You're too awesome for words, Nishi.

Stop reading my mind. .n.

AAaah Nishi.... I see that you're having the blues (meaning you have sad thought)... I rarelly see you like that... What going on little Hamster... you can note me if you want or else *Hug*

Aw, I'm not really sad, just really confused. X3 But thank you! (:

Well you know what to do if you want to speak about it... You can send me a note or chat (just tell me when) This is what friends are there for....

Thoughts are disorganized almost by nature, it seems. Either that, or we have a lot in common mentally. ;P

I'd rather say we have stuff in common! Even if you can organize your thoughts, I'd think it's too easy to ramble about some completely other thing. X3

Truth!

...That last part just confuses me more! 8D Or at least everything after "but"

Oh right right right

I really enjoy it when you share you thoughts! It helps me realize I am normal because when you keep these kinda thoughts to yourself you feel like you are the only one having a hard time grasping what to think! Thanks for sharing!!

I'm glad he makes these into images and not journals! :3

Haha, well if you can make a journal into art, or something more easy-accessible, you can share your thoughts with more people :3

Think constructively! But do try to find things to take up some of your time, idle periods really do bring out thousands of thoughts.

As for relationships... you got to figure out which type would be the most fitting for yourself, then the next step is finding that right somebody!

It's a big and long learning process, but you dont wanna go into something you wont like :(

Yeah. (: I think most the relationships I've been in were when I was younger and I knew it was a bad idea but I did it anyway. I'll be sure the first one I'm in with a guy isn't like that. (:

I know how you feel too, I don't actually understand relationships either.
Friendship is a odd road I'm taking but its worth wild to travel.
I like wherever your attraction emotions came from and if its grief, I can help you with that problem your sobbing.
Yes even I know I can be too helpful, and know others find it too annoying but that's how my parents raise me, I never got to break free from laws or chase the ice cream truck as a kid. I never got to do any of the fun stuff.

I like friendships. :D Nice and simple. Even if I don't wind up with someone, as long as I have pals I'm happy.

Yeah its close to what I want is friends. I can be more than friends but I rather be close as pals instead.

*facecling* Is there really such a thing as an organized thought? A mind bounces from one idea to another so often, that once you are finished piecing some things together, you forget why you were thinking about it. Then you go on another hour backtracking. :p

Those are some really deep thoughts on the topic of couples and relationships.

If I might, I have always found the best relationships to forge themselves from friendships. That said, if someone has caught your attention, I'd advise just being yourself and approching the individual as if they had potential to just be another one of your good friends.

Over time, you two will get to know the deeper nuances of one another while meeting each other's groups of friends. This should help allow you to naturally see if a relationship is possible if, during this time, you can see this person being someone you'd proudly call "Your Best Friend."

Likely, if you have been able to reach Best Friend status, you should be able to start getting more intimately close in ways you both find enjoyable to share in each other's company. After all, you would've gotten the time to know and understand each other and, because of this, much of this will feel natural.

Truth be told, at least from my experience, the best relationships really are those that are "natural." It doesn't matter what your friends and their friends are doing. What really matters is what makes you and that special someone feel good in one another's company. So long as you both are happy, trust one another, and have open communications, you're perfect. :)

This is why I sometimes wish I didn't comment after Yosheo. But yeah, I agree with everything he said/ Feelings are felt, actions are chosen. :)

It's definitely best to start as friends!
However, two of the relationships I remember having that lasted a bit were with girls I hardly knew at the beginning. X3 I just dated them because they wanted to date me, so I'm sure I wouldn't wanna make that mistake again. :3

I think if I end up with someone when I'm way older, I'd definitely want them to be my best friend too. (: Though, the few times I wanted to say someone was my best friend they all backed away from it. X3 So even though I think going from best friends to something more is great and special and probably the best way for things to happen, I dunno if it will for me. X3 But we'll see! Everyone's different. :3

But you're definitely right, things should just sorta naturally happen. how you are with someone shouldn't have to really change much just because of what you call each other, it's about what you are to each other and how you feel. (: I'm still in the phase where I'd be all weirded out calling someone my boyfriend or thinking like that name made me belong to someone. D: Sooo I think I have to make some thinking-adjustments so that I'll be mature enough for that situation one day. (:

You bring up a couple of really interesting points. The first of which is dating a girl because they wanted to date you. That actually happened to me. And, although it was nice to feel like I was in a relationship, it was awkward to get tele-dumped three months later over something I didn't do. In hindsight, though, it never did feel right and there really wasn't much we related on or had in common.

As for maturity, I don't believe any of us are truly "mature" enough for a relationship. This is because good ones typically are based on mutual friendship, respect, and trust. All of which are governed largely by your feelings towards each other. A relationship is likely to fail unless both parties are able to implicitly trust, respect, and care for each other equally.

You are an amazing fellow who deserves much happiness. That said, I hope you take heart in knowing that you need not worry about changing yourself much, if at all, to be involved in a quality relationship. The best ones often involve two people who love each other for just the way they are. There are compromises, of course, but the greatest joy is knowing you can be yourself around that special person without feeling stifled or that it's work to do so.

