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The three ingredients for a succesful relationship
Posted 9 years ago 1) Honesty. Always. Seems obvious enough... be honest. In everything. Do not try to protect your partner from "your true self". They will manage. Or not, but better this way than living a lie.
2) Clarity. Say what you want and what you expect. Your partner will not and cannot read your mind. Spare both of you the frustration of expecting that they will.
3) Communication. Talk. About everything. No matter how embarassing or painful it is. You will get to know each other better than you ever thought possible, building up whole new levels of trust.
That's all there is to it, really. =3
2) Clarity. Say what you want and what you expect. Your partner will not and cannot read your mind. Spare both of you the frustration of expecting that they will.
3) Communication. Talk. About everything. No matter how embarassing or painful it is. You will get to know each other better than you ever thought possible, building up whole new levels of trust.
That's all there is to it, really. =3
"Licks you're sheath" -A word on RPs.Alright, several words.
Posted 9 years ago"Licks you're sheath" - A word on RPs. Alright, several words.
First off, this entire essay and yes, it's going to be an essay, reflects my personal view. Things might be totally different for you and if they work for you and your rp partner hey, fine by me. To each their own. Maybe I'm just venting about several no-goes I encountered during several years of roleplaying, circumstances that prevented things from being as nice as they could be. Here are just three, off the top of my head.
1) The Mirror
The Mirror maybe is new to all this. Scared of doing something wrong, reluctant to go to far. In any case, he will mirror your actions. Want your neck kissed? Kiss theirs and hey presto.
While this may seem desirable at first glance, being easily steered, it lacks something profound. The Mirror will never will never provide new impeti to any ongoing interaction, taking a huge part of the fun out of roleplay. I'd say one might as well train a parrot to rp, if I didn't think a parrot would be way more creative than that. ^.^
2) The Grammer N00b
*Noses you're neck while, holdin u tight*
Enough said. Almost always being an instant moodkiller, the Grammer N00b at least shows some effort and respect towards their partner's character, much unlike...
3) The Lazybutt
A close relative of The Mirror, the Lazybutt will gladly receive carefully-worded lines and respond in their unique, entirely unsatisfactory way.
Player 1: *Wrapping my other forepaw around your neck, lighty scritching your scales, I gently pull you towards me, tilting my head and opening my muzzle to let my tongue glide across your lips*
Lazybutt: *Enjoys*
Now, of course you don't have to reply to two paragraphs with seven. But it just mmight be a good idea to invest as much time and energy into your rp as your partner does. Otherwise, a nice hot animated flash mmight be the better choice for you.
Where am I going with all this? An RP is an interaction between two living, breathingand feeling beings. If you got so far to have someone rp with you, they probably like you, so don't be afraid to break anything by trying out something new.
That being said, it won't hurt to invest some time into spelling and punctuation checking, It's simply a sign of respect, and one that is sure to bear fruit.
Finally, a good RP is about giving and taking... energy, creativity and empathy. Accept and master that and you'll never lack partners. Not just in rp. ^.~
First off, this entire essay and yes, it's going to be an essay, reflects my personal view. Things might be totally different for you and if they work for you and your rp partner hey, fine by me. To each their own. Maybe I'm just venting about several no-goes I encountered during several years of roleplaying, circumstances that prevented things from being as nice as they could be. Here are just three, off the top of my head.
1) The Mirror
The Mirror maybe is new to all this. Scared of doing something wrong, reluctant to go to far. In any case, he will mirror your actions. Want your neck kissed? Kiss theirs and hey presto.
While this may seem desirable at first glance, being easily steered, it lacks something profound. The Mirror will never will never provide new impeti to any ongoing interaction, taking a huge part of the fun out of roleplay. I'd say one might as well train a parrot to rp, if I didn't think a parrot would be way more creative than that. ^.^
2) The Grammer N00b
*Noses you're neck while, holdin u tight*
Enough said. Almost always being an instant moodkiller, the Grammer N00b at least shows some effort and respect towards their partner's character, much unlike...
3) The Lazybutt
A close relative of The Mirror, the Lazybutt will gladly receive carefully-worded lines and respond in their unique, entirely unsatisfactory way.
Player 1: *Wrapping my other forepaw around your neck, lighty scritching your scales, I gently pull you towards me, tilting my head and opening my muzzle to let my tongue glide across your lips*
Lazybutt: *Enjoys*
Now, of course you don't have to reply to two paragraphs with seven. But it just mmight be a good idea to invest as much time and energy into your rp as your partner does. Otherwise, a nice hot animated flash mmight be the better choice for you.
Where am I going with all this? An RP is an interaction between two living, breathingand feeling beings. If you got so far to have someone rp with you, they probably like you, so don't be afraid to break anything by trying out something new.
That being said, it won't hurt to invest some time into spelling and punctuation checking, It's simply a sign of respect, and one that is sure to bear fruit.
Finally, a good RP is about giving and taking... energy, creativity and empathy. Accept and master that and you'll never lack partners. Not just in rp. ^.~
What to do when the world seems out to get you.
Posted 9 years agoAnswer: Nothing.
Because the world is not out to get you. You are not as important as you think - and this is a quite a good thing. Allows you to relax, because so many things you take personally are not actually about you. At all.
Make no mistake, you still are responsible for your life. For your feelings and for your reactions. So if Yiffmaster9000™ made you angry with something they said... or hurt you, or belittled you... it was always your choice. Nobody can 'make' you feel better or worse unless you allow them to.
And if a careless online comment ever ruined your day, think again. Would the person who uttered it ever spend so much time and energy on you? You who are busy being angry/injured/hurt to the bone and mentally forming a thousand cutting replies? Naw. Let it rest. People are people. People make mistakes. People can be thoughtless and sometimes they will try to insult you on purpose. Because... they are lonely and crave attention. Even negative attention, better than nothing. Poor things.
So, when the world seems out to get you... it is not. Never was, never will be. If you think your enemy is everywhere, it's most easily found in the next mirror.
~ Amber
Because the world is not out to get you. You are not as important as you think - and this is a quite a good thing. Allows you to relax, because so many things you take personally are not actually about you. At all.
Make no mistake, you still are responsible for your life. For your feelings and for your reactions. So if Yiffmaster9000™ made you angry with something they said... or hurt you, or belittled you... it was always your choice. Nobody can 'make' you feel better or worse unless you allow them to.
And if a careless online comment ever ruined your day, think again. Would the person who uttered it ever spend so much time and energy on you? You who are busy being angry/injured/hurt to the bone and mentally forming a thousand cutting replies? Naw. Let it rest. People are people. People make mistakes. People can be thoughtless and sometimes they will try to insult you on purpose. Because... they are lonely and crave attention. Even negative attention, better than nothing. Poor things.
So, when the world seems out to get you... it is not. Never was, never will be. If you think your enemy is everywhere, it's most easily found in the next mirror.
~ Amber
Heading off to the EF 21 soon ^.^
Posted 10 years agoLooking forward to the con very much. It'll be my first one, and I'm going to meet quite a few people I haven't seen IRL yet. =D
To everyone that cannot be there: No worries, it won't be the last EF and I'll make sure to take lots of pictures. =3
Greenhouse World, here we come! <3
To everyone that cannot be there: No worries, it won't be the last EF and I'll make sure to take lots of pictures. =3
Greenhouse World, here we come! <3
Artwork raffle by Kiyorakachi
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