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5% of the time I feel like being feminine.
The other 95% I want to be as far from it as possible.
The other 95% I want to be as far from it as possible.
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Whatever makes you happy, that there is still a part of you that sometimes enjoys being feminine does not reduce or invalidate the majority of time where you feel more masculine. There's nothing wrong with feeling confused either. It only requires time and permitting yourself to ask and answer the questions you may have about yourself, and perhaps some outside input as well, to help reach a more clear perspective on one's self.
I don't mean to make any assertions about you or who you are or how you identify, and I'm absolutely not a qualified counsellor so take everything I say with a grain or indeed a handful of salt, but this sooorta sounds like gender dysphoria typical of people who are considered transgender. Having said that, it's not like that's the only answer, it could just be that you prefer to feel masculine but still identify as female, I don't know, it's not my place to say. Or, I'm probably completely wrong, but it may be worth asking these questions anyway if only to clarify your own feelings more.
I don't mean to make any assertions about you or who you are or how you identify, and I'm absolutely not a qualified counsellor so take everything I say with a grain or indeed a handful of salt, but this sooorta sounds like gender dysphoria typical of people who are considered transgender. Having said that, it's not like that's the only answer, it could just be that you prefer to feel masculine but still identify as female, I don't know, it's not my place to say. Or, I'm probably completely wrong, but it may be worth asking these questions anyway if only to clarify your own feelings more.
Well, I'm pretty uncomfortable with a majority of feminine things. Dresses, skirts, jewelry, makeup....
Aaaaand that's part of what lead me to discovering that I was trans, therefore, actually a dude. :Y
But, my favorite color is still purple, and I still like sparkly, pretty, cute things. You can like "feminine" things but not be feminine yourself. There's nothing wrong with that.
Aaaaand that's part of what lead me to discovering that I was trans, therefore, actually a dude. :Y
But, my favorite color is still purple, and I still like sparkly, pretty, cute things. You can like "feminine" things but not be feminine yourself. There's nothing wrong with that.
*sighs*
Don't know what to say to be reassuring.
How about Pirate Eevee! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/19358719/
Don't know what to say to be reassuring.
How about Pirate Eevee! http://www.furaffinity.net/view/19358719/
I feel the other way round. I just keep a lot in touch with ur art, vent art, journals etc. and have to admit: ur gender, role or whatever doenst define who u are. If u feel the way u feel its okay and nothing wrong with it. If u feel confused its okay also if u feel another day the 5% of ur femine part. *hugs*
5% of the time "male"
The other 95% I want to be as far from it as possible.
5% of the time "male"
The other 95% I want to be as far from it as possible.
I can relate to you, I feel similar but the other way around.
It's difficult to deal with, specially when it's not widely accepted that you act upon those feelings.
All I can say is fuck society and do whatever, hopefully people will change their mindsets to be more accepting over the course of the years.
You drew something great here, your character reflects your message very well! Love your art, Tartii!
It's difficult to deal with, specially when it's not widely accepted that you act upon those feelings.
All I can say is fuck society and do whatever, hopefully people will change their mindsets to be more accepting over the course of the years.
You drew something great here, your character reflects your message very well! Love your art, Tartii!
You know I never understood the gender thing. I'm a male that didn't care if I was playing with Barbie or Easy Bake Ovens and I didn't care if my friend who's a girl was playing with Legos or Monster Trucks. Myself and someone special to me both have the one day we feel like a girl the next a boy, and for me, I told her, who cares, gender is just a label, be yourself, you want to dress in a skirt as a male go ahead, you want to cut your hair super short as a girl, go ahead, and who cares what you have down below, they're just reproduction organs, they don't define who you are. Be yourself and never change just because of the norm of society. :)
Do what makes you comfortable. Don't worry about if the path you choose to take conforms to a particular preconceived identity.
Binding can be a comforting though impermanent treatment, though it does come with its health risks if done in excess. A mastectomy will of course provide a permanent change. Testosterone injections will significantly alter your body and perception, should you so choose. If you decide you'd like to make these bigger changes to your body, search around for transgender supporting doctors that practice 'informed consent' models of treatment.
If you decide these permanent changes aren't for you, then that's okay too! It's all about doing what makes you comfortable in your body, even if it's as simple as binding your chest as desired.
