
tl;dr - First Impression Tips
There was a point here when I've noticed a string of posts saying how its hard to meet new people. Or make new friends.
This isn't about that! 8D
-gets shot-
Okay I can't give you help with making friends. Making new friends. Its very hard for me too. Sure I can fake it online, but that's just because lying online is very easy. XD I'm sure I can say "Oh yeah I love semen breathing dragons too!" I'm kidding ofcourse, I don't lie to that extent. XD Really the only thing I can say is to be nice and don't expect too much. This post really is more on how to make good first impressions. In person, atleast.
Tip #1: Presentation. As much as we wanna be all gooey and tell ourselves that its what's on the inside that matters, physical appearance DOES matter! It plays a big part in meeting someone, obviously. And you're gonna want to look presentable on your first few meets. I don't wanna go into full detail on how you should dress up, I'm such a primadonna with trendy clothes, but here's atleast a list I have for closet essentials:
For tops: A good white shirt, round neck because V's are bleh, if its graphic I suggest to keep it subtle/ Red and black flannel or brown and black flannel button down/ a denim jacket doesn't hurt / white or black polo shirt that is to be buttoned up all the way.
Bottoms: fit sweatpants are comfy / black skinny jeans, as much as people hate 'em, they are a good choice to those who can pull 'em off/ slim fit denim jeans, not acid wash, ew/ khaki shorts if that's you're thing
Shoes: Chuck Taylor converses are always safe, a black or white pair is very very safe / substitute that for Vans if you wish / if you're planning on colored shoes, get a pair that would match well with what's already in your wardrobe / if the laid back look isn't your thing, boat shoes can class it up. (Shoes are always the first thing people notice more in your outfit.) Don't live by the "I don't care how I look" lifestyle, its not something people would applaud if you're wearing flip flops. Sure I have a foot fetish but I do not want to see that when I'm not in the mood. Unless you're blessed with cute feet, sure. Otherwise, no lol
Hairstyles? I won't bore you with it, that deserves another lenghty post but as a fashion blogger, not here in FA lol
Tip #2: Small talk. Iunno, everyone hates them, its unbearable, but I like the challenge. Teachers hate the task of placing me in a different seat in class because no matter where I sit, I end up talking to someone about a thing they like. This won't be effective to a lot of people, but this is what I do: Start small, ask what college they're in, and show them that you're interested to know more. With luck, they'll tell you where they're from, what they did there, ask them if their course is hard/tell them if you knew anything about that area and ask them if questions (personally, like "do you hate that teachers worked you to the ground?" / "so its true what they say, teachers give students a hard time there?") All while talking, imagine how you're gonna control this conversation. Hopefully you'll get them to talk about their student body for example, that's when you can maybe start sharing. Talk about the student body in your school, don't oversell but don't make them look bad, just share a story that would apply to her story. Her student body was horrible, start with saying "Ours did this [thing, blah blah blah, yadi yadi yada]. Did the students in your school did something like that?"
Once they're talking, you start to think about what your next topic would be next. If that's too tough, transition to something else. "So on your off days, or times when you're not doing schoolwork, what do you do?" Apply the same technique: Be interested, listen to them, collect keywords in your head and start thinking up of what to ask/say next. Maybe they mentioned a hobby you share, or have never done before but have heard of and interested in. Ask questions. Make them feel like they're interested. No one likes small talk, but the least you could do is make it comfortable for the other person. Hopefully they'll do the same for you.
Oh, and this is just something I do, but when something awkward happens, I call out on it. Like, accidentally spilling coffee on yourself? Laugh and say "Heh, well that was fun." Wipe it off sheepishly, try to think of a way to turn the situation around. Make a joke, or tell them a story of how clumsy you really are. End it with "But hey, that just makes me this close to being more of a YouTube sensation than you, ha!" See if they'll laugh or share a story too.
Or is this way too high school fanfiction? Lmao
Tip #3: Or, well, tip 2.1, topics to talk about.
Not much to say here, but school is one big buttload of topics you could think about. Talk about history, or talk about current events. Talk about a book you've read as a book report before, if they also read it, ask them questions on it. "How did you feel when [this person] died because of [this reason]?"
