Free your self from the illusion of normality, don't confine your self love into any concept, but rather, let it expand. Although pearly gates are also just a concept, think about that they may exist inside you, symbolically. Lessons will repeat in your mind until you have learned to love your soul unconditionally. Whatever you express with your mind will become your reality, so if you feel like there may be more than your mind and you want to discover your being even more, be conscious to step out of your confining conditioning and use your mind to express things that make your soul grow.