........ I don't see why people care so much about this sort of thing. If you have male genitals, then people have the right to call you "he" or "him" because you have a dick and balls. It doesn't matter if you identify as some other gender, your sex is male, and therefore the pronoun is not misused. If you care to kindly ask to be referred to as something else, well fine, but people don't need to respect that, it's like asking to be called something other than your name. Sure, you can like to be called Dick when your name is Richard, but you shouldn't be bothered if a lot of people call you Rich or Richard anyway.

You are basing this comment on the assumption that genitalia dictate a person's role in society, that gender roles are too important to consider someone's personal feelings, and that transgender individual's struggles and feelings are invalid. If someone asks you nicely to refer to them as a certain gender or by a certain name, disrespecting that person's wishes is incredibly fucking rude and ignorant on your part. A lot of people who are transgender are purposefully teased by getting called the wrong gender, or worse. They are referred to as a thing and an it, unworthy of being deemed human. Names are incredibly important to being human, they identify you and are part of you. Not all individuals were given names fitting for them by their parents. Them asking to be called something else or specific means that they identify with that name and is a part of them. You wouldn't like being called Nancy if your name is Tom. (If that is your name) It's not required by law, and not illegal in any way to refer to someone as something other than their pronouns, it's part of the misconstrued Freedom Of Speech. However, it's incredibly insensitive and dickish to do so. We have to coexist together, we share this planet, this space, and these languages. Why go out of your way to hurt someone? Why not just accept them for who they are and boost their self confidence? There is no reason to be mean.

Good job calling me out on assumptions that I didn't make. You should realize that you were far too specific with those assumptions. You have assumed my position rather than asking for it. That's rather similar to assuming somebody's gender though, so I guess we all do it. You know, I have plenty of friends who identify their gender to be something other than their sex.... and I have a boyfriend... Don't assume I'm some ignorant stereotypical individual that holds such opinions as the ones you've projected. But, I tend to doubt you'll actually believe that.

It is rude to not refer to somebody as they ask to be referred to when you get to know them, however, before people get the chance to know a person's preference, my point here is that it's perfectly acceptable to call somebody according to their sex. ("It" is not a sex, and is obviously unacceptable for many reasons.) After all, it is still correct regardless of what gender they choose to identify as.

If my name were Thomas, (which it isn't) calling me Nancy doesn't make any sense. It is not correct, because it is not Thomas or any abbreviation their of. If I preferred to be called Tom, or even Dan, though, and then people still called me Thomas, that would be acceptable since it is correct in at least some dimension. Nancy is incorrect in every respect. So, your analogy is really not related to my point.

Once again though, as you get to know somebody for long enough that they are actually able to remember what you like to be called, they should switch to what you like, after all, that's just being a friend. However, if you don't know somebody well, you can't expect them to care enough to get everything tailored to your preferences, so don't complain unless they do something ridiculous like call you "it". Also, if after you get to know somebody, they don't show you a tad bit of courtesy to accommodate your preferences, then maybe that person wouldn't be a good friend to you in other respects and therefore isn't worth your time?

One last point, I've noticed a lot of people going around telling people their gender but not their sex, and honestly, for some of these people, it can be hard to tell even when you're talking to them IRL. This is problematic on a number of levels, so don't do that, you should give people a full description of what you are where applicable. (Sex, gender, orientation) Also, don't fucking tell your employer your gender, they don't care. Sex is what matters, it's for healthcare.

Based on what you wrote, I have every right to conclude what I did. The presence of your comment on a submission meant to be positive for individuals like myself is also an indication. I never cast you as stereotypical, I was simply responding to what words you gave me to work with. And boyfriend or girlfriend or date mate, doesn't matter. You can be ignorant no matter your preference. You can be mean and rude no matter your preference.

You're not wrong in this regard, unless someone was wearing a shirt such as the one I just did designs for (Which is the very post we're commenting on) you wouldn't know any better. The point is, once someone corrects you or asks you, you should be respectful to that person's wishes. If you call them by their gender assigned at birth, when they've told you they wish to be called otherwise, that is wrong. It's as bad as you calling them an it. It's very hurtful and damaging to self esteem. They want to be called something else for a reason.

Even if you know that person's full name, unless they tell you it's okay it's not okay. I, for example, want to be called Ray. It's how I introduce myself, it's how I wish to be referred. Whatever I put on my bank statements is my own personal business, and no one else's. You are not entitled to knowing my full legal name unless I give it to you with that intent, for official purposes. You can call me Raymond Sparklebottoms Anderson III, but if I say that I would like to just be called Ray, doing so is incredibly distasteful.

I have every right to complain and remind someone that I am a he. If I told them only once, it's understandable if they make a mistake. But after a few times of reminding and they still don't listen, you bet I'll speak up against it. I know people forget, habits are difficult to break. However, some people do it with the specific intention of making people feel small, to show them that they don't matter and they aren't going to be listened to no matter what. You're right, friends are supposed to be supportive and good in nature, they're people which can be depended upon, which is why all of my friends do listen to me and support me, even if they may not entirely understand. However, there are abusive friendships as well as partner relationships. Some people you can't just up and leave if you find that you have too many differences. It's a complicated part of forming bonds. There's a reason Stockholm Syndrome exists, and couples stay together even through verbal and physical abuse.

