i don't know thats a hard one

*nod* Quite. Painful too.

i do have a crush on her

That's a question that should never be asked, to be honest with you. Should it matter why somebody thinks you are beautiful? If they do, you should be grateful for that love no matter what the reason.

I know he loves me, I simply question the honesty of various things. I have been observing many things for many years, and as such the question of the importance of physical appeal has made its self very pronounced to me. I promise, I have a good grasp on my psychology-- I merely use art as a tool to express how I feel, and I carry on furthering my understanding of my own situation as well as the world's, and I probably always will ;)

As a previous psychology major, I understand the psyche very well also. Everybody has an innate desire to be considered attractive, by at least one person and oftentimes by more. But one key point is that attraction is relative, and beauty varies from one individual's perception to the next. If your boyfriend/mate finds you that way, it is unnecessary to delve into why. That it simply IS should suffice.

That's what they say, but then I see how people treat other people, and similarities between those that are treated better and those who aren't, if that made any sense. I blame the media.

The media is the cause of a lot of bias on many matters, including attraction. I dislike media as well, but it is out of my power to control it. One must simply adapt to the circumstances. If you are not attractive by the media's standards, but somebody finds you attractive to theirs, consider it a blessing and embrace it, rather than picking it apart.

It has to do also with my understanding of the triune brain model when applied to the media.... Are you familiar with it?

The name sounds familiar, but I can't say I remember it. Do tell.

Basically, it explains the brain as w three-part system. The largest piece of this system is the reptilian brain, which controls 75% or so of the processing, and it's subconscious and thinks entirely in feeling and imagery. So it's the most primitive piece of us, but also the most prominent. So, think about the images we see on TV. It seems like almost every girl you see on TV is very skinny with a 5:3:6 shoulder-waist-hip ratio (it's the most appealing in polls). Because this image is so frequent in the media, which is a frequent "porthole" to the world, our mind has come to accept it as fact, causing the common low self esteem in girls and high standard of boys and men.

I'm sixteen years old, by the way... Sorry if my facts aren't completely straight. I'm still trying to figure out the world and what-have-you ^^'

Ah, I have in fact heard that theory before. The reptilian brain is very familiar to me. As for a 5:3:6 ratio, that's just sickening to me. :P I personally prefer pudgy/chubby girls, but that's personal opinion. That is why I raise the point that should you have somebody who appreciates you, you should not be bound to question it simply because they vary from the popular opinion.

well i think that being inperfect is beautiful i mean im short and over waight but i still think im beautiful ^^
id love to be tall and skinny or fit but i think im still beautiful and i think everybody is there own beautiful

u can be pretty like them or pretty like me or pretty liek the model
but you CAN be pretty like you and nobody but you can be ^^
and if he tells oyu yor beutiful becuase he loves you would u rather him say to you "your ugly and i lvoe you" ? i mean if he loves you beucaseu r beautiful its the truth hehe

I understand what you're saying, really, but I've come to think that in the grand scheme of things it's not true. I did another piece on the subject as of recent, and I'll put that up as soon as I can XD It should further demonstrate my feelings on this issue. I know he loves me for who I am and he thinks I'm gorgeous, even though I really don't think I am. So yeah.... I have to wonder, what if I was what I wanted to be? What then? There's a lot you guys don't know about, too, but that's really personal.... ^^' Sorry! But thanks so much for the kind thoughts <333

If he loves you, then he loves no matter what you look like

He does, and I know it doesn't. But it has to do with my observances for the past... Well, my whole life, really. It's complicated ^^'