Thanks to a new friend, I'm finally speaking up on the dom/sub thing. I want furs to know that love isn't about domination or control.

I lost count of how many guys I've roleplayed with who just want things done to them, which is boring and degrading. I want a partner who's not afraid to touch me and talk to me.

Todd Aldrington is a furry writer I enjoy. His characters have kinks and dom/sub roles, but they discuss those roles and kinks. Never have any of them sat staring dumbly at their boyfriends. Let's face it: that would make for a very dull novel.

Nor are Todd's books all about sex. His protagonists have lives outside the bedroom, making them feel like actual people. In fact, his namesake, Todd the raccoon, comes from a family like mine: large, somewhat religious and with an autistic member, Felix.

You've no idea what it means, seeing a fictional family reflect my own. I think the popular phrase is "I feel seen."

Anyway, I gotta go; my friends want me.