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I think my friend told me that relationships and self-esteem were related to each other - not just with friends, but romantically as well. I think like he said, now I'm at the point where I just expect not to be liked.
Even when people might be sincere, that's a little hard to take in as well.
"It's all too common to not believe what people are saying. That can sometimes lead to that person thinking they're lying and just making themselves sad."
If I wasn't sure before, now that this little anniversary came up, I definitely believe relationships can impact self-confidence.
Even when people might be sincere, that's a little hard to take in as well.
"It's all too common to not believe what people are saying. That can sometimes lead to that person thinking they're lying and just making themselves sad."
If I wasn't sure before, now that this little anniversary came up, I definitely believe relationships can impact self-confidence.
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Oh, uh this is an old piece I fixed up.
I quoted Ryashi a bunch of times...
And wanted to thank Tom for his help too.
The friends I know that're good at helping me weren't online, and those that I thought could have were too busy, but Tom was pretty cool tonight. B-)
I didn't wanna edit this in that thing up there either.
I quoted Ryashi a bunch of times...
And wanted to thank Tom for his help too.
The friends I know that're good at helping me weren't online, and those that I thought could have were too busy, but Tom was pretty cool tonight. B-)
I didn't wanna edit this in that thing up there either.
Aw Nishi this is really sweet. I'd really like to talk to you more, and it is hard to believe that you could doubt yourself because of how awesome you are, but sometimes you need a kick in the rear, and someone to talk with.
I consider myself very lucky to have some very close friends who I can depend on, and be honest with, and in my eyes make myself a fool with. Just try to keep a smile on your face, and if you need someone to help you up you know you can count on your friends.
Man I am going to ramble on and on about this!
I consider myself very lucky to have some very close friends who I can depend on, and be honest with, and in my eyes make myself a fool with. Just try to keep a smile on your face, and if you need someone to help you up you know you can count on your friends.
Man I am going to ramble on and on about this!
Hehe, well we're still getting to know each other, so we'll keep talking and learning more!
Friends are great to have. (: I didn't realize how hard being honest about all your feelings was though, and whenever I feel like I did, I definitely find out who I can count on too. I'm glad you've got all of that! :3
Friends are great to have. (: I didn't realize how hard being honest about all your feelings was though, and whenever I feel like I did, I definitely find out who I can count on too. I'm glad you've got all of that! :3
Oh, Oxnard. I wish I could've been there for you as well. Especially as I feel I can relate with the concept of relationships having a correlation with self-esteem.
I don't know where I heard it, but there's a fantastic statement in how, in order to positively project onto others, one must be able to find happiness and confidence in ones self. Though, as I'm sure you'll agree, this is far easier said then done. For this reason, friends and family are often integral in repairing the emotional damage a particularl memory, or occurence, has done.
For example, one of my closests friends went through a very serious relationship. It was looking like they were going to go all-the-way and both had confided into one another very much. Then, without warning, the individual they were so close to got "Commitment Issues" and backed down. This shattered my friend's heart and made them reluctant to ever trust again. This made things a little weird when a new relationship began to form months later. Fortunately, though, they were able to trust again and feel confident in getting involved at such a deep capacity again. Mind you, it wasn't an easy transition and, through all of it, I heard of how friends, including myself, had a part in building their confidence in allowing the relationship to build despite the pain that still lingered from the recent burn.
I guess what I'm saying is that, especially after being seriously hurt, or hurt many times, it is HARD to rekindle one's self-esteem in ones self to, as they say, "Get back in the saddle again." However, if I may, I believe I can equate past relationships to the rejection letters I've been getting back in regard to my book.
"...Although your work is not what we are looking for, we encourage you to not be discouraged. We highly advise you, if you already have not, pursuing representation from another agent who may be more aptly suited to represent your work..."
The statements, despite rejecting, say an important thing about relationships. It is that, although it didn't work with one particular person, it doesn't mean YOU are not a good and lovable individual. It just means that you weren't right for that person and that you should not give up on looking for that one person who is your perfect match. You have wonderful traits that can, and will, be perfect for someone. Just be patient and DON'T GIVE UP!
I don't know where I heard it, but there's a fantastic statement in how, in order to positively project onto others, one must be able to find happiness and confidence in ones self. Though, as I'm sure you'll agree, this is far easier said then done. For this reason, friends and family are often integral in repairing the emotional damage a particularl memory, or occurence, has done.