As for maturity, I don't believe any of us are truly "mature" enough for a relationship. This is because good ones typically are based on mutual friendship, respect, and trust.

Yes, exactly. This is pretty much why I ended up getting divorced. Love without mutual respect is meaningless.

dating a girl because they wanted to date you. That actually happened to me. And, although it was nice to feel like I was in a relationship, it was awkward to get tele-dumped three months later over something I didn't do.
Similar thing happened to me too. After that, I shifted my interest to guys.

Bagh, waking up and reading this was all like "Uuuuugh can't type this all". So in general, agreeing with quite a bit of this, also still perplexed about the same thing, and yeah. Pretty cool way to present it though.

Haha too many different things to say it all. X3 thanks though!

I spend way too much time thinking about this stuff. I haven't really gotten anywhere myself.

Maybe this is why people enjoy not thinking things out!

Try that and thinking nobody could ever love you back except fat smelly freaks because... whatever. And you can't complain because people are fighting over a grain of rice in africa so you should be grateful for what you have, and you can't ask for help because everyone assume you're an emo wreck just seeking attention.

I feel you, man.

Aw gee, you and me, haha

I wish I could say something that'd help you feel less confused, but I don't really know the answers to any of your conundrums myself. X3 Yosh-E-O has some great thoughts that might help resolve a lot of it, though!

I guess in general, all I can add is I've wondered about things like these too. In fact, a lot of people seem to feel the same way in the comments! But maybe that's part of the key. I think everyone's kinda confused about these things a lot of the time, so maybe you don't need to feel so much pressure to get them figured out yourself. You're not behind everyone else in terms of figuring things out (and in fact are much more thoughtful about them than most!), and people have successful relationships anyway! It's great that you think about it, and try to figure stuff out, but there's no reason you should have to stress about things, even though that might be easier said than done. X3 But try to remember that you'll do great in the end, like the rest of us know about you! :)

Haha, when you're stressing it's really hard not to stress. X3 Especially when you like someone and want to make things work and don't wanna mess up... but I think I'm calming down a bit. :3
I guess all these things are different. Some people will figure it out, others won't, some'll want it some won't... basic stuff. X3 But whatever happens I'm sure it'll all be fine.

The only thing you gotta worry about...

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is DAT ASS.

Oh no different relationships have different details depending upon the wants and needs of the different people that make up them.

UuU Baby

all you gotta do

is go with the flow

If it's meant to be

it'll be fine

if not

well then, something better will arrive. *SMOOCHINS*

I wanna do that but my mind is all stressed and over-thinking. ;O; Hopefully I can try to make that stop somehow. :B

Well, take me, for example

ºnº; Before I finally met Toroth IRL, I had been seriously considering breaking up with him

Thought to myself, well hey. I'll get some sex and free food and something to do this week.

And then I met the guy, and suddenly I was crazy in love.

u_u; It literally -just happened.- And it feels wonderful.

Just calm down and don't worry about it. Like me, you're young. You've got time.

You can start worrying when you hit 30. LOL

I'll try to calm it down, it wouldn't be fun otherwise. :B
I'm sure I'd like this guy way more in person too, but I don't think I'll be meetin' with him, so I don't think I'm as lucky as you! 8D

u3u dahhling i have only seen him once and every moment not near him is pure agony

just roll with it

it is just

fine

Relationships scare the hell out of me. Just too complex and providing for too many opportunities to make someone feel sad. All that wrapped with the fact I get uncomfortable if I'm around someone (anyone) for too long, and I've decided to just avoid them altogether.

Well I think it's something you have to open your mind up to. It's easy to over think and be all confused or wind up unhappy, but I think people feel inclined to get close to someone. Though, compared to friendships and simple things, being a pair with someone else is so weird and confusing. X3

Getting close to people tends to clash with my lonerness :P

I'm all for friends, though. Much easier and more relaxed 8)

I can totally understand. X3 It's nice being on your own and having lots of space, rather than trying to make your life work around/with other people. X3 Way nicer!

If you restrict yourself to strict rules with relationships (i.e. limiting yourself to older men), you'll only be miserable. Why not just go with the guy you like right now? You may learn something and gain some courage and exp pts. 8D, if it doesn't work out then move on.

Well there was more than just "I only like them old" it had to do with maturity and me being naive and all... but I decided to look past that. Kinda like guys who only want hot chicks with big tits. I don't wanna be that shallow.

Rub some dirt on it. That'll help ya' man up. >:UU

But really, I feel like I'm in a similar boat as you. Relationships make you get into your head too much too often. When that happens, I completely keep myself from thinking at all, resorting to constant spontaneity until my head calms down.

Results vary.

haha. X3 Well there' so much to think about, it makes total sense that people get lost and confused.

If you are scared shitless and obsessing, it's love.
Why would you care so much if it wasn't?

BUT
When I was in love with this guy before I like knew I did and felt all warm and stuff
I kinda lack that with this guy, I just like him right now
But maybe it'll just be a while til it sinks in... but I guess obsessing and wanting him around and over-thinking and freaking out kinda is a sign 8D