Again, make them feel like they have an interesting say on the matter. Educational and trivial facts pay off more than you know. And if that doesn't work, talk about the latest chick flick and bash/fan over it. XD
Tip #4: Don't be a punk ass bitch, lmao. Not a good title, but I'm going with it! When you've sat in that coffee place for far too long, and your order is conveniently in a to-go cup, ask them if they wanna go to a different location. Not too far, don't make them feel like they're being kidnapped. Find something across the street, hopefully its a pastry place you know and would recommend for another time-killing hangout. (okay now I'm convinced this is from a fan fiction.) Bottomline: be firm. When you ask them "what do you wanna do/where do you wanna go?" and on the chance that they say "I dunno, whatever you say goes." Don't say "I'll go wherever you wanna go." DON'T BE A PUNK ASS BITCH, and suggest to do something. Rather than go back and forth with "Idk, where do u wanna go, lels" right?
"Hey do you like cheesecake? There's this great store just on the other side of the mall." While walking, it helps to talk about your surroundings. If you passed by a store that sells Crocs, ask them "If I gave you 5$, would you wear those all day?" Say it as a joke ofcourse, because Crocs are social suicide. (SHOES ARE THE FIRST THING PEOPLE NOTICE ABOUT YOUR OUTFIT)
Tip #5: Be nice. Be funny. Don't be eager, don't show much of yourself when its too early. Make yourself a mystery that is begging to be explored, but don't be edgy. No one likes depressed people. Be happy. If you /must/ tell them about how your mom ruins your life on the first meeting, (Which you shouldn't. Do not scare people off.) Mask it as a joke, and try to go back on their say on the matter. If they actually do love their mom, make them go on about it. As well as other stuff they like. Make them feel like its okay to talk about the stuff they love. It doesn't hurt to smile when they talk about it too, it just makes them a lot more comfortable.
After the first two or three meetings, that's when it gets fun and you can talk about other things you like and or hate. Stuff about cliche elements in horror movies that are corny, the way people use annoying slang like "lit" or "fam", in the span of three weeks upon first seeing each other maybe a new viral YouTube (or facebook, lets be real) animal video is spreading the nation and you can talk about it, maybe you both like video games and have debatable stances on the new video game everyone's talking about.
All in all, be yourself. But if you're a horrible person, not too much. XDD
This doesn't help, sorry for wasting your time, this was a literal tl;dr post lol
This isn't about that! 8D
-gets shot-
Okay I can't give you help with making friends. Making new friends. Its very hard for me too. Sure I can fake it online, but that's just because lying online is very easy. XD I'm sure I can say "Oh yeah I love semen breathing dragons too!" I'm kidding ofcourse, I don't lie to that extent. XD Really the only thing I can say is to be nice and don't expect too much. This post really is more on how to make good first impressions. In person, atleast.
Tip #1: Presentation. As much as we wanna be all gooey and tell ourselves that its what's on the inside that matters, physical appearance DOES matter! It plays a big part in meeting someone, obviously. And you're gonna want to look presentable on your first few meets. I don't wanna go into full detail on how you should dress up, I'm such a primadonna with trendy clothes, but here's atleast a list I have for closet essentials:
For tops: A good white shirt, round neck because V's are bleh, if its graphic I suggest to keep it subtle/ Red and black flannel or brown and black flannel button down/ a denim jacket doesn't hurt / white or black polo shirt that is to be buttoned up all the way.
Bottoms: fit sweatpants are comfy / black skinny jeans, as much as people hate 'em, they are a good choice to those who can pull 'em off/ slim fit denim jeans, not acid wash, ew/ khaki shorts if that's you're thing
Shoes: Chuck Taylor converses are always safe, a black or white pair is very very safe / substitute that for Vans if you wish / if you're planning on colored shoes, get a pair that would match well with what's already in your wardrobe / if the laid back look isn't your thing, boat shoes can class it up. (Shoes are always the first thing people notice more in your outfit.) Don't live by the "I don't care how I look" lifestyle, its not something people would applaud if you're wearing flip flops. Sure I have a foot fetish but I do not want to see that when I'm not in the mood. Unless you're blessed with cute feet, sure. Otherwise, no lol
Hairstyles? I won't bore you with it, that deserves another lenghty post but as a fashion blogger, not here in FA lol
Tip #2: Small talk. Iunno, everyone hates them, its unbearable, but I like the challenge. Teachers hate the task of placing me in a different seat in class because no matter where I sit, I end up talking to someone about a thing they like. This won't be effective to a lot of people, but this is what I do: Start small, ask what college they're in, and show them that you're interested to know more. With luck, they'll tell you where they're from, what they did there, ask them if their course is hard/tell them if you knew anything about that area and ask them if questions (personally, like "do you hate that teachers worked you to the ground?" / "so its true what they say, teachers give students a hard time there?") All while talking, imagine how you're gonna control this conversation. Hopefully you'll get them to talk about their student body for example, that's when you can maybe start sharing. Talk about the student body in your school, don't oversell but don't make them look bad, just share a story that would apply to her story. Her student body was horrible, start with saying "Ours did this [thing, blah blah blah, yadi yadi yada]. Did the students in your school did something like that?"
