My sympathies to you and yours...

thank you

* hugs tight * im sorry for your lost hon :c

*hugz* thank you deery

your welcome hon

You don't know me, but just thought I would say sorry for your loss.

thank you. it is a hard thing to go through.

*hugs tight* Its never easy to lose a loved one, whether immediate or branched. Just know that you are not alone. You have my deepest condolences, and also all my support.

thank you.

*hugs you tightly and caresses your shoulders, just as she did for  phrezbear * :(

I hope you don't mind a stranger giving you a hug. Loosing someone that close to you is torture. I know this well, because, come September, I'll have spent three years taking weekly phone calls from Phrez, after he lost his wife:
http://www.furaffinity.net/view/15175265/

~hugz~ honestly i need all the hugz i can get. i do not know when i will be able to fully grieve i have been not really crying to try and stay strong for my brother

*hugs and pets you as she lets your muzzle rest on her shoulder*

It's tough all around. I'm not sure, but I fear that "being strong" may be a mistake. Trying to hide your true feelings may create a divide between you and your brother.

no i told him how a feel he said just breakdown but yea i did at home now that i got back home though the way home my tire blewout.
but no dennis and me are best friends so tis cool. i do feel better just trying to find somewhere to go to scan physical pictures of dad and send send them viea the net to everyone.

*nods* That's important.

thank you again. i am just now starting to heal. i still cry. i have no idea how long this sadness will stick with me but i am trying to not let it get to me. my dad is gone but he will never be forgotten so why does it still hurt

I agree. I never liked the whole, "be happy for me," or "celebrate their life, insted" thing; at least not when those statements don't seem to allow for any mourning at all. We can find happiness from the situation, but the fact is, we have just lost all contact with someone, and we don't kow when, or even if, we shall ever see them again. We have a need to say goodbye, and to learn to accept their absence, in our lives. It it is not easy, and it takes time.

It has been three years and one month since my friend lost his wife. It took him at least two years before he was "back to normal," and, even now there are times that he misses her. However he has it under control, rather than it contolling him. I must also mention that he has benefitted. His loss tore him down. Thus he in having to rebuild himself, he has become a better person for it.

*hugs and nuzzles you*

you seem way to wise ~hugz~ losses suck. i am trying to do more trying to show it will be ok. but no one around me (other then my mom) seems to get how bad losing dad hurt me. i am not good at expressing myself to those who think i am blowing this out of proportion. so i am trying to get away from them of course easier said then done. ~sigh~ it is nice to have someone out there like you honestly i can not thank you enough.

*seats you across her lap and lets you rest your head on her shoulder as she strokes your back*

There have been plenty of times in which someone has told me to do something that I am incapable of doing, so I understand. However, I have never had someone tell me to "get over it;" especially when I was in mourning. It seems to me that the first time that I heard of such a thing, it was when phrezbear's own son, Scot told him to "get over" the loss of his wife. Honestly, I feel that the Scot said that because he was not ready to share his feelings and didn't want his dad's mourning to make him feel worse. I wouldn't be surprised if that's the case for those who are telling that think you are blowing this our of proportion. In many ways, you and your mother are stronger and braver than they are, by being able to face your suffering and deal with it more directly. Everyone heals in their own way. Perhaps, in time, they shall be ready to mourn. Until then, it is a shame that all they are doing is distancing themselves from you. Even if they are not effected as badly as you are, they could be more supportive, by understanding that it's not the same for you, and offer as much support as they can. don't see how that cant be a strain on your relationships. A major change in life, such as the death of a loved one, can cause such strains. It is times like this that relationships get tested. If two people have a true bond between them, nothing can break that bond. Nothing can end that relationship.


As someone who feels better when she helps others, thanking me is more than enough. If you still feel a need to keep demonstrating your gratitude, you can do so by paying it forward. I am pretty sure that you are already helping your mom to grieve; just as she is helping you to grieve. And, perhaps, you shall help others to grieve, when they are ready to share.

My heart goes out to you, your mother, and everyone else who is grieving over this loss (whether they share that grief with others or not).

Again, my condolences.

I'm sorry that you've lost someone so close to you. I know it's cliche but when enough time goes by you'll have the good memories.

I'm so sorry for your loss. *Hugs*

thank you ~hugz~