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Life's A Chibi: Love Hate Relationship
There are times when you hate yourself. You look at yourself and you just can't stand the sight of your own reflection. Your self esteem is low and you find nothing good about yourself. You mentally and/or verbally scream at yourself for your flaws and what you believe. It gets to a point where you start to break down for hating yourself too much, for not loving who you are and not believing anything good about yourself. From those verbal attacks, you inflicted "wounds" upon yourself, wounds that only you can see.
After so much hatred and screaming at yourself for your "flaws", you slowly start to remember and see the good qualities in yourself, buried deep within that black hole of self doubt and self hatred. It takes time, but you remember the qualities about yourself that you feel good about. Many things that you shamed about yourself were either facts blown out of proportion or completely made up. Remember those good qualities about yourself, you start to heal the "wounds" you inflicted on yourself. You forgive yourself and soon, start to love yourself and remember your positive qualities.
People rage-vent to themselves, about themselves. When they feel unimportant, worthless, or their self-esteem is low, they pick out qualities about themselves that they either blown out of proportion or think that something small and negative outweighs something large and good. They blame themselves for being imperfect when no one really is. When the anger passes and the waves have settled, they slowly start to see that what they were yelling and screaming about themselves were false. You yourself start to apologize for your false accusations. You yourself start to forgive yourself and soon, start to love yourself again.
The one important person who can heal you from your own self doubts and self hatred is YOU. You know yours, your real self, who you are, what you believe is true and what you know is true. Your friends and family are there as well to back up your good self to remind you that you are who you are and you are perfect. If you find something that you don't like about yourself, take the harmless steps needed to heal yourself. If your good self is not enough to help you with the healing process, have your family, friends and love ones help you.
Love yourself because there is only one of you, and that makes you very important.
artwork © 2016 Alex Cockburn
After so much hatred and screaming at yourself for your "flaws", you slowly start to remember and see the good qualities in yourself, buried deep within that black hole of self doubt and self hatred. It takes time, but you remember the qualities about yourself that you feel good about. Many things that you shamed about yourself were either facts blown out of proportion or completely made up. Remember those good qualities about yourself, you start to heal the "wounds" you inflicted on yourself. You forgive yourself and soon, start to love yourself and remember your positive qualities.
People rage-vent to themselves, about themselves. When they feel unimportant, worthless, or their self-esteem is low, they pick out qualities about themselves that they either blown out of proportion or think that something small and negative outweighs something large and good. They blame themselves for being imperfect when no one really is. When the anger passes and the waves have settled, they slowly start to see that what they were yelling and screaming about themselves were false. You yourself start to apologize for your false accusations. You yourself start to forgive yourself and soon, start to love yourself again.
The one important person who can heal you from your own self doubts and self hatred is YOU. You know yours, your real self, who you are, what you believe is true and what you know is true. Your friends and family are there as well to back up your good self to remind you that you are who you are and you are perfect. If you find something that you don't like about yourself, take the harmless steps needed to heal yourself. If your good self is not enough to help you with the healing process, have your family, friends and love ones help you.
Love yourself because there is only one of you, and that makes you very important.
artwork © 2016 Alex Cockburn
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This makes me think and I tell friends that kind of helps sometimes. When the beast of the depression, self worthlessness,a nd the like ravages day after day. Eventually you collapse and fall into things like this. Don't blame yourself or give up. When something rides you 24/7 you'll eventually weaken and lose the battle, but don't give up the so called war. Pick up when you've had your rest, relax, and vented it. Pick up and go again. No shame, no blame. That seems the forgiveness that helps the healing.
i think this is a more blunt, direct view of how this self-hate system works... though sadly it's so seldom this apparent... in many cases it's MUCH more subtle... just hanging at the edge of your awareness, waiting for a chance to take potshots at your self-esteem in a moment of inner turmoil.
That said, this still gets the message across and drives it home with the Feels hammer.
That said, this still gets the message across and drives it home with the Feels hammer.
This might seem a bit weird, but when I ever feel that way I'm reminded of this song.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NXElkLT8L64
What can I say, it's basically the right message if you ever feel this way.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NXElkLT8L64
What can I say, it's basically the right message if you ever feel this way.
I'm not gonna lie, this has pretty much been every day of my life for the past... god, I stopped counting the years a while back -- it's gotten to the point that all I can really do anymore is learn to live with that darkness inside me, that self-loathing that never goes away no matter what I do. But... it does me some good to know other people have been where I am.
This hits very close to home, while being the older brother I always seemed to come into second compaired to my younger brother. It wasnt untill I graduated highschool and went to college that it changed but even then hes still beaten me, mainly first to get married is the big one hes gotten over me now since I moved out of my parents place. I also have alot of self identy issues stemming from the fact of having birth defects that cause low thyroid levels, a slight limp and soft tooth enamel which causes me to be fat, slow, and a dentists wet dream of income.....
Honestly can't recall ever feeling that way about my self. Somewhat dissatisfied with the way I am? Of course. We'd never improve if we never felt that. Flat out hating myself? Nope. That never gets you anywhere; you are who you are and if you don't accept that you'll just be miserable your whole life.
I've had to stop reading these comics - practically every one of them has hit me in the most negative way...
I just haven't experienced any of the positive aspects of these comics, and can't find anything about myself that lends to feeling better - I have Negative Talent (no talent + being exceptionally horrible at many things), my body and mind betray me at every opportunity and I can't even make any excuses because on the outside I seem a smart, physically capable person without anything hindering me from making progress!
There's absolutely nothing wrong with your comics - they're exceptionally well done, and hit home on many emotional topics in most people. I simply can't read them without breaking down over how lacking in positivity the >35 Years of my Life has had...
I just haven't experienced any of the positive aspects of these comics, and can't find anything about myself that lends to feeling better - I have Negative Talent (no talent + being exceptionally horrible at many things), my body and mind betray me at every opportunity and I can't even make any excuses because on the outside I seem a smart, physically capable person without anything hindering me from making progress!
There's absolutely nothing wrong with your comics - they're exceptionally well done, and hit home on many emotional topics in most people. I simply can't read them without breaking down over how lacking in positivity the >35 Years of my Life has had...
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