. and the only other way i could get my hands on one was Ebay, and im sure lots of you have seen the actions and how much they go for :P
but then out of the blue a few days ago i get a note from puffypaws! asking if i would want to buy one! as it turns out thoes friends in the inflatable community have been telling puffy about me and how ive wanted one. and so my heart swelled with joy, it almost brought me to tears! i felt my cheeks glow red. its so rare when an act of kindness comes my way. but it makes me feel so alive when they do come along!
and with that simple act, something became very clear.
puffypaws is quite possibly one of the best company's out there. cuz they care most about 1 thing. there customers. and for that, i will forever speak highly of the ppl that make them work <3 so my payment is sent...and my wolf is on the way! expect pics and more journals about me counting the days till its here =3
