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One last thing before I go~ c:
I'd love to see people do this! I feel like the anonymity of the internet makes us forget who we are, sometimes. I want you to reinstate yourself as a person!
Stop what you're doing, get your mic out, look around your desk and describe yourself. Introduce yourself as if making a friend.
Let's remind ourselves and others that we are people, not text on a page~
(If you do this, please link here so I can listen!! c: )
I'd love to see people do this! I feel like the anonymity of the internet makes us forget who we are, sometimes. I want you to reinstate yourself as a person!
Stop what you're doing, get your mic out, look around your desk and describe yourself. Introduce yourself as if making a friend.
Let's remind ourselves and others that we are people, not text on a page~
(If you do this, please link here so I can listen!! c: )
Category Music / All
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I like this idea and I want to join in at some point. It reminds me... At one point there was this person on Twitter who would criticize me for everything I said or posted. He would attack me and say my (transgender) problems were tiny, I couldn't draw, the works. I posted something at one point along the lines of "I've never really had trouble sleeping in hotel beds. Everyone I know seems to be uncomfortable in them." And he went to the extreme of telling me that all of my friends and family are "pussies" and that they would never survive sleeping in a homeless shelter bed. Orrr, I would say something like "It's really quite ridiculous I've had to go all this time without a decent connection" (I live where I can't even get cable. It's not even that big of a deal, it was a tiny little micro rant)) and he would respond with "You really think that's a problem? Try living without a job for months at a time. Then try complaining". Some people have had it worse than I have, no doubt. But there is NO point in simply using it as an excuse to be mean to others and spread negativity. Like you said in the public statement post, ignoring just didn't seem to work. I finally had it when I posted an image and he criticized my art saying that pecs (they were very discreet) don't belong on a flat chested female (We can have walking, talking anthropomorphic animals but GOD FORBID a female has muscles that are commonly seen on males instead. It's even possible for female swimmers to develop them) and continued to say that I need to learn anatomy and I "need to learn how to draw females" pretty much because I didn't give any indication of breasts.
Now I can get to the point of why I bring this guy up. I told him how much of a terrible person he was being and he responds with "You're nothing but text."
That's his argument. I'm text. Not a person, not even something with feelings. Text. He continued saying it, and went to the point of saying "Everyone on the internet is just text.
I argued with him some more, said a few mean things after that. I kind of regret it but I told him he was "Someone who was so self-inflated with their own ego that he built himself up as a person 20X greater than he actually was, when in reality this person has accomplished nothing and should stop attacking people who attempt to actually accomplish something in their lives". When I'm on certain medications, I can get pretty nasty. Over night I cooled off, and he said a few things back but whatever, I'll do the mature thing. I told him that I was sorry for what I said, and that it would be nice if we could just come to the conclusion that we disagree, and the medicine probably influenced me blowing up like that. Surely this would end it and I expected an apology back but no. He blows up, again and tells me that "I made up some sh**ty apology and it would have been perfectly fine with him if I hadn't ruined it by blaming everything on the medication." I had to just give up at that point and say "At least I was kind enough to make an apology, unlike you." and finally blocked him.
These people just don't understand the hurt they cause. I can't say how much I'm still bothered by little negative comments about my work here and there. I didn't ask for criticism and no I don't need it to improve. I can see my own mistakes and I'm building my style how I like it, not how other people like it. For 4 years on my own, I think I'm doing fine. I had to stop showing my work to friends and family because they say little things that bother me and hardly ever anything positive (Don't worry, it's the clean, non-suggestive stuff XD ). To me, some people will come across a beautiful painting from an artist who has spent 20 years honing his/her skill and ignore everything good about it, find the one flaw and say "Lol, that finger looks like it's twisted" or "Do I see part of a nipple showing?" and completely ignore everything else about it. They can't comprehend how their "criticism", as they call it, is demeaning to the artist. In order for it to be constructive, you have to tell them what they did good as well as what they've done wrong. Pointing out the flaws and just the flaws makes it seem, to the artist, like their work is nothing BUT flaws. And, well, it hurts. They don't take in mind how much effort artists go through, they don't consider that they, as a person created something themselves through many years of work and put emotion into it. It's saddening.
Sorry for that long wall of text, this just seemed like the appropriate place to say it and get it off of my chest. I can't say I've ever really posted this elsewhere or have even spoken of it much.
Now I can get to the point of why I bring this guy up. I told him how much of a terrible person he was being and he responds with "You're nothing but text."