That's part of the point of being transgender. I am a man. I'm not playing pretend. It's not a dress up game. This is who I am. What I have in my pants is my own business. You have absolutely no right to know. They're called private parts for a reason, and unless I'm speaking with someone I'm dating, no one else needs to be privy to that information. And upon meeting someone new, it's not necessary to give them your entire background, history, and physical description. I don't need to tell you my height and weight, eye color, or my favorite food. I certainly don't have to give you the details of my birth certificate or my social security number either. If I like someone and trust them enough to consider asking them out, I will tell them. But in passing, and even people I consider friends, they don't need to know. Biological sex is important for certain medical and informational purposes, I agree. But there's no reason why you can't present yourself to your employer differently. Not all businesses are compensatory, however some good people will respect your wishes. Employers should care about their employees and stride to make sure they're safe and comfortable. They're responsible for you in their work place, and should present good examples and impartiality.

My gender matters. My name matters. I fucking matter. My preferences are suggestive, up till the point where some asshole thinks they can make fun of me for it. I'm a nice guy, I will ask politely, but don't you fucking dare think I'll sit down and shut up now. I've come too far to go back into the closet. I'm busting it up and I'm standing my ground. I matter. My people matter. And we don't owe you a damn thing.

"What I have in my pants is my own business." HAHA, nope! For many reasons... just no..... That's not private information, and it never has been.
I'm not going to comment further on this since you won't believe anything I say, and you won't listen to any reasoning I present. You have in your mind what is right and wrong, and you hold it above all else, nothing will convince you otherwise. It's just your religion, and I respect that. Also, please do read up a bit on logical reasoning. You seem to be fond of straw-man arguments.

Since when do you go and straight out announce to people "I have a penis"? It's harassment. Any unwanted interaction such as that which is non consensual is harassment. My genitalia is absolutely my own business to know. You have no right to that information, nor does any stranger. I won't 'believe' what you have to say because your ideas are unfounded and misogynistic. This conversation has nothing to do with religion, I'm simply arguing the merits of the idea that my personal information and identity is not anyone's public knowledge or right to publicly obtain. I am a very well read individual, perhaps you could do more to research and learn before you try posting such a comment to begin with.

A person's body is theirs. Their name is theirs. Their other physical information should only be shared with a trusted medical practitioner, a doctor. Are you a doctor? Is it your right to take on every living person as a patient? No? Then guess what, it's not your right to know anything about anybody. And if you think it's okay to force someone to tell or god forbid show you, you are a sexual harasser and are very much in the wrong.

Your 'logical reasons' are extremely ignorant and not at all logical. You never have the right misgender someone when it is evident they do not identify with that pronoun, regardless of what is in their pants.
See, you're talking to this guy like he's not listening to you, but you aren't making any attempt to listen to him and his reasons. Someone's sex has no say on their gender. Transgender people deal with people like you all the time, people that try to invalidate their gender because of what they had the misfortune of being born with. Transgender people go through hell just to be able to be seen as what they are inside, appointment after appointment and days, months, years being on hormones and spending thousands to correct their body so they, for once, can be as comfortable as they can possibly be in their own skin. And for what, for people to say 'that's not enough', 'it's not real', that no matter what, that second of someone saying after your birth 'it's a girl!' or 'it's a boy!' will live with you forever, even if it ends up being the death of you?
Transgender people have the highest suicide rate compared to every other minority. We get shot down by others thinking they know what's right, that they know more about us than we do. That it's just a phase, you'll get over it. And sometimes that gets to us and we pretend to be who we aren't because everyone else is telling us what we are and aren't.

I've been told I'll never be a man because I'll never have a 'real dick', but I don't need a dick to know I'm more of a man than most guys. And I definitely don't need to know what is in someone else's pants, if they tell me they're a girl, then they are. If they tell me they're a boy, than that's what I'll see them as. If someone says they don't feel like they are either gender, or both, I'll use whatever pronoun they are comfortable with.

I like it! :3 but you forgot their lol

I did have it at one point, but it looked too long for the shirt. I might go back and fix it though, thank you for pointing it out.

I'd like to state that I'm completely in support for the right to use whichever term a person wishes to be addressed as.

But there has always been something that bugged me about the "They" "Them" "Their" terms because it's plural. It refers to more than one person. Would "We" and "Us" then also be included? Instead of a "person", would you instead be a "people"? I'm hoping for a better word to be used. I have liked some of the creative ways people have combined both terms like "Hir" or "Shim".

Webster has agreed "they, them, theirs" can be used in a singular way. And honestly, that's such a tiny nit pick that doesn't really justify not using them for people who want to use them.