Very nice

And very old!! Thank you, Sweetums!! *hugs*

I've been having a pretty bad day, so I feel the need to try very hard to still be nice and not drag everyone down

Aww, Sweetie, do you want to talk about it?

I'm just so angry. I'm bisexual, I'm in love with a guy, but he lives 4 states away from me, it hurts to be so far apart from him. I can't stand hearing the word faggot every single day, even though it's not directed at me (I still haven't come out yet). I really don't feel like I can deal with hearing shouts of "FAGGOT!" or "Suck any good dicks lately Julian?" for the remaining couple years of high school. Like so many people, I live in a very closed minded area, therefore I'm torn as to whether I should finally come out, or keep it a secret, because I'm pretty sure it would end up being a very bad idea. I also hate to see my boyfriend's situation. His parents are very devout Catholics, and would disown him if they found out we were together. There's just so much work piled on, so much crap, so much intolerance. I've had two friends threaten to commit suicide in the past month. I just can't stand it, I just can't take all of this pressure......It's too much for me, but I don't want to take the coward's way out either, I'm just at a loss for what to do.....

Hmm...Your problems are great, but I'm glad you aren't taking the "coward's way out", either. *hugs* Intolerance is everywhere, unfortunately. I get it for various reasons, some of my friends and family as well for assorted things, but my gay friends at least can be who they are here in New York City since it's pretty well accepted here. There are still MANY places in NYC that a gay man shouldn't walk and openly be as he is, but there are places where they can be as open as they wish without persecution. I know you may not be able to change the hearts and minds of others, but be patient and in time, you may be able to change your venue and move to a place where ignorance is replaced with acceptance. Just wait on that day and don't give up. Be safe and do what you need to do to keep yourself from harm, Sweetie.

Thank you so much. I just came out to my dad, and I'm about to to my mom very soon. I however am not going to come out at my high school

How did your father take it, Sweetie?

Here's what he said:

Thanks for being brave enough to be open with me. We're good.

I know you are off at SOR (School of Rock), and I am sorry I did not get back to you fast enough before you left. I hope that didn't make you worry. I am still at work and i had things I couldn't put off.

Don't be too concerned at this point about your sexuality - at your age confusion is the norm, curiosity is normal, and if it turns out you are right about what you want, then all well and good.

Until you become more confident about how you feel, it is probably best to be very careful who you share your personal feelings with - 16-17 year old kids are not known to be very tolerant.

When you become more confident and assured of how you feel, knowing what to do will come easier to you.

Another thing - there is a big difference between a cyber-relationship and a real one. Until you meet Aaron in person, it will be hard for you to be sure about how you really feel, and whether or not there is something there that's real for you.

Missouri is really far away as you know. I have some experience with long distance relationships, and I can tell you they are difficult to impossible to manage. You can't really have a genuine relationship with someone until you can hang out with them often, and in regular / low stress situations.

I have had some experience in cyber relationships too - and then gone on to meet in person, only to find out that either I was not attracted to them, or they were not atttracted to me. it's real disappointing, because the cyber realtionship can be so good - but I can tell you from experince that to find out if it's real, you need to meet them in person as soon as possible.

There is another concept you should be thinking about.

You really need to start meeting and spending time with local people.
people from this neighborhood - people from Conestoga, not D-Town.

Not that you should drop the D-town people as friends, but you need people you can see every day - to get out o f your room, to be among living breathing humans.


Check this out - you may find this interesting - and it is right here in Wayne PA..

http://www.myaonline.org/youth.php

Just a couple of other things you should know.

i will always love you absolutely no matter what.

I will always be proud of you absolutely no matter what

You do know that Lauren (my sister) is Bi (I think Dino [her boyfriend] is too) and you have two people there you could talk to who would undesrtand all this better than me. I never had a problem with Lauren's preferences and it won't be an issue for you and me either.

I can't advise you how to approach your mom - deciding when to come out is a big decision and there are others (like the group above) who might have better advice for you on that than me.

I am going to a meeting tonight from 8:00 to about 10:00 or 10:30, but if you are still up after that, you can call, or you can call tomorrow

Love ya tons,
Pops

Well, from what I can see, that is just wonderful! Your father has an undying love for you and he makes that perfectly clear. Though there are people in the world who wallow in ignorance, your father has shown that he is not one of those people...and that's so wonderful!

I'm glad. However I don't agree with him that it might not work with Aaron, I just asked Aaron about it. He is very certain he wants to be with me, I never want to leave him ever

Don't discount your father's wisdom, Sweetheart. He has the wisdom of experience and he wants to give you the benefit of that knowing. I hope that things work out, but remember your father's words *hugs*

I just hope that Aaron doesn't turn out to be just some older guy who's an internet predator. If that turned out to be the case, I would be a miserable piece of crap for years and years. I don't think I'd ever be able to get over it if that were true. I don't want to die, but I don't want the person I love unconditionally to be a lie either. I've been so wrong about so many things before, I don't want to be wrong about him.......

Sweetheart, take it from someone who has been in love and has had those feelings stomped on by different guys...you get over it. You do, really. Especially here in NYC, a lot of guys are just interested in me for my body and...that's not cool with me. Some guys are very smooth, though, they show interest and treat me wonderfully and after a while, their true selves show up and I just let them go and move on. Of course, there were guys that found their way into my heart, but for one reason or another, the 'effed up and I had to let them out of my life and my heart. It's not always easy, but, you DO get over it *hugs*

I hope so. All I really want out of life is a chance to do what I love, and share my happiness with someone who loves me

You will get that chance, Honey. Just be patient and don't rush it! *hugs*

Thanks *hugs*

Wow! I wish everyones' parents could be as accepting. That's a really sweet letter!

Also - HI from a fellow PA native... I also got involved in a long-distance relationship (to OK at the time)... and well, I'm married to him now, so take heart - things can work out! I hope that everything works out for you! :)

I'm sorry for intruding; I stopped to see Kitt's gorgeous rendition of Tyjer, and couldn't help noticing your story... *hugs* hang in there!

Thanks so much. That really did give me a lot of hope. I really appreciate it

*hugs* If you're here to offer good advice to a soul in need, there's absolutely nothing wrong with that! And thanks for the compliment!

Hang in there man.

Thanks.....I appreciate it

Wow what a beautiful picture...very powerful...yet humble smile he has...I love it.

Thank you!

He's cute :3 Love the green eyes, too!

Thankies!!

Awesome. Cool job. He looks like a fighter type dude. Am I right? Or.. really far off.XD

You know, he was a fighter, but you didn't get to see a whole lot of it, except when he was training his lover Hesta.

There was a big expanded story where he goes on to become a sort of sage, then sorcerer and use his magics to open a portal to another world and so on and so on and so, and those lion cubs that escaped the slaughter his father put on their family would have come back older, Man, I think about that story a lot and as usual, just have too many coals on my fire to get to it.

Oh yeah, I remember that.

Hey, that's my boy! I really need to someday do the expanded story I have for him.

Yup, it's your boy!

Whoah, he's cool! Feathers are a nice touch!

Thanks!

Haha, he's got hair like Blaze the Cat. X3 He's really cute though.

Blaze the Cat? I have no idea who that is! Still, thanks!

A Sonic character (and quite an awesome one at that). http://sonic.wikia.com/wiki/Blaze_the_Cat

Ahhhh...okidoki

That's an excellent piece of artwork! Very cute and handsome tiger.

Thank you!

aww cute =3 he looks dreamy xD

Thank you! The design is courtesy of the artist ^_^