For example, one of my closests friends went through a very serious relationship. It was looking like they were going to go all-the-way and both had confided into one another very much. Then, without warning, the individual they were so close to got "Commitment Issues" and backed down. This shattered my friend's heart and made them reluctant to ever trust again. This made things a little weird when a new relationship began to form months later. Fortunately, though, they were able to trust again and feel confident in getting involved at such a deep capacity again. Mind you, it wasn't an easy transition and, through all of it, I heard of how friends, including myself, had a part in building their confidence in allowing the relationship to build despite the pain that still lingered from the recent burn.
I guess what I'm saying is that, especially after being seriously hurt, or hurt many times, it is HARD to rekindle one's self-esteem in ones self to, as they say, "Get back in the saddle again." However, if I may, I believe I can equate past relationships to the rejection letters I've been getting back in regard to my book.
"...Although your work is not what we are looking for, we encourage you to not be discouraged. We highly advise you, if you already have not, pursuing representation from another agent who may be more aptly suited to represent your work..."
The statements, despite rejecting, say an important thing about relationships. It is that, although it didn't work with one particular person, it doesn't mean YOU are not a good and lovable individual. It just means that you weren't right for that person and that you should not give up on looking for that one person who is your perfect match. You have wonderful traits that can, and will, be perfect for someone. Just be patient and DON'T GIVE UP!
I think I’ve heard a quote like that before… but I guess with how I am now I’m not sure if I understand it very well. :B Being happy for someone else probably means that the happiness you hold is for them is internal, though, I don’t know if that requires to be happy about your own self as well?
At least I know what you mean about friends and family helping you get your mind out of a bad situation so you can recover and move on!
Oof. That sounds tougher than anything my naiveté’s brought! After making so much progress with someone, having to take a step back, or a complete halt with them is definitely discouraging and hard to recover from. ): I’d hope it’s nothing your friend will have to go through again, though I’m glad it sounds like they’re doing better now. (:
Even if rejection letters aren’t fun to come by, I think it’s amazing that you can pull such a great message form them. :3 I think it’s great that they say all that too! You shouldn’t be discouraged, and you should keep trying to do what it is you want to do. :3 It just wasn’t meant to be with that publisher… or that person. I hope that’s something we can both have faith in… there are too many publisherpeople fish in the sea for us to call it quits or lose faith!
…Though, I don’t know if I’m really driven to find a romantic partner, I definitely wasn’t trying to any of these times, it just happens. Though, regardless as to whether or not it’s my intention, I’ll still believe in this. :3
Hehe, and you gotta believe in yourself for your situation too, okay? ;P I don’t wanna go into it alone! (:
At least I know what you mean about friends and family helping you get your mind out of a bad situation so you can recover and move on!
Oof. That sounds tougher than anything my naiveté’s brought! After making so much progress with someone, having to take a step back, or a complete halt with them is definitely discouraging and hard to recover from. ): I’d hope it’s nothing your friend will have to go through again, though I’m glad it sounds like they’re doing better now. (:
Even if rejection letters aren’t fun to come by, I think it’s amazing that you can pull such a great message form them. :3 I think it’s great that they say all that too! You shouldn’t be discouraged, and you should keep trying to do what it is you want to do. :3 It just wasn’t meant to be with that publisher… or that person. I hope that’s something we can both have faith in… there are too many publisherpeople fish in the sea for us to call it quits or lose faith!
…Though, I don’t know if I’m really driven to find a romantic partner, I definitely wasn’t trying to any of these times, it just happens. Though, regardless as to whether or not it’s my intention, I’ll still believe in this. :3
Hehe, and you gotta believe in yourself for your situation too, okay? ;P I don’t wanna go into it alone! (:
The best thing is, at least from what I can tell from all the friends you have around here, you will NEVER be alone in handling life's ups-and-downs. It's unbelievable how powerful multiple perspectives can be in regard to a particular situation in life.
For example, I feel really down when I get rejection letters and nobody calls me about a job. So, as it is during the day, I'll first opt to do some writing to get my mind off it. Then, if it lingers, I'll talk to my wife and, if possible, my mom and friends who are entrenched in my situation. Each of their thoughts and/or opinions serving as a new puzzle piece to replace the broken ones that fell off during my moment of weakness.
