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So, been a thing I’ve had on my mind for years, but only lately really started to find the words for it. Is not something big to really change things, but I need to get it off my chest.
Is no secret I’m Aromantic Asexual. Always been very open about that since coming out the first time. But was equally a long journey to really figure out what was up with the way I felt and functioned. And to find the words to explain it and a label to finally find peace with.
Gender is a weird thing, sometimes, tho.
I’ve always been open and fine about being cis female, how I’m born and how I lived my life, only correcting people for mistaking me for male with my habit of leaning into the androgynous side I have too.
And.. just wanna come out to everyone as I’ve come to terms with what best describe myself, after years of wondering. Because.. I don’t always feel female. It is a side of me, and one I feel close to.
But
Half of the time I don’t feel like a woman. But not male either.
It’s a work in progress to be fully out and open about it, but I’ve already explored going by she/they, and I’m currently researching chest binders and how to safely use them. Because I feel it’ll help me with those times I just don’t feel female. Where I’m neither.
As said this shouldn’t change things too much. You can all still just use she/her for me, and it’s become very natural online to go by they/them anyway when unsure about someone’s identity and gender. Not like I’ll start sharing selfies of my IRL face anyway either way, I’ll keep sticking to drawn avatars as always. Probably just mean I’ll get a bit better about sharing more feminine sides too, because I’ll admit I often purposely suppressed some of that to not getting... labelled too hard as pure woman, I guess? Hard to explain. Why I always called it the “forbidden Puffy” when drawing my sona in a dress.
Is just a process, and part of that process is to openly talk about it. I’m so lucky to have a lot of close friends I’ve come out to, only to be met with support and care. The boost helping me write this. I’m still figuring out the finer points, like am I genderqueer, non-binary or bigender? So many ways one can express themselves..
So, thank you for your time, for reading this. To let me get this off my chest, as I continue to explore and define who and what I am.
Is no secret I’m Aromantic Asexual. Always been very open about that since coming out the first time. But was equally a long journey to really figure out what was up with the way I felt and functioned. And to find the words to explain it and a label to finally find peace with.
Gender is a weird thing, sometimes, tho.
I’ve always been open and fine about being cis female, how I’m born and how I lived my life, only correcting people for mistaking me for male with my habit of leaning into the androgynous side I have too.
And.. just wanna come out to everyone as I’ve come to terms with what best describe myself, after years of wondering. Because.. I don’t always feel female. It is a side of me, and one I feel close to.
But
Half of the time I don’t feel like a woman. But not male either.
It’s a work in progress to be fully out and open about it, but I’ve already explored going by she/they, and I’m currently researching chest binders and how to safely use them. Because I feel it’ll help me with those times I just don’t feel female. Where I’m neither.
As said this shouldn’t change things too much. You can all still just use she/her for me, and it’s become very natural online to go by they/them anyway when unsure about someone’s identity and gender. Not like I’ll start sharing selfies of my IRL face anyway either way, I’ll keep sticking to drawn avatars as always. Probably just mean I’ll get a bit better about sharing more feminine sides too, because I’ll admit I often purposely suppressed some of that to not getting... labelled too hard as pure woman, I guess? Hard to explain. Why I always called it the “forbidden Puffy” when drawing my sona in a dress.
Is just a process, and part of that process is to openly talk about it. I’m so lucky to have a lot of close friends I’ve come out to, only to be met with support and care. The boost helping me write this. I’m still figuring out the finer points, like am I genderqueer, non-binary or bigender? So many ways one can express themselves..
So, thank you for your time, for reading this. To let me get this off my chest, as I continue to explore and define who and what I am.
Category Artwork (Traditional) / All
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Yeah, the Internet itself as concept makes gender a fluid spectrum as you can't know by someone's screen name or icon what they are, after all.
Gender identities can be rather complicated. Why it's been a slow process for so many years for me to really start figure out what's up with my own gender.
Gender identities can be rather complicated. Why it's been a slow process for so many years for me to really start figure out what's up with my own gender.
Less than 3!!!
Its easy posting here than being limited to characters on Twitter. I have always looked at people less being about a label and instead, being their "own thing" (like David S. Pumpkins - https://youtu.be/tML85kQfy0c)
So you continue on being you, because we wouldn't want it any other way! Puffy is Best Puffy, and shall always be (even if it is the Forbidden Puffy)
Its easy posting here than being limited to characters on Twitter. I have always looked at people less being about a label and instead, being their "own thing" (like David S. Pumpkins - https://youtu.be/tML85kQfy0c)
So you continue on being you, because we wouldn't want it any other way! Puffy is Best Puffy, and shall always be (even if it is the Forbidden Puffy)
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