That's his argument. I'm text. Not a person, not even something with feelings. Text. He continued saying it, and went to the point of saying "Everyone on the internet is just text.
I argued with him some more, said a few mean things after that. I kind of regret it but I told him he was "Someone who was so self-inflated with their own ego that he built himself up as a person 20X greater than he actually was, when in reality this person has accomplished nothing and should stop attacking people who attempt to actually accomplish something in their lives". When I'm on certain medications, I can get pretty nasty. Over night I cooled off, and he said a few things back but whatever, I'll do the mature thing. I told him that I was sorry for what I said, and that it would be nice if we could just come to the conclusion that we disagree, and the medicine probably influenced me blowing up like that. Surely this would end it and I expected an apology back but no. He blows up, again and tells me that "I made up some sh**ty apology and it would have been perfectly fine with him if I hadn't ruined it by blaming everything on the medication." I had to just give up at that point and say "At least I was kind enough to make an apology, unlike you." and finally blocked him.
These people just don't understand the hurt they cause. I can't say how much I'm still bothered by little negative comments about my work here and there. I didn't ask for criticism and no I don't need it to improve. I can see my own mistakes and I'm building my style how I like it, not how other people like it. For 4 years on my own, I think I'm doing fine. I had to stop showing my work to friends and family because they say little things that bother me and hardly ever anything positive (Don't worry, it's the clean, non-suggestive stuff XD ). To me, some people will come across a beautiful painting from an artist who has spent 20 years honing his/her skill and ignore everything good about it, find the one flaw and say "Lol, that finger looks like it's twisted" or "Do I see part of a nipple showing?" and completely ignore everything else about it. They can't comprehend how their "criticism", as they call it, is demeaning to the artist. In order for it to be constructive, you have to tell them what they did good as well as what they've done wrong. Pointing out the flaws and just the flaws makes it seem, to the artist, like their work is nothing BUT flaws. And, well, it hurts. They don't take in mind how much effort artists go through, they don't consider that they, as a person created something themselves through many years of work and put emotion into it. It's saddening.
Sorry for that long wall of text, this just seemed like the appropriate place to say it and get it off of my chest. I can't say I've ever really posted this elsewhere or have even spoken of it much.
TL;DR
1: Some people never realize, or can't comprehend that there is a real person with emotions and feelings posting these things. (And I know it's ironic I'm typing this)
2: Saying only negative things to an artist is not constructive criticism. Pointing out flaws makes the artist feel like people only see flaws in their work. If you're going to criticize someone (And please know when it's welcome to) try to say what they did well in contrast with what they did wrong. Sometimes it's only wrong in your own eyes; what might look like a flaw at first might even be the intention. And lastly, if something sad happens in a story or it's art that just doesn't appeal to your tastes, don't criticize the artist for it and especially don't treat it like a flaw.
1: Some people never realize, or can't comprehend that there is a real person with emotions and feelings posting these things. (And I know it's ironic I'm typing this)
2: Saying only negative things to an artist is not constructive criticism. Pointing out flaws makes the artist feel like people only see flaws in their work. If you're going to criticize someone (And please know when it's welcome to) try to say what they did well in contrast with what they did wrong. Sometimes it's only wrong in your own eyes; what might look like a flaw at first might even be the intention. And lastly, if something sad happens in a story or it's art that just doesn't appeal to your tastes, don't criticize the artist for it and especially don't treat it like a flaw.
Apologies for 3 posts.
Aaand 3: I respect people who have had bad things happen to them, but when they use it as an excuse to be rude or downright mean (and try to make less of other people's problems) I lose that respect. I'm reminded of this post.
http://kae-esrial.tumblr.com/post/5.....that-i-have-it
Aaand 3: I respect people who have had bad things happen to them, but when they use it as an excuse to be rude or downright mean (and try to make less of other people's problems) I lose that respect. I'm reminded of this post.
http://kae-esrial.tumblr.com/post/5.....that-i-have-it
I literally have the same verbal issues as you, It gets quite annoying sometimes.
I will go ahead and give this a try, Thank you for being so open about who you are and what not, It takes a lot of courage to do that.
For the issues with dealing with the other people, I don't think there is any actual quick fix for that, assholes will be assholes. I hope things get better for you <3
I will go ahead and give this a try, Thank you for being so open about who you are and what not, It takes a lot of courage to do that.
For the issues with dealing with the other people, I don't think there is any actual quick fix for that, assholes will be assholes. I hope things get better for you <3
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