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For the longest time, I romanticized the concept of being a 'femboy' and strongly held to my identity as an effeminate presenting male. I never had any sensation of feeling that I was a woman, though I certainly did not feel very masculine. I nonetheless eventually made the decision to begin hormone treatments to feminize my body, and I don't regret it at all. They've altered my perception in a very positive way, and are giving me a body that I much more appreciate.
I nonetheless don't have a concrete sense that I 'am' a woman. I know transgender women who have felt their whole lives that they are a woman trapped in a man's body, and they're great people- but their narrative is not my narrative. There are still masculine and boyish traits about me that I like and consider an integral part of myself.
For some time, I felt the need to change this, for fear that others wouldn't perceive me as a 'real' transgender individual. But with time, I've come to realize that pretending to be something I'm not would not make me happy. I've learned to love myself as I am- a person in-between traditional notions of gender.
What I'm getting at with all this rambling- it's perfectly okay to pursue mostly masculine self-expression and to occasionally dabble into your feminine side- you do you! There are people in this world who feel concretely masculine or feminine, but many people who do not. Trust your intuition on what you'll make you comfortable, and do that.
Binding can be a comforting though impermanent treatment, though it does come with its health risks if done in excess. A mastectomy will of course provide a permanent change. Testosterone injections will significantly alter your body and perception, should you so choose. If you decide you'd like to make these bigger changes to your body, search around for transgender supporting doctors that practice 'informed consent' models of treatment.
If you decide these permanent changes aren't for you, then that's okay too! It's all about doing what makes you comfortable in your body, even if it's as simple as binding your chest as desired.
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For the longest time, I romanticized the concept of being a 'femboy' and strongly held to my identity as an effeminate presenting male. I never had any sensation of feeling that I was a woman, though I certainly did not feel very masculine. I nonetheless eventually made the decision to begin hormone treatments to feminize my body, and I don't regret it at all. They've altered my perception in a very positive way, and are giving me a body that I much more appreciate.
I nonetheless don't have a concrete sense that I 'am' a woman. I know transgender women who have felt their whole lives that they are a woman trapped in a man's body, and they're great people- but their narrative is not my narrative. There are still masculine and boyish traits about me that I like and consider an integral part of myself.
For some time, I felt the need to change this, for fear that others wouldn't perceive me as a 'real' transgender individual. But with time, I've come to realize that pretending to be something I'm not would not make me happy. I've learned to love myself as I am- a person in-between traditional notions of gender.
What I'm getting at with all this rambling- it's perfectly okay to pursue mostly masculine self-expression and to occasionally dabble into your feminine side- you do you! There are people in this world who feel concretely masculine or feminine, but many people who do not. Trust your intuition on what you'll make you comfortable, and do that.
I wholeheartedly understand where this is coming from, having had similar feelings myself these past few years. Whatever you DO feel, know that you are you, and as long as that is a fact, being comfortable with yourself in all modes and methods is key.
Adding to this, I had no support with any of these feelings myself, and it was difficult to come to terms with alone. But I'm certain you have a very large amount of support at least here for whatever you decide makes you happy <3
Adding to this, I had no support with any of these feelings myself, and it was difficult to come to terms with alone. But I'm certain you have a very large amount of support at least here for whatever you decide makes you happy <3
So, genderfluid or genderqueer maybe?
I guess the question would be, how do you feel about your body as opposed to how you present yourself. Masculine and feminine, imho, is how you act and present yourself to the outside world. If you feel like you hate or dislike your body, as being female, maybe you have something more like gender disphoria (like transgender). If it's more like that you don't mind your body, but feel more masculine, it may be more like genderfluid. In any case, there's nothing wrong with being female but having a more masculine or boyish attitude or dress, much in the same way there is nothing wrong with a guy feeling effeminate or girly, no matter what our outdated society says. In those cases, it's just the way you act and present yourself and dress yourself, and shouldn't have a bearing on your biological sex.
I guess the question would be, how do you feel about your body as opposed to how you present yourself. Masculine and feminine, imho, is how you act and present yourself to the outside world. If you feel like you hate or dislike your body, as being female, maybe you have something more like gender disphoria (like transgender). If it's more like that you don't mind your body, but feel more masculine, it may be more like genderfluid. In any case, there's nothing wrong with being female but having a more masculine or boyish attitude or dress, much in the same way there is nothing wrong with a guy feeling effeminate or girly, no matter what our outdated society says. In those cases, it's just the way you act and present yourself and dress yourself, and shouldn't have a bearing on your biological sex.
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