Good Day, lovely proof that condoms are only 98% effective! I would offer you a hug but you're way over there and we probably don't know each other all that well, either way.

All the same- *claps* A recent event reminded me of quite a few pieces of very terrible and unhealthy relationship advice I've often seen floating around the information super-highway. Chances are, you've heard it before. Generally on some insufferably smug memetic, simple text, framing a stock image photo of people on the beach, hugging, a sunset nearby, maybe a dog and a jogger framed in the distance... some variation of one of these fines bits of farcical faff but the one in mind right now is something along the lines of "Steer clear of a partner who's possessive. That's baaaaaad. They shouldn't care about you doing whatever with whenever, whoever, whomever whadda-who-ha-hey..."

*ahem*

SHUT. THE FUCK. UP.

This is absolutely shit advice. Period. Well-intended but utterly lacking in nuance.

Having a partner whom is possessive of you is much akin to having a good stiff drink. Sure, if you have too much of it *head tilts* you're gonna have a bad time. However, just a bit of it- just the right amount? *claps her hands* That is fucking great! It adds to the overall experience in practically any situation and in-and-of-itself can be quite the experience, giving you tha good feels, as the kids say.

Jealousy, bitterness, hurtful spite and manipulative selfishness, yes- these things are a sock-full of diarrhea. However, When a partner is just a little possessive, and/or protective, it shows in no uncertain terms to the world, not just you, that they value you over others. You mean more to them than other people do. They are aware that they mean more to you than others do- and they're keen on standing up for that- your relationship- when they feel it has been threatened. They value you. They value their relationship with you.

Much as posted here- http://www.furaffinity.net/view/32395836/ The relationship between Sanita and I is between us, something special we share. What we are isn't one of those penny trays at the local gas station. It has great meaning to both of us.

When it comes to the people and the relationships in our lives which we genuinely care about, not just pay empty lip-service and greeting-card romantic rhetoric to, we have expectations. We would expect our friends to hold to certain behaviours, as we would our co-workers, our family, our children... the guy at the drive-thru window at Wendy's... generally our expectations become more specific as the relationships we share get closer to home *head tilts* Or at least to our genetic code. *snofts*

If your partner "doesn't care what you do"... I'm genuinely sorry. You said it yourself. Your partner "doesn't care"...

And very little said in a public forum in the last year has made me blush like a teenage debutante as the words "Don't fuck with my skunk, yo..." *blushes* See! ...told you.

Featuring and inspired by the unbelievably beautiful wellspring of my art and the guiding force of my passion, my Satanic partner-in-life,  Sanita_Squirrel

Don't listen to the memetic faffery of the bitter and ill-thought, lovely watcher. A lover who values you will let the world know. *sets her chin* As will the one who doesn't, sadly. The things we genuinely value in our lives, truly, deeply, dearly value... we are NOT silent about. Respect yourself enough to find someone who'll fight for your love, dearest watcher. No Gods and No Masters. Ave Lucifer