Once they're talking, you start to think about what your next topic would be next. If that's too tough, transition to something else. "So on your off days, or times when you're not doing schoolwork, what do you do?" Apply the same technique: Be interested, listen to them, collect keywords in your head and start thinking up of what to ask/say next. Maybe they mentioned a hobby you share, or have never done before but have heard of and interested in. Ask questions. Make them feel like they're interested. No one likes small talk, but the least you could do is make it comfortable for the other person. Hopefully they'll do the same for you.
Oh, and this is just something I do, but when something awkward happens, I call out on it. Like, accidentally spilling coffee on yourself? Laugh and say "Heh, well that was fun." Wipe it off sheepishly, try to think of a way to turn the situation around. Make a joke, or tell them a story of how clumsy you really are. End it with "But hey, that just makes me this close to being more of a YouTube sensation than you, ha!" See if they'll laugh or share a story too.
Or is this way too high school fanfiction? Lmao
Tip #3: Or, well, tip 2.1, topics to talk about.
Not much to say here, but school is one big buttload of topics you could think about. Talk about history, or talk about current events. Talk about a book you've read as a book report before, if they also read it, ask them questions on it. "How did you feel when [this person] died because of [this reason]?"
Again, make them feel like they have an interesting say on the matter. Educational and trivial facts pay off more than you know. And if that doesn't work, talk about the latest chick flick and bash/fan over it. XD
Tip #4: Don't be a punk ass bitch, lmao. Not a good title, but I'm going with it! When you've sat in that coffee place for far too long, and your order is conveniently in a to-go cup, ask them if they wanna go to a different location. Not too far, don't make them feel like they're being kidnapped. Find something across the street, hopefully its a pastry place you know and would recommend for another time-killing hangout. (okay now I'm convinced this is from a fan fiction.) Bottomline: be firm. When you ask them "what do you wanna do/where do you wanna go?" and on the chance that they say "I dunno, whatever you say goes." Don't say "I'll go wherever you wanna go." DON'T BE A PUNK ASS BITCH, and suggest to do something. Rather than go back and forth with "Idk, where do u wanna go, lels" right?
"Hey do you like cheesecake? There's this great store just on the other side of the mall." While walking, it helps to talk about your surroundings. If you passed by a store that sells Crocs, ask them "If I gave you 5$, would you wear those all day?" Say it as a joke ofcourse, because Crocs are social suicide. (SHOES ARE THE FIRST THING PEOPLE NOTICE ABOUT YOUR OUTFIT)
Tip #5: Be nice. Be funny. Don't be eager, don't show much of yourself when its too early. Make yourself a mystery that is begging to be explored, but don't be edgy. No one likes depressed people. Be happy. If you /must/ tell them about how your mom ruins your life on the first meeting, (Which you shouldn't. Do not scare people off.) Mask it as a joke, and try to go back on their say on the matter. If they actually do love their mom, make them go on about it. As well as other stuff they like. Make them feel like its okay to talk about the stuff they love. It doesn't hurt to smile when they talk about it too, it just makes them a lot more comfortable.
After the first two or three meetings, that's when it gets fun and you can talk about other things you like and or hate. Stuff about cliche elements in horror movies that are corny, the way people use annoying slang like "lit" or "fam", in the span of three weeks upon first seeing each other maybe a new viral YouTube (or facebook, lets be real) animal video is spreading the nation and you can talk about it, maybe you both like video games and have debatable stances on the new video game everyone's talking about.
All in all, be yourself. But if you're a horrible person, not too much. XDD
This doesn't help, sorry for wasting your time, this was a literal tl;dr post lol
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