which lends to the question are people 'born' gay or do they make a choice?

Its a choice they make. Rather we are straight or gay or even bisexual. There's an old saying that love comes in all forms.
What choices you make may effect your future HOWEVER it is your right if you wish to be gay or straight and in Behind the lens, that is what Rusty (the character we are looking at here and my personal favorite character if the cast) is struggling from. Rather or not if he's still straight as he claims to be or he is gay it better yet he can be bisexual. Who loved both guys and gals.

I just wish that my oc can tell him this in person.

I chose to be gay is why I postulated the statement in question form. I asked myself why don't I try it instead of just watching from the sidelines, my 'self'-aware was questioning my choice as I made my 'first' attempts proving to me that it is only skin and really makes no difference who you love male or female. However I found the same exact problems with other guys as I had with other girls everyone is constantly looking for Barbie or Ken over the next hill, never satisfied with what they already have!

Being gay is not a choice. You can't choose who you are attracted to. You can choose to peruse relations with the same sex but your sexuality can never be chosen. It's genetics and genetics can't be altered. It's foolish and uneducated to say it is a choice.

You might be right but What I am trying to say is genetic or not. If you are gay, that's fine. If you are straight that's fine. If you are bisexual or pansexual, by all means, IT IS FINE. As long it doesn't effect me or anyone else you should be allow to do it, and yes I get what you saying but how I look at homosexuality is from my own point of view. Is anyone get what I am saying here?

People are born gay or straight, or bisexual. It's not a choice. If you are a guy who is sexually attracted to guys only, and you are trying to be straight by dating girls only, that doesn't make you straight. You are still gay, you're just standing next to a girl while lying to yourself. If you are attracted to both genders then you are bisexual. You are not gay because you are with a guy at the time or straight because you are with a girl at the time while having sexual attractions to both genders. These are obvious facts that shouldn't have to be explained.

Over the years I've lived, I've struggled with the same question. Until I realized the true answer.

There are two types of love. The hormone love and the heart love.

The hormones are easily aroused by anything and anyone, This type of love means nothing.

The heart only has room for one gender and for me, That's a girl. When two people, Gay or Straight, are together, they feel their hearts connecting, signifying affection for each other. This Love is true form for whom the heart desires.

If you love your Mate, Don't be afraid to show it. Be who you are and let your love Shine brightly.

Bi people have a choice to choose their mate. They have special hearts that can choose their true love, regardless of the gender.

perhaps that is my choice i loved a lot; men and women, no one yet has loved back - or for long. perhaps it is that no one loves me back. I am loyal to whoever I love, no one is allowed to get in between.

One day, you'll find the right person. Just don't give up.