On another note, in absence of friends and/or family, I have found flipping about my past work, or imagining future works, to be quite soothing. Knowing you had a solid past and a positive future helps A LOT in getting over a sad moment that may rear its ugly head in the present.
In the end, though, the most important thing is for YOU to be happy. You DON'T have to be happy for someone else in order to feel this way either. The secret, for me anyway, is finding what I call "Your Center." Knowing what it is about YOU that makes you special. The one thing that sets you apart and makes you glad to be yourself every day.
For example, again, my life is FAR from what I would want it to be right now. However, despite my hatred toward my vision and my inability to provide for my family, I "KNOW" I am capable of overcoming and succeeding. My sister asked me last night what I'd do if my book got rejected by all 15 agents. I told her, "I'll finish another book, and another book, and another book until I succeed at either getting published or getting a job." Situations can burn, but you need to always realize how YOU are more than what that particular, emotional moment is trying to say about you.
Stay strong, Oxnard! You have an amazing talent that is bound to lead into an amazing career after college. If, in the meantime, love does come your way, seize it. Though, should it not, be certain that, if love is what you seek, the right one WILL come along in the same way mine did. That is when you least expect it. :)
For example, I feel really down when I get rejection letters and nobody calls me about a job. So, as it is during the day, I'll first opt to do some writing to get my mind off it. Then, if it lingers, I'll talk to my wife and, if possible, my mom and friends who are entrenched in my situation. Each of their thoughts and/or opinions serving as a new puzzle piece to replace the broken ones that fell off during my moment of weakness.
On another note, in absence of friends and/or family, I have found flipping about my past work, or imagining future works, to be quite soothing. Knowing you had a solid past and a positive future helps A LOT in getting over a sad moment that may rear its ugly head in the present.
In the end, though, the most important thing is for YOU to be happy. You DON'T have to be happy for someone else in order to feel this way either. The secret, for me anyway, is finding what I call "Your Center." Knowing what it is about YOU that makes you special. The one thing that sets you apart and makes you glad to be yourself every day.
For example, again, my life is FAR from what I would want it to be right now. However, despite my hatred toward my vision and my inability to provide for my family, I "KNOW" I am capable of overcoming and succeeding. My sister asked me last night what I'd do if my book got rejected by all 15 agents. I told her, "I'll finish another book, and another book, and another book until I succeed at either getting published or getting a job." Situations can burn, but you need to always realize how YOU are more than what that particular, emotional moment is trying to say about you.
Stay strong, Oxnard! You have an amazing talent that is bound to lead into an amazing career after college. If, in the meantime, love does come your way, seize it. Though, should it not, be certain that, if love is what you seek, the right one WILL come along in the same way mine did. That is when you least expect it. :)
Yeah. (: Even if sometimes it might be hard to find the right person to hear you out, there are still lots of people out there that would want to be there for you. And sometimes maybe you’ll even be lead to opening up to a whole new person. :3
And art’s a fun distraction too! I think that’s why I usually end up creating or fixing up pieces when I feel around my lowest… even if talking about it with someone helps, expressing your feelings in another form that you can complete and finish seems to really help out.
I definitely know what you mean by “finding your center” too. As much as I do get down about myself, I think I have a good hold on that. (: So even if my fingers slip from it from time to time, I always know it’s there, even in doubt.
You’ve got the right spirit about it! :3 Even if a situation might not go your way, you can still try again, make improvements, and see if you can reach your goal with another attempt. It definitely seems like you have a hold on your center, and won’t let the bad things stop you from your goal! (: Even if it’s tough!
Hehe, it’s definitely when you don’t expect it! We’ll see how things go from here!
And art’s a fun distraction too! I think that’s why I usually end up creating or fixing up pieces when I feel around my lowest… even if talking about it with someone helps, expressing your feelings in another form that you can complete and finish seems to really help out.
I definitely know what you mean by “finding your center” too. As much as I do get down about myself, I think I have a good hold on that. (: So even if my fingers slip from it from time to time, I always know it’s there, even in doubt.
You’ve got the right spirit about it! :3 Even if a situation might not go your way, you can still try again, make improvements, and see if you can reach your goal with another attempt. It definitely seems like you have a hold on your center, and won’t let the bad things stop you from your goal! (: Even if it’s tough!
Hehe, it’s definitely when you don’t expect it! We’ll see how things go from here!
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